Do Romantic Comedies Mess With Your Love Life
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on April 20, 2012 - 1:50 pm
Be honest…do romantic comedies f*** with your love life?
In this episode of He Said, She Said, Charles J. Orlando And I weigh in on the dangers of buying into what romantic comedies tell us about love.
If you’ve ever compared your romantic relationship to Drew Barrymore’s, Katherine Heigl’s, or Jennifer Aniston’s, then it might be time to STOP watching romantic comedies and START getting real about love!
What’s your fave romantic comedy? Post it here.
Does Facebook Lead to Cheating?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on April 18, 2012 - 9:52 am
Be honest. Do you flirt on social media. Have you ever reconnected with an ex in hopes of rekindling an old romance?
Does Facebook lead to infidelity?
In this episode of He Said, She Said, Charles J Orlando and I weigh in on the dangers of flirting on social media. Find out if it’s healthy or harmful. And share your comments here or weigh in on Woohoo Radio live with Charles and me every first Wednesday of the month.
Should You Be Friends With Your Ex?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on April 1, 2012 - 9:36 am
Be honest? Are you trying to stay friends with your ex?
Do you still text, IM, Facebook, and tweet?
And are you able to move on and date other people?
In this episode of He Said, She Said, Best-selling authors Charles J. Orlando and Lisa Steadman dish on the pros and oh so many cons of staying friends with your ex…
Post your thoughts here or weigh in on Woohoo Radio live with Lisa & Charles every first Wednesday of the month!
2 Reasons Good Men Are Getting Harder to Find
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 28, 2012 - 4:42 pm
Have you noticed that the dynamics of dating and relationships aren’t what they used to be, say, just a few years ago?
The pace of change is accelerating, and just like a lot of other things in the world, the change hasn’t necessarily all been good.
And when it comes to love and dating, it hasn’t been better for women AT ALL. Keep reading, you’ll learn why…
If you’re a single woman, you may have noticed that it’s been more challenging than ever to find and get the attention of a QUALITY man.
I’ve worked with hundreds of single women and I hear a lot of the same things from these heartbroken and confused women over and over:
“The only kind of men I’m meeting lately are deadbeats or players.”
“I can’t get past two or three dates before he disappears.”
“I thought he was into me, but he never called again. What did I do wrong?”
“It just seems that attractive, successful guys want to hook up, but don’t want to commit.”
And then there’s the thing that no woman wants to hear, that’s coming out of men’s mouths more and more nowadays:
“I like you, but there’s just something missing. I don’t know what.”
Grrrr….
In other words, there’s a trend happening, and that trend is making it harder than ever to find, attract, and keep a quality man. You know, a man with looks, brains and ambition to do something great in the world.
In general, it’s harder than ever to fall in love, and stay in love.
It’s not that there are LESS good men out there, it just feels like it because there are more quality women than ever, all vying for the same men. And the ones who actually WOULD make amazing partners, husbands and fathers are often LESS interested in commitment as a result.
Have you noticed this? I have.
Now, I can give you anecdotal evidence all day. And my friend Carol Allen can tell you about the clients who call her daily to ask what they’re doing wrong and why, despite the fact that they’re beautiful, educated and “together” they can’t find a decent man for a long-term relationship.
(Slackers and players is all they’re meeting, from what they tell her. My fantastic single girlfriends say the same thing…)
Carol can tell you about the gorgeous, successful women she meets ALL THE TIME who can’t seem to get past date #2 or 3 with men they claim to be their emotional, intellectual and spiritual “equal.” They meet a great man, but he quickly disappears.
But aside from any conversations and personal observations she’s had, I’ve also read articles, studies and statistics that are confirming what many single American women are experiencing every day.
And that is, that it’s harder than ever to find true love and get married.
For example, one study explains why there seem to be less and less traditionally “marriage-able” men than ever before. Today, more women than men are getting college degrees and advanced degrees, and more women than men are holding down good paying, professional jobs. Young, childless urban women are earning 8 percent more than their male counterparts.
Men are losing ground due to the failing economy, and less men are employed in steady, good-paying jobs and less are able to afford to go to school.
(There’s where the “slacker” comments come from.)
And no longer do they have to get married, or even date a woman exclusively, to have sex. (Which is where the “player” comments come from.)
And the men who do have status, career and looks are GAINING power in the dating realm. They actually have more and more women clamoring for their attention, and therefore are not in a rush to settle down with any ONE woman. Not even a smart, pretty one. They’re taking their time, playing the field, and calling the shots.
In other words, the more successful a man is, the less interested he is in commitment.
At least, not unless he’s totally BLOWN AWAY by a woman. He has to feel that you’re one in a million, and completely his equal… and then some.
That’s right – that amazing, handsome man can be spooked by anything… not a hair out of place and or food in your teeth on the first date, or he’s G-O-N-E.
Matchmakers all say that singles now are looking more for what’s wrong than what’s right…
You have to impress that great guy like you’ve never had to impress a man before.
As if that wasn’t enough to make you want to throw up your arms in disgust (or just throw up), statistics show that less women in their 30s are married today than in the last half century.
Yeah, well, NO WONDER.
And more than ever, men and women are citing “abstract” reasons for breaking up, such as “I’m just not feeling it” as a reasonable excuse for ending what otherwise was a good relationship.
Again, Ugh…
WHY YOU NEED AN “EDGE” TO FIND AND KEEP LOVE IN 2012
If you’ve felt the burn of go-nowhere relationships and heartbreak, and these statistics are freaking you out, you might be thinking that you may only have two choices at this point:
5. Be okay with being alone. Maybe forever.
6. Lower your standards.
I know that neither sounds fun. I mean, regardless of what best-selling books have to say on the subject, if you’re like most women, you’re just not into “settling” for someone you won’t be madly in love with, and you’re not into giving up on your dreams of love and marriage, either.
That’s why what you need is an EDGE. Especially in the fast-paced, just-a-click-away world of internet dating and on-demand hook-ups. A man can easily pass you over and disappear because he thinks you don’t “get” men. He’s not worried that he didn’t stick around, because there’s another beautiful, together, smart woman just around the corner – heck, every corner! – who just might be the one… and he’s probably right.
The world is his oyster, so to speak. And if he’s an emotionally stable, good-looking, intellectually ambitious man, he may have his pick of dozens of equally amazing women to fall for.
So what’s a girl to do?
Besides bury her head in a gallon of Hagen Daaz and call it an evening?
I’ll tell you…
What you need is an edge to stand out from the sea of fantastic women who are all trying to get the attention of those rare fantastic men. You need to know more about men and you need to have “insider knowledge” about what makes a man tick, what he’s looking for in a woman, and how you can melt his heart.
I mean, these women have probably read the same self-help books you have, and they’ve probably spent a lot of money on their clothes, skin, hair, and bodies and have taken expensive flirting workshops.
So how do you get that edge they don’t have?
You need to learn what men want, and use that knowledge to be the most compelling, attractive and magnetic woman you can possibly be to the kind of man you really want.
Even though Carol works with women every day, helping them discover just how to do that and she’s read hundreds of books and has studied everything she could get her hands on about relationship dynamics, she’s just another woman with theories on men.
But she knew that what would help women most is to hear what REAL MEN have to say.
Fortunately for her (and now the rest of us), is that she knows not just a lot of real men, but men who have made it their jobs to know this very thing… and they, too, help and guide women to get the love they deserve.
These are men with radio shows, published books, appearances in major media outlets like The New York Times and “The Today Show.” They’ve helped thousands of women… even millions… find and keep the man of their dreams.
They’re not just brimming with good ideas, they know exactly what men really want and are looking for in a lifelong partner.
Carol knew that if she could uncover the secrets of these savvy and attractive men (most of whom are single themselves), she could really help women get that edge they so desperately need these days.
So, she sat down with 8 of these amazing men and interviewed them about “What Men Want.” She got them to reveal what a woman MUST know about men in order to have what it takes to make a man fall in love and want to commit.
She asked them detailed, personal questions (sometimes about their own love lives).
They told her the truth about men that very few women know. They told her what kind of woman stands out in their mind, what makes them fall in love, and what a woman must do or avoid in order to win a man’s heart. She even got one expert to reveal the “bedroom secrets” and deepest desires of men! (And it was better than any issue of “Cosmo” magazine, I assure you.)
The result is her newest audio program, “What Men Want”. It’s over 10 hours of intense insights and revelations about men’s deepest desires and biggest pet-peeves when it comes to dating, love, marriage and sex.
To read more about this program and to start listening to these men reveal what you need to know, click here: http://bit.ly/z8zp4y
Carol’s new “What Men Want” audio program might just be the missing link to finally getting the relationship you’ve been wishing for. It will give you a winning strategy because you’ll find out:
>> What to say when you bump into a great guy during chance encounters in order to get his attention.
>> What to do and not do on a first date, so you don’t “spook” him and instead intrigue him to want to see you again and again.
>> What playing hard to get, dating other men, or pretending that you aren’t looking for a serious relationship REALLY does to a man’s interest and emotions.
>> When to be physically intimate, so he doesn’t get the wrong impression of you.
(Most of the experts agreed on this one…)
>> What personality trait all women have (but most women don’t cultivate) is completely irresistible to a man, and makes him want to be with you.
>> What makes a man NEED you and FALL IN LOVE with you, and really feel that connection that blows him away enough to want you in his life forever.
>> What turns a man on the most in bed. (Despite what you may think, it has nothing to do with any position, physical attribute or skill. You won’t believe what men really crave above all else to feel good with you, physically.)
>> What men fear most and will withdraw immediately if they sense this from you.
>> And much more.
THE TRUTH ABOUT WHAT MEN WANT
After reading all this bad news about the decline in relationship-worthy men, you may wonder if there’s any good news about men and dating.
There is!
If there’s one thing that stood WAY OUT of each and every interview in the “What Men Want” program, it’s that good men, regardless of the impression they give to women, actually want a deep, committed relationship.
That’s right. Men WANT relationship. They don’t want to be alone. They don’t want to date a different woman every week. They want to fall in love and they want to feel utterly and completely in love for the rest of their lives.
The want it as much as you do, but they just haven’t found the right woman. Yet.
You will be the right woman.
You will have the edge. You will know what men want. You will inspire their greatness.
That one special man will want to be everything for you, and will go out of his way to make you happy and be your hero.
That’s because you’ll know him better than most women after listening to and knowing “What Men Want,” you’ll push all the right buttons in him, and he won’t be able to resist being with you. Here’s how you can do that: http://bit.ly/z8zp4y
I look forward to hearing your success story!
What’s Your Love Brand?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 14, 2012 - 8:07 am
Happy Valentine’s Day! Or, as I used to call it when I ran my website BreakupChronicles.com,
Happy Breakup Celebration Day.
Whether you find yourself celebrating The Ones Who Got Away (Thank God!) or The One, it’s
important to remember that February 14th is just a day like any other.
But…because the world around us sends us messages about Love today, telling us we’re lucky
if we HAVE a loving partner, and we’re lacking if we DON’T, I wanted to touch base and ask you
something important…
What’s Your Love Brand?
Let me clarify.
As you know, branding is something I’m incredibly passionate about. But it’s not just for business.
It’s for life and relationships, too.
When you’re living a life that’s fully aligned with your vision and values…
When your relationships – both platonic and romantic – align with what you want love to look and
feel like…
When you walk out of the house in the morning and feel confident that the image you project in
the world at large accurately reflects who you are on the inside…
When you conduct business on a daily basis – either for yourself or on someone else’s behalf –
and know that your energy, communication style, and confidence level fully supports you…
That’s when you know you’re living the full embodiment of your love, life, and business brand.
And since today is Valentine’s Day, let’s get specific about your LOVE BRAND.
Believe it or not, you do NOT have to be in a relationship to have a rock solid and rock star love
brand.
Love branding STARTS with your relationship with yourself, hokey as it may sound.
How you talk to yourself, treat yourself, and accept yourself is the first act of compassion you
bring to your love brand.
The next act comes when you connect to your ideal vision of Love.
For example, if you’re like me, you may not have grown up in a household where love was
healthy, whole, abundant, and fulfilling.
Quite the opposite may have been true!
I grew up in a home where I became my mother’s marriage counselor at the age of 12. While I
was still playing with my Barbie dolls, my mother was crying and soliciting advice on how to make
my dad love her.
Imagine MY Love Brand and beliefs as I became a teenager and started dating.
It’s no wonder I attracted and maintained relationships with men from age 15 to 30 that ping
ponged between emotionally unavailable, abusive, and unrequited to intense, overly tumultuous,
and confusing.
My Love Brand was aligned with my core belief that Love was difficult, painful, excruciating, and
unfulfilling.
My reality had no choice but to get in line with those unhealthy and unhappy brand statements…
In high school, I went from being obsessed with a guy who had a girlfriend but always swore he
loved me more (even though he remained committed to her and I followed him around like a love
sick puppy) to falling in love with a devoutly religious man in my 20s whose love of God trumped
his feelings for me to a narcissistic sociopath whose words said Love but whose fists said Hate
to a passionless 3 year relationship where video games and action figures rocked his world
more than I did (not that he was floating my boat either) to a roller coaster romance with my Big
Breakup, a gregarious guy who admitted from Day 1 that he couldn’t and wouldn’t meet my needs
and yet I eagerly said Sign Me Up!
Am I painting a clear enough picture?
After my Big Breakup, I swore off love.
I never wanted to feel that much pain, disappointment, devastation, or drama again.
THAT’S when I started changing my Love Brand.
After one too pity parties where I swore off men and swore like a sailor at God for not letting me
experience my core value of Real & Lasting Love, I got real with myself.
Somewhere between en episode of Dr. Phil and once again sleeping with my ex, only to yet again
scrape my crying hot mess self off the bathroom floor, it hit me.
I WAS THE PROBLEM.
That was the bad news.
The good news was…I could also be the solution!
And so can YOU.
If you find yourself today, or any other day for that matter, feeling like there’s a lack of love in your
life, then you may want to check in with yourself on your Love Brand.
If you’re feeling like love is out of reach for you, you most likely need a Love Brand tuneup.
If you feel like the love already in your life is NOT aligned with the love you desire, you definitely
deserve to tune in and tune up.
If you feel like LOVE is something that’s readily available to others, but not for you, then your
Love Brand is CLOSED FOR BUSINESS. And that just won’t do!
Here are three simple steps that will help you shift your Love Brand from Boohoo! to
Woohoo! status…
1. Get clear about how you currently feel about Love, taking into consideration both what IS
and IS NOT working for you. For example, does your current Love Brand make you feel happy,
hopeful, and healthy, or pitiful, pissed, and pointless? Get specific.
2. Create a NEW Love Brand vision for yourself. This means getting creative and writing down
the words that align with how you want Love to look and feel, as well as images from magazines
or online that mirror what you think your ideal Love will look and feel like. Check in with your
revised Love Branding morning and night for 30 days and you’ll be surprised what shifts. (When I
started doing this daily, I met my husband within 2 months!)
3. Ask yourself how YOU need to show up differently to make this revised Love Brand a reality.
Do you need to STOP feeling hopeless, cynical, betrayed, angry, spiteful, jealous, and paralyzed
and START feeling hopeful, confident, magnetic, sexy, adorable, abundant, and excited?
Once you get your answers, act accordingly. You’ll be surprised how quickly you can reinvent and
rebuild your Love Brand into something you actually feel excited about!
The truth is, the Love Brand you experienced growing up may no longer fit you.
The Love Brand you embodied in your teens, twenties, thirties, and even forties may feel too
rigid, constricting, or unsatisfying.
But your Love Brand for today and tomorrow and every day following? That, my friend, is up to
YOU to create. And I’m beyond excited to watch you create it.
Do You Have Permission To Be YOU?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 7, 2011 - 6:25 pm
With the days getting shorter, the weather cooler (or downright chilly depending on where you live), and the holidays approaching, I’ve been slowing it down, tuning in, and LISTENING.
I’ve also been hearing from so many of the amazing individuals who attended Woohoo Weekend and they’re all saying the same thing…
“Thank you for giving me permission to be me.”
Honestly, this comment takes me by surprise. And it humbles me.
I didn’t know so many people in the world DID NOT feel like they had permission to be themselves without apology.
So as you head into your weekend, simply ask yourself…
Have I granted myself permission to fully, wholly, 200% be ME?
If the answer’s yes, congrats!
This is where our brand and life bullseyes lie – in our ability to own, celebrate, and share ourselves and our gifts freely and generously with the world around us.
When you feel free to share yourself – who you REALLY are, warts and all, rock bottom AND rock star — that’s when you create the opportunity to change the world as only YOU can!
And this is what I saw over and over at Woohoo Weekend. People being willing to reveal themselves for who they REALLY are.
Can I share 2 quick stories from Woohoo Weekend with you that perfectly illustrate the POWER of owning, celebrating, and sharing who you REALLY are?
My husband (aka The Hubs)is a total rock star in my book. He’s funny, smart, kind, philosophical, and geniune. However, he’s always decided WHO got to see the real him. From the day we met, I got to see those parts of him. But we’d be at a party and I’d look over and see him standing in a corner, arms folded, NOT sharing those amazing parts of himself. It used to frustrate and confuse me, AND he asked me to honor that this was his way of being in the world.
Well, something in The Hubs shifted recently. When he told me he wanted to attend Woohoo Weekend as a participant, I was floored. When he showed up on Saturday, shared authentically with the entire room for 2 days, and even led the room in a dance party conga line on Sunday, I was blown away. This was the REAL him on full display. No hiding, just genuine and generous sharing. Wow!
When I asked him later what caused him to want to share himself more fully, he said, “Baby, I’ve been watching you. I paid attention. You tell your clients that when they’re ready to broadcast BIGGER, they need to show up differently and share freely.”
Wow! I have known for years all the reasons my husband is perfect for me. In that moment, I realized one of the best ways I’m perfect for him. In being his wife, I have inspired him to step into living out loud as his true self, rock bottom to rock star.
Can I get a Woohoo!?
My second story is about a beautiful, intelligent, shy woman who came to Woohoo Weekend and sat in the back of the room on Saturday. In the afternoon, she shyly approached, introduced herself, and told me she was READY to own, celebrate, and share her Woohoo with the world.
On Sunday morning, she pulled me aside, told me she was deathly afraid of public speaking, but that she’d written a poem about Woohoo Weekend and wanted to share it with the room.
I invited her on stage where she read the most heartfelt, clever, brilliant poem about her experience at Woohoo Weekend.
Her voice didn’t shake. Her words resonated with everyone in the room. And when she was done, the entire audience gave her a standing ovation.
That woman is now a client of mine. I’m spending the day with her today, helping her discover her brand bullseye, turn her inspired mission into masterful messaging and a business plan, and create a plan for broadcasting bigger so she can share herself freely and generously and change the world as only she can.
Woohoo Weekend revealed a powerful truth to me: That I am here to show YOU the way to celebrating yourself, empowering you to fully celebrate and share your innate gifts with the world, and broadcast BIGGER so you can magnetize money, opportunities, relationships, and happiness to you.
Again, can I get a Woohoo!?
And again, I ask you…have you given yourself permission to be YOU?
What would change in your life if you fully owned, honored, and celebrated who you’re meant to be?
For the remainder of 2011, I’m committed to leading the way for all of us to do this. I hope you’ll join my mission and spread the word.
To get started, join my online mission and 24/7 global village on Facebook:
http://www.facebook.com/WoohooWeekendTour
Ready to be Sensually Empowered?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 3:45 pm
Can you feel it? The days are getting shorter, there’s a noticeable chill in the air and I am in the BEST mood!
I’m super excited to announce that Deborah Kagan is presenting The Sensually Empowered
Woman Interview Series November 7 – 11th. And I’m thrilled to be a part of it!
Even better news – the event is completely complimentary and you can participate from the comfort of your own home. Grab your phone or log on to your computer and you’re IN! You can listen, learn and be transformed without any travel required.
If you’ve been feeling:
•Stuck
•Alone
•Unsure
•Uncomfortable in your skin or like you’ve lost your Mojo
This incredible line up of sought after speakers, teachers, and leaders are ready to give you
elegant assistance that you’ve been waiting for!
We’ve all experienced those moments of confusion where it feels like no one else knows the pain
or discomfort we’re going through. It’s as if we’re uniquely stuck in a one-woman fear zone and
no one else can relate. Not even your closest girlfriends.
We’re here to tell you that you are not alone and we have a solution for you – The Sensually
Empowered Woman Interview Series! It’s happening all week from November 7 – 11th.
NOW is the time to live a full-bodied life and flow with your sassy self. As a Sensually
Empowered Woman, you are so brilliant. And if you know how I like to shine and share the
Woohoo, you probably just read that and you’re thinking, I’d like to get a little encouragement to
feel sparkly and alive in MY skin.
What if I told you that I could give you permission to thrive and rise to YOUR occasion?
Believe it or not, you already have that permission. It lies within YOU.
YOU can have dynamic presence, be connected to your sexual energy, relish in succulent
healthy food, live ‘sexpressed’ and love the uniqueness of your body.
During this incredible series, you’ll hear 10 experts over 5 days giving you permission to be the 1
and only juicy YOU.
Let yourself out of the ‘safety box’ and get answers to questions you’ve wanted to ask about living
a sensual life but were embarrassed to ask. Celebrate the radiant brilliance you embody, learn
how to give the world your message and get out of the ‘just getting by’ survival mode mentality.
The world needs us ladies, the time for playing small is over! Really, what better way to claim
your mojo? Reserve your complementary spot now, visit http://bit.ly/ufZh2F
To YOUR success!
Lisa
P.S. Don’t forget to reserve your spot and join me for this incredible series: http://bit.ly/ufZh2F
P.P.S.: There is no charge to register for these calls, and there is no obligation to buy ever, but if
you ever do, know that I’m an affiliate of Deborah’s (which means if you buy something I do get a
commission).
Can your rock bottom to rockstar journey change the world?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 26, 2011 - 10:36 am
Seven years ago, I was homeless, jobless, brokenhearted, and in excruciating physical pain.
I’d left my corporate job. Gone cold turkey with Mr. Wrong. Moved out of my luxury condo. And was struggling with painful tendinitis in both of my arms, which made writing — my lifelong profession — practically impossible.
I had thought being chained to my cubicle, still sleeping with my ex who worked 3 cubicles away, and being the only single woman in a 10 mile radius of my luxury condo had been rock-bottom.
I was wrong.
Being homeless, jobless, brokenhearted, in excruciating physical pain, AND not knowing how I was going to survive was rock-bottom.
Honestly, that was one of the scariest times of my life.
It was also the most freeing and fabulous. And here’s why…
When life as you know it is no longer an option, you have a choice. You can:
1. Shrink in despair, become a victim, and fall into the permanent paralysis of inaction
OR
2. Make the conscious choice that today is rock-bottom and every day moving forward will get a little better
You don’t have to know how you’ll go from rock-bottom to rockstar. You just need to be WILLING to surrender to the unknown (as my good friend and healer Kirsten Korot says), and have the courage to do something different to get a different result.
The truth is, change isn’t easy. And typically no one makes change until NOT changing becomes more uncomfortable than leaping into the unknown.
For me, the journey from rock bottom to rock star was 1 step at a time, 1 day at a time.
After moving out of my condo in Torrance, I moved in with a friend in Silverlake, sleeping on a blow up mattress on his living room floor for a summer. (Moving from married-with-children suburbia to the artsy bohemiam predestrian-friendly neighborhood with plenty of like minded singles was a crucial part of my journey back to rock star status.)
Sick and tired of being in pain but not wanting to give up on my writing career, I invested in voice software, and began making a living as a freelance writer. I used this same software to write all 3 of my best selling books. (Learning to talk to my computer transformed me from a shy writer into a confident public speaker!)
Going cold turkey with my Big Breakup was hard, but in doing so, I cleared the way for my Summer of Man Magnetism, where I met the coolest, funniest, smartest men on a daily basis and eventually met The Hubs.
Again, hitting rock bottom hurt like hell. But the journey since then has been well worth it!
At Woohoo Weekend, many of the speakers shared their inspiring rock bottom to rock star journeys with the room (some for the first time!)
Rick Clemons, The Coming Out Coach, shared how he went from being married to a woman with 2 fantastic kids to stepping out of his shadows and into his truth of being a powerful gay man. His coming out journey moved the entire room to tears, and helped us all see where we might still be hiding in our closets. Click here to watch Rick on Woohoo TV and find out what gay men and powerful women have in common http://bit.ly/woohootv6
Healer Kirsten Korot shared her profound rock bottom to rock star story of overcoming a dire diagnosis and 50-50 chances of surviving by using the same healing techniques she uses on her clients. One woman later told Kirsten,”I’m so glad you survived.” Amen! Click here to hear Kirsten’s incredible story on Woohoo TV http://bit.ly/woohootv3
Stylist JuliAnn Stitick, The Heart of Empowered Style, shared how childhood abuse had made her a prisoner of perfection, and why telling her story not only healed herself but heals her clients. JuliAnn’s story helped others in the room forgive themselves for childhood pain. What a gift!
If Rick, Kirsten, and JuliAnn had NOT shared their rock bottom to rock star stories, they still would have rocked the house at Woohoo Weekend.
But they wouldn’t have changed the world as only they can.
They wouldn’t have touched people’s hearts, demonstrated that rock-bottom is just a temporary stop on the road to rock stardom, or inspired the audience to do one thing differently to get a different result…
After hearing their inspired stories, 1 Woohoo Weekender got over her fear of public speaking and shared a poem she’d written about Woohoo Weekend from the stage. She got a standing ovation!
Once reserved and intensely private, another Woohoo Weekender rocked the house by leading the Woohoo Wiggle dance train that got everyone out of their seats and into their bodies.
The stories go on and on! Since Woohoo Weekend, I’ve received countless e-mails from people who are ready to share their rock-bottom to rockstar stories and heal the world as only they can. Woohoo!
Which leads me to my question for you…
On the journey from rock-bottom rock star, where are you?
Are there parts of your story you’re apologizing for? If so, how can you stop apologizing and start celebrating your journey even more?
And how can sharing your personal journey heal the world as only you can?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. The journey from rock-bottom to rockstar is not one way. Instead, there are many dips, twists, turns, and loops along the way. When we surrender to the unknown of what lies ahead and instead start celebrating and sharing our stories, that’s when we start changing the world.
Today, I invite you to start changing the world as only YOU can. Start sharing your story. Do something different. Step out of the shadows and into YOUR spotlight. You never know whose life you will change as a result. It may just be your own!
For more rock bottom to rockstar stories, be sure to tune in to Woohoo Radio today at 2 PM Pacific |5pm Eastern. My guests will be i-Thrive coach Tambre Leighn who will share how you can go from right to thrive in YOUR life (she did it after losing her husband to cancer) and Hillary Rubin, whose story of overcoming MS to live medication and symptom-free will blow your mind!
Tune in today here: https://bitly.com/woohooradio
Facing Forty: 40 Greatest Hits (and A Few Misses) of a Life in Progress, Lived out Loud
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 10, 2011 - 11:21 am
I’d like to tell you that the Rubik’s Cube turns 40 this year. I’d like to tell you that Mr. and Ms. Pac-Man celebrate their 40th wedding anniversary this year. I’d like to tell you that Drew Barrymore, Free to Be You & Me, Star Wars and I were all born in the same year, all turning 40 in 2011.
But it’s just not true. Those toys, video game icons, and pop-culture references are from my youth, but the conscious years, not the zygote years.
Having said that, there ARE some cool things/people turning 40 this year, right along with me. John Lennon’s song Imagine. Clint Eastwood’s Dirty Harry. And my girl Mary J Blige hits the big 4-0 right alongside me this year.
In honor of facing 40 on Sunday, I decided to stroll down memory lane and celebrate 40 of my Greatest Hits (and a few Misses) of my life in progress, lived out loud…
1. At age 6, scoring a Barbie dream house (the one with the pink elevator) for Christmas, one of many fave memories from a childhood filled with Barbie
2. At age 7, watching the movie Grease in the theater with my mom, and as the end credits rolled, hearing her say, “In real life, he’d change for her.”
3. Following my globetrotting parents around the world, living on three continents (North America, Australia, Asia) before I was 10
4. Begging my parents for a ventriloquist doll named Lester for Christmas, unwrapping him with glee, and insisting on entertaining my parents friends (and bosses!) with a comedy set that always started with, “OK, Joke Time!”
5. At age 12, mistaking a moat for a puddle during a Sri Lankan downpour (stepping in, plummeting, and resurfacing to the shock and awe of onlookers)
6. At 15, falling in love with Rebel, a creative, fun loving, new waver who had a girlfriend, told me he loved me more, and set the scene for a decade of me chasing emotionally unavailable men who didn’t love me back
7. After high school graduation, getting schooled on how to drink beer (and getting drunk for the first time) with Bad Influence, my high school buddy (His tip: Always drink a root beer first so your burps taste good)
8. Binge drinking root beer (and then some) for four years straight at college
9. At 22, falling in love and moving in with Trouble, a.k.a. a 37-year-old bodybuilder with a checkered past
10. At 23, barely escaping Trouble with my life
11. At 29, landing my dream job where I got to write about Barbie all day long
12. After a safe and predictable three-year relationship with Mr. Vanilla, loudly and proudly proclaiming while watching the movie The Tao of Steve, “I want to meet someone who’ll ROCK my world!”
13. Enter Mr. Rocky Road, a.k.a. the first man to make me feel seen, heard, loved, and adored (when we weren’t embroiled in a codependent nightmare, that is!)
14. Watching all my friends get married, have babies, and settle down, desperately wishing Mr. Rocky Road could get his act together and morph into The One
15. Breaking up, making up, & breaking down for six months straight during my Big Breakup with Mr. Rocky Road
16. Running off to Greece following my Big Breakup: Sunbathing topless for the first time, hiking a 17 km gorge with a gorgeous Air Force officer, and coming home alive, hell bent on proving to my dad I wasn’t foolish, crazy, or wrong for going alone
17. After 4 1/2 years, breaking up the Barbie, quitting my job, & not having a plan
18. Launching my first website BreakupChronicles.com one week after leaving my job
19. Renting out my condo, putting my stuff in storage, and escaping to the Montana wilderness for a month to “figure things out”
20. Scoring my first piece of press, a front-page feature in my hometown newspaper (Miss: Hiding all day when the paper hit stands, afraid to own it and celebrate it)
21. Coming back to LA, sleeping on a blowup mattress on my best friend’s living room floor, and feeling happy for the first time in a long time
22. Falling in love with myself, my life, and becoming a man magnet
23. Meeting my future husband at a bar, thinking he was 20-years-old and gay, bonding over a shared love of David Sedaris and Pink Martini
24. Recognizing on date #2 that my future husband could be The One (he’d just finished telling me, “I’m too nice for the naughty girls and too naughty for the nice ones.” Disco!
25. Telling my future husband on that same second date that I never wanted to get married or have babies
26. Getting my first book deal
27. Becoming a best-selling author (Miss: Coming home from my book tour and realizing I was a broke best-selling author)
28. Getting the call from my publicist that the Today Show wanted me on to talk about my first book IF: I came to New York the following week and shot B roll of one woman getting a post-breakup makeover and another woman having a Movin’ On party. The catch: I had to set it all up (Not having been in New York since college and not knowing anyone in the city, I said yes, and within a week had everything I needed for 2 kick ass segments!)
29. Realizing I really can do anything I set my mind to (Priceless, Mastercard!)
30. After years of being an excessive Sex and the City fan, spending one hour chatting with Candace Bushnell about the REAL Mr. Big
31. Handing my future husband my grandmother’s wedding ring and saying, “Give it back when you’re ready.” (Miss: Getting mad that it took him another six months to propose!)
32. Three years ago, donning a red gown, walking down the aisle to Etta James’ “At Last”, & promising to love my husband forever (The EASIEST thing I’ll ever do)
33. Spending a month in Paris on our honeymoon, watching Obama get elected, and celebrating hope around the world
34. Inspiring my sister to believe in love for the first time in 10 years and find HER Mr. Right
35. Writing 4 more books while building a profitable consulting business I LOVE
36. Loving (and eventually losing) my first pet, my cat Maya
37. Crying when I found out that my beautiful, smart, 18-year-old sister-in-law was pregnant
38. Being my 19-year-old sister-in-law’s birth coach, eventually helping her through a C-section after 19 frustrating hours of labor, and being the first family member to hold my niece
39. Leaving the hospital, realizing for the first time that my niece wasn’t coming home with ME
40. Having made peace with my childhood, being compassionate for my 20 something wild child, and appreciating the wisdom and experience of my 30s, looking forward to my 40s with a mix of curiosity, possibility, and excitement
What about you? What are some of YOUR hits and misses from YOUR life in progress?
Dating Advice for Cougars
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on May 17, 2011 - 9:46 am
Cougar: Term of endearment or scandalous term for women who are simply doing what men have done for decades – dating younger?
Your Tango asked the question.
Here, Charles J. Orlando and I weigh in on why being a cougar rocks — for both the woman AND the guy.
Share your thoughts and comments here!
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