Thank you to the Saban Theatre for hosting my #DreamPlusDo keynote presentation for women ready to ignite their It Factor in life, love, and business! During my signature keynote, we explored the 4 key steps to turning your It Factor magnetism on – from visioning what you want your future to look and feel like to cultivating a voice that vibes with your vision, to owning your value in relationships and business to becoming highly visible to potential partners, opportunities, and men. Here’s the Live Stream video. Enjoy!
Jen and Ben. Gwen and Gavin. Blake and Miranda. Kylie and Tyga. Celebrity splits happen almost daily in our pop culture world. So what do their breakups – and how they handle them – say about our own broken hearts and the post-breakup recovery roads we take?
You Take The High Road Like Jennifer Garner
Most – if not all – women fantasize about being the table flipping, fire starting, trash talking heroine of our own lives after a breakup.
Strong. Fierce. Unapologetic. Uncensored.
But when revenge fantasies become revenge realities, they are often accompanied by regrettable repercussions like an arrest record, jail time, and trying to explain that restraining order to your next love interest.
If you’re able to keep your revenge fantasies in your head – and your ex out of your bed – you’ll be better off taking the high road like Jennifer Garner following her split from Ben Affleck in 2015.
This is especially important if you have kids together. As mad as you may be at your spouse in the heat of your post-breakup split, your kids don’t deserve to be put in the middle or forced to listen to either/both of you trash talk your ex.
Taking the high road sets an example for everyone around you that while you may be nursing a broken heart, you can still have a level head and healthy sense of self esteem.
There’s a very traditional belief that all married couples must have kids. I hate to burst your bubble, but that’s simply not true.
It might’ve been a necessity during early civilization to keep the population thriving, but we’re not living in the Stone Age. This is modern America with a booming population of 321,387,667 that grows every 12 seconds!
Our country doesn’t rely on families to maintain it and its economy and thrive anymore — it simply doesn’t work that way anymore.
It’s possible for a married couple to live as empty-nesters. It’s also possible for you to live out your life as a single person, with no one to worry about but yourself. Some people simply don’t want the responsibility of raising kids.
In this video with my partner YourTango.com, I share that “Parenting is an 18-year, full time job! If you’re not sure you want to sign up for it, DON’T sign up for it.”
As someone who designed my life with my husband to be Child Free By Choice, I experienced a rude awakening when I became an instant full time foster mom to my then-1-year-old niece. Read all about my Confessions Of An Imposter Mom here.
Do What Makes YOU Happy
Having kids can be a wonderful, fulfilling and loving experience for you and your family … if you sincerely want to have them.
While many parents love their kids (even if they didn’t originally plan on them), others (pressured by society) might feel sad and stressed, which is reflected in their parenting style.
Sure, parents want grandkids, but remember that it’s up to you to decide whether you actually want to have kids. You determine the terms of your own buy Zelnorm happiness — NOT your parents. And that’s something they must accept.
For those who are unsure whether they want children or not, remember this. Happiness is what you make it. If you want kids, go for it. Godspeed! If you don’t, celebrate that child-free life, and enjoy it!
Still can’t decide whether or not you want kids? Share your thoughts below. And connect with me on Facebook here to weigh in!