How to get your ex back
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 22, 2010 - 7:00 am
Be honest…
As the holidays approach are you:
- Thinking about going back to your ex?
- Considering forgiving past betrayals, past lies, past deceits, past disappointments, past cheating, because you are afraid of being single and alone?
Don’t do it!
Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you will be alone forever.
Don’t be fooled into thinking you have to accept less than you deserve from someone in your past because your future relationship hasn’t showed up yet. When someone lies or betrays you, they are showing you a lack of character and also a lack of love and respect for you.
So rather than forgive them and continue moving into a relationship with them, take a step back and ask yourself what you truly deserve.
You don’t have to make it work with somebody because you have a history together.
You also don’t have to make it work with somebody because they were the love of your life.
Sometimes relationships end. Give yourself permission to walk away and move on. You can heal your heart by the holidays but you must stop going backwards. You must stop reconnecting to your ex. Instead, you must do something different to get a different result.
Starting today!
For more tips on how to get over your ex and move on by the new year, enroll in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
You can also pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
Tis the Season to…Pamper Yourself!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 21, 2010 - 7:00 am
In the past, did you put a lot of time, energy, emotion, and money into loving, nurturing, and helping your ex feel better about himself?
And he’s gone, are you feeling direction-less?
Now’s the time to pour all of that great energy into yourself.
This holiday season, you have a conscious choice to make.
You can either focus on who’s missing and who you’re not buying presents for…
Or you can take that energy and splurge on yourself!
Maybe you’ll splurge on a spa day.
Maybe you’ll take the money you were going to spend on your ex and put it in the bank, save it, and put it towards buying your first property in 2010.
Now’s the time to treat yourself with excellent self love and self care throughout the holiday season.
Take time this holiday season to step back, love yourself, honor yourself, and pamper yourself.
For more tips on how to celebrate being single and ready to mingle this holiday season and into 2011, enroll in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
You can also pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
How to handle the post-breakup game of 20 questions
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 14, 2010 - 7:33 am
After a breakup, you may find yourself inundated with questions, concerns, and issues from friends, family, and in-laws including:
“What went wrong?”
“Why did you leave?”
“Can’t you work it out?”
Instead of feeling the need to explain yourself, put healthy boundaries in place. Honor what’s best for YOU. Don’t worry about how others are handling the breakup. This is your chance to heal and move on. Don’t buy into guilt trips or 20 questions.
And when necessary, give yourself permission to say, “It’s really none of your business.”
For more tips on how to heal your heart in record time, check out all my FREE breakup rx tips on my blog.
You can also pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
No annoying in-laws this holiday season? Woohoo!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 13, 2010 - 7:00 am
Being single during the upcoming holiday season is full of challenges. Maybe you’re frustrated you didn’t meet Mr. Right in 2010. Maybe you’re feeling sorry for yourself that you’re minus a Plus One at all the upcoming holiday parties you’re going to. And maybe you feel lost when it comes to how to meet your husband.
Before you spend the holiday season feeling sorry for yourself, listen up. Over the next few weeks, I’ll share some of the many ways you’ll want to celebrate your single status this holiday season.
Celebration #1: No In-Laws
Take a look back at your relationship history. If you had difficult in-laws, relatives of your ex who weren’t very nice, or maybe even friends of your ex that used to pick on you or degrade you, now’s the time to give thanks that they’re gone.
Now’s the time to surround yourself with people you actually like.
And if you don’t like your own family, give yourself permission not to spend the holidays with them. Find a family that works for you. If you have friends, see if you can hitch a ride with them to their family celebration.
Not having to spend time with in-laws you’re not fond of this holiday is a great thing to celebrate! Choose the friends and family you surround yourself with this holiday season. Make new traditions that are fun, celebratory, and fabulous!
Report your successes and setbacks to me on my Facebook Fan Page.
For more tips on how to celebrate being single and ready to mingle this holiday season and into 2011, enroll in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
You can also pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
Tis the Season to Celebrate the Love IN Your Life!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 11, 2010 - 8:33 am
If you’re going through a breakup or struggling to heal your heart this time of year, you know how challenging that can be…
You walk through a store and see and all the holiday wrapping and decorations everywhere.
You start worrying that you won’t heal your heart by the holidays.
You start obsessing about your ex, what went wrong, and where he is now.
You also start to feel lonely, isolated, and lacking in the love department.
Don’t go there!
Instead of focusing on what’s missing, a.k.a your ex, I want you to put your focus on the love IN your life, i.e. your friends, family, and furry friends. Anyone in your environment who supports and nurtures you deserves to be celebrated.
The key to surviving and thriving after a breakup during the holiday season is to recreate your support system. Celebrate love that is still here. And slowly but surely let go of your ex.
When in doubt, pick up a copy of It’s a Breakup, Not a Breakdown Workbook: A 21-Day Action Plan to Plot Your Revenge, Spoil Yourself, and Find Out How Good Your Life Is Without Him and immerse yourself in your very own 21 day recovery program.
And report your successes and setbacks to me on my Facebook Fan Page.
Ready to move on and become a man magnet in 2011? Enroll in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
What if Mr. Right got away?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 9, 2010 - 7:00 am
Worried that Mr. Right got away?
Convinced there is no upside to your breakup?
Think I’m full of crap when I say breaking up was the right thing to do?
That’s okay.
While you may not see it yet, there IS an upside to any breakup. Maybe it’s too soon to see yours. Maybe you don’t want to believe it yet.
The sooner you break free from your belief that true love will never again be yours, the sooner you can heal your heart and move on. You may have to trust me on this one. 
Share your thoughts on this topic here on the blog or on my Facebook Fan Page.
For help letting go of Mr. Wrong and making room for Mr. Right, pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
Suddenly Single: To rebound or not to rebound?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 8, 2010 - 7:00 am
Considering a post-breakup rebound? Before you break out the new lingerie, consider the consequences.
Rebounding can be confusing, stressful, and downright sad. It can also send you running back to your ex.
Then again, it can make you feel sexy and desired, which may help you heal.
If you decide to rock your recovery with a rebound, proceed with caution, keeping your mind open to ALL possible outcomes, including the pitfalls.
For tips on how to celebrate being single and ready to mingle this holiday season and into 2011, enroll in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
You can also pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
“Help! How do I date and have sex after 40?”
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 6, 2010 - 7:00 am
Are you new to the dating scene in your 40s and 50s? Do you feel like you have no clue how to meet men, date, and handle sex with someone new?
You’re not alone. But you do need to wise up quickly.
Here’s how:
- Trust your gut and intuition
- Don’t jump into sex before you know if your partner is being monogamous
- Be willing to have those tough conversations before getting intimate
- Protect your health at all costs (always practice safe sex!)
Embarking on new dating adventures can be scary at first, but they can also be fabulous! When in doubt, enlist the help of your Woohoo Crew. And share your success and questions here on the blog.
For more tips on how to celebrate being single and ready to mingle this holiday season and into 2011, enroll in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
You can also pick up one of my 3 books, depending on where you are on the journey way from Mr. Wrong and towards Mr. Right:
It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good!
If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right
Day 30: Celebrate YOUR success!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on June 30, 2010 - 6:00 am
Woohoo! Welcome to Day 30 in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge!
What was your favorite part of the challenge? What did you find most challenging?
Did you gain new dating skills, like how to flirt, how to talk to men, and how to be a man magnet in target rich environments.
What kind of results did you experience?
I can’t WAIT to here how you did during the challenge.
Even if you only implemented a few of the tips, celebrate your success. Treat yourself to a mani-pedi. A glass of wine. A relaxing massage. And keep rocking these tips moving forward.
And be sure to share your Woohoo!s here on the blog.
Day 29: Do you know the difference between Mr. Next and Mr. Right?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on June 29, 2010 - 6:00 am
With just two days left in my 30 Day Get Out There Challenge, let’s review what you’ve been learning…
You’ve broken free from your belief that all men are JERKS.
You’ve unlocked the secrets of staying sexy, stylish, AND single over 40.
You’ve even learned how to date like a grownup.
Next, it’s time to understand the subtle differences between Mr. Next and Mr. Right. That way, when he shows up, you can recognize the difference.
Mr. Next is any guy you date who’s got potential. You can date Mr. Next as long as you want until you realize that he’s not a suitable match for you and your long-term goals and relationship requirements. Once you recognize that he’s not the guy for you, let him go. That way, you cut down on wasted dating time for both of you.
Mr. Right on the other hand is an elusive but oh so worth the wait guy who meets all of your relationship requirements, is emotionally available for commitment, and shares similar values and long-term goals. It takes time to find Mr. Right, and that’s fantastic! Not just anybody can be your perfect partner. Choose wisely.
For more on the sometimes subtle differences between Mr. Next and Mr.Rright, pick up my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is? What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right.
And be sure to share your Woohoo!s here on the blog.
For more tips like this, check out http://lisasteadman.com/category/30-day-challenge/
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