Reinventing Happily Ever After
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 10, 2010 - 9:00 am
In his best selling book Think & Grow Rich, author Napoleon Hill writes about how countless entrepreneurs unknowingly stop 3 feet before the vein of gold. Translation: If these ambitious individuals had just kept going a moment longer, tried one more time after experiencing rejection and failure, they would have discovered wealth and abundance beyond their wildest dreams.
In my coaching practice, I have found the same concept to be true for women who believe their chances of meeting Mr. Right are O-V-E-R. After going through a painful breakup or divorce, and finding themselves single at an age they never expect, so many smart, savvy, successful women give up hope of ever finding love again. Convinced their happily ever after is now in the past, they simply accept life as the token single in their social circle, resign themselves to spending Saturday nights alone, and surrender to the idea that all the good men are taken – or out chasing twentysomething bimbos. What these women don’t realize is that they’re stopping just 3 feet short of their vein of gold. Yes, life as they once knew it is dead and gone. But what comes next is far more interesting.
It’s time to reinvent what happily ever after looks like. And while it no longer includes your ex, it can include a handsome, successful, loving man (if that’s what you want). It can also include single gal adventures, including traveling solo, spending time with girlfriends, reinventing your career, redecorating your home, and/or awakening to a new passion.
Now is your time to live out loud, and to reinvent Y-O-U on your terms. Yes, starting over is hard. But now that you’re free to put yourself first for a change, what will you do with your fabulous life? Take a painting class in Paris? Learn the tango in Argentina? Take up sky diving (strapped to a handsome instructor, of course!)?
While plenty of mourning time is necessary to let go of the life that’s no longer available, this is also the time to celebrate the vast unknown, and to reclaim yourself, maybe for the first time in years! So go ahead, give yourself permission to dream B-I-G! After all, this is your reinvention. Why not make the most of it?
Need help reinventing Y-O-U? Post a comment on the blog. And pick up a copy of my ebook Bad Love No More!
Single Again, Now What?: How to pick up the pieces and start over after Mr. Wrong is gone
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 25, 2010 - 9:34 am
After a breakup or divorce, starting over can be hard. Starting over when you’re the only single person you know can be even harder. You may start questioning your value, grow increasingly insecure, and/or obsess about if and when you’ll find your perfect partner. However, instead of stressing about being the only single in your social circle, celebrate it! The following tips will show you how.
Tip #1: Be your own arm candy
When you’re the only one single in your social circle, it’s all too easy to get down on yourself. Everyone else seems so happily hooked up that, especially when you’re going through a dating dry spell, you can start to feel isolated, alienated, and/or insecure. Sound familiar? If so, stop. Instead of dreading going solo to your next social outing while everyone else has a date, give yourself permission to be your own arm candy. Buy yourself a fab new outfit, slip into those sky high stilettos (or sexy sandals, bold boots, etc.), channel your inner diva, and make a confident entrance your friends will not soon forget. Not only that, but turn on the charm, practice a little harmless flirting, and in general be your most fabulous self. By letting go of any fears and/or insecurities you hold about being the only single person in the group, you allow yourself to enjoy the fun and freedom that goes along with being footloose and fancy free.
Tip #2: Celebrate being single
While it can sometimes feel like being single is a life sentence you’re forced to endure, it’s simply not true. In fact, being single is nothing more than a state of mind. So while you’re in the single stage of life, why not celebrate? Enjoy the freedom to come and go as you please, take pleasure in the endless dating possibilities by putting yourself in target rich environments on a regular basis, and give yourself permission to flirt with cute strangers as often as possible. By making the most of this extraordinary time in your life, you take the pressure off of when you’re going to find your perfect partner, and instead celebrate Y-O-U and the amazing life you already have.
Tip #3: Enlist your friends for help
Instead of looking at your circle of happily hooked up friends as a liability, consider them an asset. After all, your friends’ boyfriends and husbands probably know a single guy or two worth meeting. Why not enlist their help by asking about their single friends? If they seem uncomfortable, let them know that they don’t have to play Cupid. All you’re asking them to do is invite these friends to your next social gathering so that you can get to know one another in a casual group setting. No pressure. If your friends still seem unwilling to help, they may need to be reminded that being single has its challenges and if the tables were turned, you’d gladly help them. Chances are, they’ll be more than happy to lend a hand.
Tip #4: Widen your social circle
If you feel that being the only savvy single in your social circle is keeping you from meeting potential partners and/or in any way makes you feel bad about yourself, it may be time to widen your social network. Start by taking a look around your current network. There may be other fun and fab singles under your nose that you just haven’t noticed before. Maybe a friendly coworker, neighbor, or friend of a friend. If so, great! Invite them to do something social just the two of you in the near future. If it goes well, continue nurturing that relationship, and join forces to “get out there,” enjoying target rich environments on a regular basis together.
If on the other hand, you don’t know any other singles in your existing social network, do yourself a favor and widen your circle further. Look into singles groups, joined a networking organization, and/or take a class/pursue a passion where you’re likely to meet like-minded singles (not to mention potential dates). Stumped for ideas? Do something fun like enroll in a salsa/swing/line dancing class, take a gourmet cooking course, or participate in a foreign language conversation group. This is a great way to meet new people while doing something you enjoy anyway. Talk about a win-win!
There will be times when being the only single person in your social circle will feel incredibly stifling. But just as it’s important to enjoy this stage in life and broaden your network of friends, it’s equally important to practice patience. Being single isn’t something to suffer endlessly through. Instead, with a slight attitude adjustment, you can easily fall in love with your footloose and fancy free life. In doing so, you take the pressure off, and celebrate Y-O-U for the amazing individual that you are.
To truly celebrate your savvy single self, you may need to break free of some limiting beliefs and past blocks about life and love. My ebook Bad Love No More! Walks you step by step through the process of reclaiming your life. Get your copy today!
Have questions or comments? Post them on the blog or email ask@lisasteadman.com.
Are Bad Love Habits Keeping You Single?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 23, 2010 - 12:10 pm
In the search for love, it’s all too easy to get sidetracked by bad dates, broken hearts, and bad love habits. And while bad dates and broken hearts are part of the journey toward happily ever after, bad love habits can and should be avoided at all costs.
So what’s a bad love habit? Any dysfunctional, destructive, difficult belief or habit you have towards love and relationships that’s keeping you from finding, attracting, and/or maintaining a healthy relationship. The following are some common bad love habits:
* Do you choose potential partners who are incapable of meeting your emotional needs?
* Do you think love have to be difficult, painful, and/or hard?
* Do you think your potential partner is going to fix whatever it is that you don’t like about yourself or your life?
* Do you believe time is running out on your search for love and/or your chance to have children?
If any of the above sound familiar, don’t worry. You’re not a lost cause. In fact, with a little time and effort, you can turn things around! What follows are five simple and effective tips and techniques geared towards helping you break free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits. Practiced over time, you can and will kick any bad love habit — for good!
Identify the dating traps you’re stuck in
Think you’ve got to miraculously solve all your problems before you’ll be deserving of love? Convinced there are no good men left? Or do you believe that Mr. Right will one day swoop in and magically save you from your life? If any or all of the above sound familiar, chances are good that you suffer from some common dating traps. In order to become a successful single, you first need to free yourself from these traps. Acknowledging the traps you’re stuck in is the first step. Next, you’ve got to break free of these traps, as well as any other limiting or destructive beliefs that are keeping you stuck.
Assess your excess baggage
It’s important to get really honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates (or in life in general). What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, NOT your present or future. If you’ve got negative or destructive beliefs or fears weighing you down, you owe it to yourself to dump that excess baggage – and move on!
Dump your excess baggage
In order to manifest Mr. Right and the happily ever after future you deserve, you first need to believe you deserve to be happy. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they’ve got to go. Thank them for the lessons you’ve learned and tell them that it’s now time for you to stand on your own two feet. In your mind’s eye, give them the heave ho! Next, start visualizing the kind of life you want to have, complete with your dream job, perfect partner, ideal home, etc. By getting clear about what you want, you give yourself permission to attract it.
Stop putting off your life and/or personal happiness
So many of us put off personal happiness waiting for some external result like “I’ll be happy when I lose weight, when I pay off my debts, when I get a better job,” etc. The truth is, you deserve to enjoy your fabulously imperfect life right this very minute! When you stop putting off happiness, you start attracting happy people, healthy relationships, exciting and new opportunities. Instead of postponing joy until your life is magically perfect, today’s the day to start celebrating the joy in your everyday life.
Embrace a new dating vocabulary
Now that you’re baggage light and dating trap-free, it’s time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself “Love/dating/my ideal relationship is …” and then fill in the blank with the appropriate words. (Words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc.) By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes, and as a result, you’ll start attracting happier and healthier potential partners. Love that!
Want to know more about the bad love habits that may be keeping you stuck? Check out my e-book Bad Love No More: How to kick limiting relationship beliefs to the curb and say yes to real and lasting love!, available now at http://www.badlovenomore.com/
Ready to manifest Mr. Right? Pick up a copy of my new book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right.
Valentine’s Day Tips for Singles
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 14, 2010 - 11:07 am
For many singles, February 14th instills fear, dread, and the pressure to find someone, anyone, to partner up with. But this Valentine’s Day, why not give thanks for the ones who got away? The following are some do’s and don’ts for getting through the Valentine’s Day blues:
Do: Give thanks for the ones who got away
Today, give thanks for the ones who are no longer here. With Mr. Wrong long gone, you now have a clear shot at finding Mr. Right! Even if you have yet to meet Mr. Right, in letting go of those old relationships you have given yourself permission to be your most fabulous self. And in doing so, you’re bound to meet someone who’s better suited for you. Woohoo!
Don’t: Feel sorry for yourself if you don’t have an S.O.
Pity parties are SO last year. This is the year of you, fabulous you! If you happen to be single, celebrate. Remember – even though it may sometimes feel like it, being single is not terminal. It’s terrific! But it’s up to you to make the most of it. And you do that by being your most authentic and amazing self. And being open to the endless possibilities.
Do: Celebrate the love in your life
Whether it’s romantic love, true friendships, that unshakable bond between you and your pets, or the love you have for your family, this Valentine’s Day it’s important to take a look around and realize just how lucky you are. Maybe Mr. hasn’t found you yet. But you know what? You are loved. When you celebrate that, it shows. (And you never know who might be watching and falling for you!)
Don’t: Buy generic candy or flowers
You don’t have to have a significant other to celebrate on February 14th. But you do need to use your imagination. Instead of recruiting your girlfriends to pay for an overpriced standard menu at a fancy restaurant or sending each other generic candy or flowers, get creative! Invite your gal pals over for a potluck and cocktails. Or go out for a night of disco bowling! Or if you feel like being alone, rent a favorite non-romantic movie and watch it in your pajamas while eating your fave takeout. Have fun!
Do: Flirt with strangers
Just like every other day of the year, flirting is a must! You never know what can happen. An innocent flirtation can boost your ego, brighten your day, and/or possibly turn into a coffee date that may lead to a budding romance. Come on – take a chance!
Don’t: Spend your night online
You have 364 other perfectly acceptable days and nights to find a date or chat with other savvy singles online. On Valentine’s Day, take the night off. Trust that if there’s somebody out there in cyberspace for you, they’ll be there on February 15th. And 16th. And so on.
Do: Give to charity
Instead of buying meaningless gifts for friends or loved ones this Valentine’s Day, why not give the gift of charity? Find a cause close to your heart. Doing something good for others will take the focus off of the Hallmark holiday and boost your single spirit for sure!
Don’t: Put too much stock in one day
And one last tip. Remember that Valentine’s Day is but once a year. It does not define who you are. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’ll never find love or have a successful relationship (it only takes one!). Today more than ever, it’s important to maintain perspective.
What are your Valentine’s Day plans? Share them here on the blog!
And join my FREE Valentine’s Day call/Ustream event where I’ll share more ideas about how to celebrate your single self on February 14th and all year long!
What’s YOUR Woohoo Within?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 28, 2010 - 7:15 am
A few weeks ago, I was speaking at a women’s group, sharing what I do , and something just fell out of my mouth.
“I help women discover The Woohoo Within.“
There was a collective gasp in the room, and I noticed the look of sheer joy that came over so many women’s faces.
I’d never actually described what I do this way, but more and more, I’m discovering that it’s no accident my company is called Woohoo, Inc.
And it’s no accident that my clients not only break free of past dating drama and disappointment when they work with me, but they also awaken to their own brilliant intuition, launch businesses, and change EVERY area of their lives that aren’t working.
While I’d never had a name for this extraordinary coaching result, that night, I gave birth to my 2010 vision for ALL my coaching clients.
Together, we’re discovering and celebrating The Woohoo Within.
LOVE THAT!
I’d actually love to know about YOUR Woohoo Within. But more on that later.
First, I want to thank YOU for my recent Woohoo!
Last week’s book launch was AMAZING!
Thanks to all of you who bought If He’s Not The One, Who Is? What went wrong and what it takes to find Mr. Right, got those INCREDIBLE bonuses worth over $2,500, and joined my FREE Ask Lisa Call on Thursday. I appreciate your participation TREMENDOUSLY! I couldn’t have done it without you.
If you missed my FREE call on Thursday with datingwithdignity.com’s Marni Battista, here’s the replay:
http://datingwithdignity.com/dl/asklisasteadman/marni-battista-dating-with-dignity-ask-lisa-steadman-teleseminar-011410.html
On the call, I answered YOUR questions about letting go of Mr. Wrong, creating a new vision of love, and how to manifest Mr. Right.
And…I wrote a big fat check for Haiti relief tonight, based on how many books were bought during my launch. I LOVE giving back and making a difference, so that felt AMAZING!
Over the weekend, the Woohoo! continued with my official book launch party in Los Angeles. Over 60 incredible guests made the trek to Tantra Sunset, a deliciously swanky Indian restaurant in my bohemian Silverlake neighborhood. My fellow love experts Cherry Norris, The Hollywood Dating Director and Keri Newell of CantDateWithoutit.com were there. So was www.single-woman.tv’s Kim Kuhteubl, Sierra Sullivan of The Ray Magazine, and my video producer Robyn Carter. PLUS, my wonderful friends, clients, Facebook fans, and more!
You can check out photos from the AMAZING event on my Facebook Fan page here:
http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=141832&id=119207712806
So what’s YOUR Woohoo Within?
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU!
Specifically, I want to know:
1. What are your goals for 2010?
2. How are you making space for change, growth, transformation?
3. How are you letting go of old stories and rewriting them?
I can’t wait to hear from you.
Here’s to your Woohoo Within!
NYC Event: How to Live, Love, and Flirt with Heart
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 26, 2010 - 7:15 am
Imagine for a moment that it’s six months from today, and you’ve met the most wonderful man in the whole world. You have finally met your match, your life partner, your soul mate. When your eyes meet there’s a “yes!” that tells you this is the one you’ve been waiting for. You feel a deep connection, a strong attraction, and are ready to open your heart.
Is this what you want to create in your life? Is this what you have been waiting for?
If so, you’ve come to the right place!
I’m THRILLED to announce that I’m joining forces with Lois Barth and Robyn Vogel in an experiential workshop on February 3. We’ll send you home with the power tools you need to manifest the relationship of your dreams.
Join other women, like you, who intend to have the best year of their lives in 2010.
Here are the event details:
Wednesday, February 3 @ 6:30pm
Address:
520 8th Ave (between 36/37th St.) 10th floor, #10A
Details of the event include:
Session I -Flirting 101 – How to Charm Your Way to Love and Relationship with Robyn Vogel
We all know her – the woman that walks into a room, breezes across the dance floor, effortlessly attracting everyone’s attention. She may not even be the prettiest or the smartest woman in the crowd. What’s her secret? She’s an excellent flirt with the right attitude and the ability to make others feel good. This part of the workshop, you teach you:
1. What flirting is (and isn’t!)
2. How to have the right attitude – The Flirting Attitude
3. 3 most effective ways to flirt your way to connection
Robyn Vogel, MA, LMHC is a psychotherapist and an expert at flirting! She loves love and has been helping women fall in love with themselves and others for the past 19 years! The butterflies in the stomach at first attraction, the intense joy of mutual expression and the depth of human emotion – all fuel her passion to assist others in creating the relationships they desire. In 2009, Robyn launched a new phase of her Boston-based psychotherapy practice, Flirting With Heart. She is successful at helping others build confidence, become naturally flirtatious and attract the right person to them. More information can be found at www.RobynVogel.com.
Session II – Become a Successful, Smart, Single Woman: Overcome the 3 most common mistakes you can make! with Lois Barth
Lois’ portion of the evening will assist you in:
1. Unraveling the great mystery of “chemistry,” separating chaos from true connection
2. Clarifying your requirements, needs and wants are in a relationship VS. a partnership, and how that makes all the difference.
3. Creating a luscious life, so that you are better able to attract luscious life partnership into your life.
Lois Barth is an empowerment and relationship coach and speaker and owner of “Luscious Living with Lois, Coaching and Consulting Services.” In addition to having a private practice in coaching women (and a few good men) to create luscious lifestyles, livelihoods and life partnerships, she speaks to groups around the country on how to live powerfully and playfully, both personally and professionally. Being a poster gal for “Don’t give up 5 minutes before the relationship miracle,” she parlayed her disastrous dating and relationship history into her one woman show, “1001 Dates from Hell…And the Woman Who Lived Through Them,” which uses dating and relationships as an arena for laughter, learning and healing. The very same process she went through intuitively, paralleled the process she later got trained in as a certified relationship coach, which has supported countless women as well as herself, to move from loony lessons in love to luscious life partnerships. She was the life coach, creator, and source expert for two makeover campaigns for SELF and FITNESS magazine as well as being a source expert for ALL YOU Magazine, MSN.com, WomansDay.com, and many relationship sites. She heads up the relationship department for Female Think, an on-line learning community for women.
Session III - If He’s Not the One, Who Is? with Lisa Steadman
If you knew Mr. Right was out there, and he was doing everything possible to meet you, wouldn’t you do everything possible to meet him FASTER? If one of your New Year’s Resolutions was to find love (or at least go on a date this year!), then you must first ask yourself these three important questions:
1. What or who from your past is keeping you from calling in the love you deserve?
2. Deep down, do you BELIEVE you deserve the kind of juicy, blissful love you desire?
3. Do you know the difference between dating disappointment and heartbreak?
With Lisa’s expert guidance, you’ll experience her 3 step process that will help you release the past and step into empowered action.
Lisa Steadman is an internationally acclaimed relationship journalist, relationship coach, best-selling author, sought-after speaker, and CEO of Woohoo, Inc. Women around the world have been able to heal the pain of past relationships and step into their brilliant futures with guidance from Lisa’s books, as well as the information she shares through her blog, YouTube Channel, newsletters, social media, and her many TV and radio appearances, which include The Today Show, The Tyra Banks Show, Playboy Radio, and New Zealand’s Good Morning. She has also contributed relationship advice to eHarmony.com, Yahoo!Dating.com, iVillage.com, Tango.com, the Huffington Post, and missmatchmaker.net.
Hurry – space is filling up FAST! If you’re in New York, I want to meet you. To secure your spot — AND BRING A FRIEND FOR FREE — email me ASAP @ lisa@lisasteadman.com. I will then send you a Paypal link.
Meet me in the Caribean for the Life Makeover Cruise!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 25, 2010 - 7:15 am
OK, I admit it. I’m a weather wuss. That’s why I live in Southern California. Because the sun shines 90% of the time. The weather is beautiful. And I don’t have to negotiate snowy roads, layers of clothing, and the pipes freezing.
Having said that, Southern California’s been hit by a MASSIVE storm! My house is leaking. My parents’ house is leaking. And freeways are allegedly flooding.
So right about now, I’m dreaming of a warm breeze, the sun on my face, the ocean lapping against the shore, and a whole lotta fun…
And that’s EXACTLY what’s going to happen on the Life Makeover Cruise for Women that I’m a featured speaker on this spring! (April 18-25)
I’m going. The Hubs is going. My clients are going!
ARE YOU GOING?
If you’re like me, dreaming of warmer weather, a little R & R, AND the chance to discover The Woohoo Within that I talked abour earlier this week, then I want to meet YOU in the Caribbean!
Here’s the scoop. I’ll be giving daily workshops on topics like “The Woohoo Within,” “Bad Love No More,” and, of course, “How to Let go of Mr. Wrong and Find Mr. Right.”
My fellow lifestyle and love experts Kira Sabin and Robert Mack will be giving workshops, too.
And not just workshops. We’re offering private coaching, interactive exercises, cocktail parties, mixers, and more!
If you’ve ever thought you MIGHT want to work with me but can’t afford it, now’s your chance to spend 7 days sailing the Caribbean with me! All you have to pay for is the cruise and airfare.
My services on the ship are included!
Now, my 2010 Woohoo Crew clients have first dibs on my time outside of the workshops. But if you’re one of the first five women to book your cruise by Friday, I’ll gift you a private session on the ship. We can spend an hour together in the comfort of a deck chair overlooking the pool or in a more private setting. You decide!
So, if you’re fighting the winter weather blues, come join me this April in luxury, relaxation, and bliss!
Want more cruise deets? Here’s the skinny…
About Life Makeover Caribbean Cruise for Women
Would your life improve with a little makeover?
STI and The Dating Makeover Coach LLC are bringing you a fresh new experience, one that is going to help you stop waiting and start living and loving your life in a whole new fashion!! Create the life and relationship you want. Travel through the Caribbean on the gorgeous Celebrity Solstice and create a brand new you in the process, too. Unpack your baggage, dive deep into a happier, more loving, fulfilling life, and get a makeover all at once!
With the help of our celebrity experts, you will be a part of a slew of incredible workshops and interactive seminars that will help you discover who you are, make you who you want to be, and attract the kind of wonderful people you want to meet. You will leave inspired, refreshed, and, of course, tan!
Hurry! Book your cruise today!
See you in the Caribbean!
My 3 Part Teleseries starts Tuesday!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 22, 2010 - 7:15 am
I’m about to hop on a plane to San Francisco to attend an amazing weekend retreat with two incredible men, Dr. Kirk Prine and Donny Lobree.
These gentle men are true geniuses at helping individuals release old dysfunctional self stories and create beautiful new ones. I can’t WAIT to share what I learn this weekend with you next week!
Speaking of re-writing stories, I’m often asked how I met my husband.
My clients, friends, and people I meet online often approach me and want to know how I TRULY transformed from the broken down, disappointed, and hopeless woman I was after my Big Breakup six years ago to the empowered, enlightened, joy-filled woman I am today.
Specifically, they want to know what I did to manifest my husband!
And while sometimes I think these women would like to believe I have some complicated equation or that I’m just plain lucky, neither one is true.
And the truth is quite simple.
I met my husband after I connected to my Woohoo Within.
After months of self pity, negative self talk, and general Lisa bashing after my Big Breakup, I got fed up with, well, ME!
And once I decided to STOP the insanity, a.k.a. treating myself like garbage, telling myself I was a loser at love, and spiritually slaughtering myself, THINGS CHANGED.
They changed because I let go of my story.
I stepped out of the belief that I was hopeless when it came to relationships.
I let go of the idea that I was somehow too screwed up and unlovable for love.
And I released my belief that love was painful, hard, unfulfilling, and not worth the risk.
When I let go of all that, my WORLD changed.
I started liking myself.
I even started LOVING myself!
And I fell madly in love with my life.
It had nothing to do with a man. While I was dating a lot, I wasn’t defining my new self by what a man thought of me.
I was defining myself by what I thought of me!
What a refreshing change of pace!
Instead of believing that some man might think I was ugly, fat, unlovable, screwed up, or weird, I loved myself for being smart, funny, unconventional, creative, ambitous, and unique.
Once I started loving me for me, everyone around me did, too! Men flocked to me like crazy. (It was fun!)
All because I changed my story and celebrated the Woohoo Within.
And I’m not the only one loving myself and my life right now. One of my Woohoo Crew clients just emailed me HER Woohoo Within. Check it out…
“My personal Woohoo Within would have to be the new level of self awareness that I’ve developed. I believe I’m finally connecting with my real self, i.e., the observer of my thoughts. Previously, it was like this part of me, a very critical part of me, had been locked away for years while shy, insecure ME and my ragtag collection of limiting beliefs ran the show. I’ve been thinking about it and it’s like my sense of self preservation at a young age decided that this was how to protect myself from being hurt. I let fear rule. Well, I’m happy to say I feel like a completely different person. I love, respect and trust myself. I’m a pretty cool chick! People always told me how smart, funny, strong and even beautiful I am and I’m finally starting to believe it. My self confidence is starting to soar. It may sound a bit nutty, but that would have to be my Woohoo Within. Thank you, thank you!”
You’re welcome! 
And what a difference a few months makes!
When my client first signed up for my 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass in October, she wasn’t feeling so happy and healthy. In fact, she was pretty down on herself.
- She believed she was a failure at love.
- That time had run out on her chance to get love right.
- And that she may be doomed to end up miserable and alone.
She’s not feeling that way anymore!
And it’s because of the Woohoo Within.
Love that!
Now, I’ll be honest with you…
Had I met my husband any sooner, he wouldn’t have given me the time of day.
He would have seen the sad, lost, unhappy young woman I was and thought, No thanks!
But because we met when I was fully connected to my Woohoo Within, he saw the REAL ME. And he liked what he saw from the very first moment!
He liked me so much that he called me the day after we met to make our first official date.
He now says he wasn’t willing to risk losing me to someone else who might come along and discover my fabulous self.
I’m so glad he didn’t waste any time pursuing me. He’s my absolute gift and best friend!
The reason I share this story with you is simple.
You can learn all you want about where to meet men, what to say, and how to flirt. But if you don’t first make peace with yourself, embrace your Woohoo Within, and fall madly in love with Y-O-U, no healthy and happy man you meet will recognize your fabulousness, ask for your number, and call you the very next day.
It’s that simple.
So rather than waste any more time online dating while feeling kinda crappy, or saying yes to some guy because you’re afraid no one else will come along…
What if you FULLY embraced YOUR Woohoo Within?
Your first step is simple. <b>Sign up for my FREE 3 Part If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleseries, starting next Tuesday night.</b> We’ll spend the next 3 weeks learning how your past is holding you back, how your beliefs keep you stuck, and how to CATAPULT your self love in record time. Soon enough, you’ll be writing to me about YOUR Woohoo Within. And I can’t wait to hear it!
Sign up for my FREE 3 Part If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleseries NOW:
http://lisasteadman.com/if-hes-not-the-one-who-is-3-part-teleseries
Just Added: A BONUS Valentine’s Day call on February 14! That’s 4 calls with me for FREE!
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Have a wonderful weekend. Be sure to enjoy a little Woohoo!
My 24 hour If He’s Not The One, Who Is? campaign launches Thursday, January 14
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 12, 2010 - 1:17 pm
Woohoo!
My new book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right launches on Thursday, January 14.
For 24 hours ONLY, you can get over $1,500 in valuable FREE bonus materials when you buy my book on Amazon.com!
For just $15, you’ll get $1,500 in FREE audio programs, a bonus e-book, and 24 hour access to my EXCLUSIVE guest expert archive (including interviews with The Soul Mate Secret’s Arielle Ford, The Heart Whisperer™ Kara Oh, Prince Harming Syndrome author Karen Salmansohn, Tao of Dating author Dr. Alex Benzer, and more!) that only my private and teleclass clients have access to!
My book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right is chock full of valuable information that will help you:
1. Identify the differences between Mr. Wrong, Mr. Next, and Mr. Right
2. Let go of past dating drama and disappointment and welcome a healthier love future
3. Recognize how you sabotage your chances of getting love right and what to do differently in the future
4. The fairtytales and traps that are ruining your chances of experiencing real and lasting love
5. How to become a 24/7 man magnet
PLUS, when you purchase the book within my 24 hour campaign beginning @ 6am on Thursday, January 14, you’ll also get those incredible bonuses totaling over $1,500.
All for less than $15!
My book and the bonuses I’m offering for 24 hours only are the perfect way to kick start 2010 into the year of Y-O-U, a year where you experience more love, passion, and joy than you ever thought possible — all in one fabulous package for less than $15!*
This incredible package is only available for 24 hours (between 6am Pacific on Thursday, January 14 – 6am Pacific on Friday, January 15) so you’ll want to act fast, especially if you:
- Secretly fear that your chance of getting love right is in your past (it’s not!)
- Lie awake at night, worried that you don’t have the smarts, skills, or savvy to find a good man (SO not true!)
- Believe that real and lasting love is only for women less complicated or more successful than you (No way!)
For all the details, visit ifhesnottheonewhois.com. Follow the instructions on exactly how to call in Mr. Right and get all those bonuses just for buying my book during my 24 hour campaign beginning @ 6am on Thursday, January 14.
Good luck and happy manifesting!
Are you feeling hopeFUL or hopeLESS?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on December 31, 2009 - 12:00 am
Be honest — with 2010 here, are you feeling hopeFUL or hopeLESS?
Believe it or not, how you feel right this minute affects how 2010 will unfold for you.
It doesn’t even matter what happened in 2009.
- Maybe you lost your job.
- Maybe you lost your home.
- Maybe you lost Mr. Right.
- Maybe you lost all three.
And if so, it’s no wonder you’re feeling hopeLESS right now. What’s there to look forward to in the new year, right?
Without love, hope, or possibility, what’s the point?
Exactly!
That’s why it’s essential that you reconnect to hope, starting today.
What if — regardless of how much pain, disappointment, and loss you experienced this year — you could step into the awareness that everything you want, need, and desire can be yours in the coming year?
What if I told you that it’s already here?
All the love, all the financial abundance, all the career fulfillment you’re seeking is already HERE…
You just don’t see it yet!
And if you can’t see it or believe it, how can it SHOW UP?
Let me share something deeply personal with you…
Five Decembers ago, I was in deep despair.
I had left my corporate job to pursue a better life and it wasn’t showing up. The job opportunities were slim to none. My tendonitis that had developed in my arms during my Big Breakup was getting worse, which meant I couldn’t physically go back to my old corporate life of writing on a computer 40 hours/week.
I’d cashed in my 401K to build this new life and not only was the new life NOT showing up, the money I’d saved was drying up.
How would I make my mortgage payments?
How would I make a living?
How could I attract love if I was disabled and broke?
I had FINALLY gone cold turkey with my Big Breakup so that Mr. Right could show up and he wasn’t anywhere in sight.
While I had managed to manifest a fun, cool, sexy magician who was rocking my world, he had made it clear that commitment was not an option.
Had I really just left one man who was rocking my world but unable to commit for another man just like him?
It sure seemed like it.
So much for that dream life I thought I could have if I just let go of the old life.
I felt like the universe had duped me.
I felt like a complete and total failure.
I was really f***ing angry. At God, at the world, AT MYSELF.
I told myself I was a fool for thinking I could really have all those amazing things I wanted. Things like:
- A career as a published author
- A man who loved me for me
- A community that supported me and that I cherished
- Abundant health
It wasn’t fair.
My life sucked.
My heart ached.
And my body hurt.
My old life no longer worked, but my new life wasn’t any better.
I remember sitting on the living room floor of my condo, looking around at all the STUFF I had accumulated.
I felt empty.
Alone.
Betrayed.
Petrified.
I thought I had hit rock bottom months ago. But this was a new level of LOW. How could I possibly find my way out?
I remember crying, wailing, feeling hopelessly desperate.
And then a voice spoke to me.
“Get out of the way.”
Huh?
“Don’t ask how. Just do. Now, get out of the way.”
At the time, I didn’t know what the voice meant. Or even who the voice was!
But I somehow summoned the courage to listen and start following it as it got louder and more clear.
“Pack your things.”
I packed up my condo and found tenants to rent to. I moved in with friends.
“Start writing.”
With my tendonitis causing daily pain in my arms, I wasn’t sure how to write anymore. I researched voice recognition software and I slowly started talking instead of typing.
“Change how you feel about love.”
Having learned not to question the voice within, I created a daily exercise where first thing in the morning and last thing before bed, I said out loud, “Love is…” and filled in the blank with words that excited me.
Love is blissful.
Love is available.
Love is abundant.
Love is here.
Love feels amazing!
Slowly but surely, I started believing that this new kind of love existed.
I also started believing that maybe I could write my book using voice software.
Guess what happened next?
I met my husband. And from the moment we met, I FELT him the way I’d been describing love.
Within months, an editor at a publishing house contacted me and invited me to write a book.
After hitting rock bottom, things were looking up.
But it wasn’t until I believed another way was possible.
So if you’ve hit rock bottom this year, now is NOT the time for hopelessness and despair.
Now is the time to shift your beliefs, change your behavior, and act as if your new life has already begun.
Because it has.
Imagine what it would FEEL LIKE to be loved, miraculously, unconditionally, delightfully LOVED just for being you.
Imagine how it would change your life if you loved your career AND had more than enough money for your life?
Imagine what extraordinary things you could accomplish when you know that the universe is happily, blissfully, and unconditionally supporting Y-O-U?
This new reality already exists. You just have to awaken to it.
And that’s what I’m going to show you how to do in 2010.
My mission for the entire year is to give you the tools, techniques, support, and guidance to break free from YOUR ROCK BOTTOM and rediscover a new ELEVATED way of living and loving.
Here are some great ways to get started:
1. Join my FREE 30 Day Woohoo Challenge on my Fan Page:
http://www.facebook.com/LisaSteadmanFans
2. Download your free chapter from my next book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right by going here:
http://www.ifhesnottheonewhois.com/
The book isn’t available anywhere else until January 18. And together, we’re going to spend 2010 learning how to let go of Mr. Wrong and call in Mr. Right!
3. Listen to your new anthem song “I Just Haven’t Met You Yet” by Michael Buble. It’s booty-shaking, inspiring, and F-U-N:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1AJmKkU5POA
And set your intention for 2010. Give yourself permission to dream BIG!
Now, I’m out of the office the rest of this week and part of next. It’s my way of celebrating my new dream life. I work hard to create a dreamy life and I’m taking the time to celebrate it! My husband and I are having fun dates and planning our trip to Paris next fall. Woohoo!
In the meantime, give yourself permission to have fun, release your old life, let go of rock bottom, and start celebrating your new life!
So many people tell me how lucky I am. It isn’t luck. It’s a combination of faith, preparation, opportunity, and courage.
You have all that inside you. Why not let it out, starting TODAY?
