You don't have to be heartbroken to get it.

Contributor LJMaggie shares what she’s learned in the days, weeks, and months following her Big Breakup…

The day he left I cried. I wasn’t even sure why. I had been with him for over 6 months. Some might say that isn’t very long but we had fallen for each other immediately. I had given so much of myself to make it work. He was the one I could see myself with. I thought he was the one.  So the day he left I couldn’t believe it was happening.  He just walked away like we didn’t have anything at all, there were no feelings or emotions.

It took time for me to realize that there was nothing more I could have done. I gave all of myself and even more to make our relationship work.  He was the one that didn’t care enough. And that seemed to hurt even more. It has been 6 months since he walked out of my life, and I finally feel whole again, and ready to take on the world.

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LJ Maggie was conceived in a small rural town in Wisconsin, where she was the only girl of 4. Growing up with 4 men in the house accounts for her strange sense of humor and independence. Through various career changes and much soul searching, she has found her true passions, music and writing, combining the two whenever she gets a chance. Her friends admire her for her strength, independence and courage to go after her dreams. Inspiration for all of her work comes from various stages and situation in her life. She is currently working on her first novel loosely based the relationship with The EX.

“I once broke up with a guy by telling him he had to move out because I was letting my mom move in.”

 - Kate

What’s your craziest breakup excuse? 

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Thanks to all the men who’ve been sharing their breakup stories with me lately.  Here’s what they had to say…

“Can you believe this? Because we attend different churches and my wife and I do not completely agree on our belief systems, my wife thinks we should breakup.  She refers to the Bible - ‘never yoke with unbelievers.’ We are separated but now she wants me back, complaining that she doesn’t feel loved.  Women can funny sometimes. ” (Yes we can.  Yes we can.)

 - Anonymous

“We had just signed a lease to a new apartment, but before we could move in we were staying with friends.  One night she kept wanting to go to sites like yours and read about breakups.  It was strange, definitely not her style, so i finally asked her why she wanted to keep reading stories about break ups. She responded by saying that she was trying to find the best way to breakup with me!  I left her and the lease (in her name) the next morning after incredible breakup sex.” (Ouch! Thanks for sharing. Talk about breakup karma…)

 - Anonymous

“My girlfriend of three years dumped me for some guy she works with.  Couple months later, they both got laid off.  I hear that was the beginning of the end for them.  Doesn’t matter.  I’m now dating an amazing woman I met online.  Things have a way of working out, don’t they? (Sounds like breakup karma struck again, biting your ex in the butt!)

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Think your breakup was bad?  Check out these scandalous breakup stories…

“My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years, and over those 2 years things got really crazy. He ended up cheating on me with my own sister, twice behind my back! The worst part is that I found out on my birthday! I dumped him immediately. He begged me for months to forgive him and take it back.  Even though I missed him, I never did.  I knew it was better to just walk away. It still hurts to this day but it’s getting easier as time goes on.” (I’m hoping you kicked your sister to the curb, too!  It takes two to tango.)

 - Danielle

“I have been dating this man for two years. We are both Christians and so we decided that we are not going to engage in premarital sex.  We were able to adhere to that for one year until he started demanding sex.  I refused, reminding him that we were waiting until we got married.  At this point, he started drinking excessively, taking drugs, and keeping bad company. He would come to my house drunk and angry. Since I loved him unconditionally, I allowed this to go on.  Then he started abusing me physically and emotionally. That’s when I ended the relationship. I feel so hurt but have learned my lesson. Never again will I let him treat me like that just because he says he loves me.” (Stay true to your convictions.  The right guy will respect you for them!)

- Grace, Nairobi Kenya

“My boyfriend of FIVE years repeatedly cheated on me. He cheated on me with all sorts of women. The women of his choice have been fat, handicap, old, and lesbians. There is also a possibility that he slept with a transvestite or two.  He truly does not care about contracting an STD. The wake up call was him beating the crap out me. The only thing left
for me to do is to keep pressing on - without him, of course!” (Keep the faith - and get yourself checked for STDs! Most are easily treatable.)

 - Lucy 

“My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years now but much of that has been a long distance thing.  He lives in Los Angeles half the time and in fact I haven’t seen him in past 6 months. Just last week he called me and said almost all his friends have called to tell him how fat I’ve gotten. So basically my boyfriend broke up with me, because he said I AM
TOO FAT!” (And we say good riddance!)

 - Anonymous

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

This week saw an influx of email from men. Let’s hear it for guys whose hearts are on the mend!

On Easter, I was having what seemed like the perfect day. Went to church, got home, ate a great lunch and took a nap. Then, when I got up, I noticed I had 1 missed call. It was my girlfriend at the time. I called her back and asked what was up. She said that she didn’t think it was a good time to be dating, given the fact that her parents hate me. Ms. Ex broke up with me over the phone after FOUR MONTHS of a great relationship. It totally shattered me. Now it’s just me, the lonely boy, back to being single.

 - Anonymous

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."