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Q: My marriage got off to really rocky start from the beginning. My husband was constantly lying to me, having conversations with other women online and speaking to his ex-fiancée. We managed to work through that, and he changed … for a while. Now he doesn’t do any of those things that drove me insane, but we have a whole different problem. He would rather be at work than be with me. When he’s home he is in such a bad mood that just comes in barking orders at me and my son. I really don’t know what to do anymore. He says he loves me, but he never shows it. I don’t know if I’m hanging on to anything anymore. Help!
—Jaycee, Minneapolis

Lisa says: I’m not sure if what you’re holding on to is worth saving. From the start, the relationship has sounded questionable. Lies, betrayals and now downright nastiness? You don’t deserve that. You deserve to be with someone who loves, adores and respects you. If nothing else, think about the message you’re sending your son. Basically, you’re telling him that it’s OK for people to treat you (and him) like dirt. Repeat after me: “I am lovable and capable, and in 2008 I don’t take crap from anyone!”

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."