You don't have to be heartbroken to get it.

Want to improve your chances of dating success? Check that emotional baggage…

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Are you addicted to bad love? If so, it’s up to you to kick the habit - for good!

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Successful singles know who they are and what they want. The best way to discover who you are what you want? Date yourself!

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

“There are no decent single men available.”

“All the good ones are taken.”

“I’m going to have to settle because there’s nothing else out there”

If any of these sound familiar, you don’t need to give up on love. You just need to break free from the scarcity excuse. Here’s how…

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

After a brief travel hiatus, your weekly breakup and dating videos are back. Enjoy!

This week’s dating tip is all about letting go of your obsession with finding “The One.”

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Want to increase your chances of dating and relationship success? Turn down your inner critic. You know the one — that voice inside your head that keeps a running tally of all the reasons why the potential partners you meet and/or date are wrong for you. Your inner critic is just that — a critic. He or she does not have your best interests at heart. So the next time you’re sitting across from someone and your inner critic starts ripping them to shreds, i.e. He doesn’t make enough money, Did you see that car he rolled up in?, Ew! He’s got spinach in his teeth. Dump him immediately!, turn down the critic and get to know the person seated across from you. By really listening to what the person has to say, you’ll get a better understanding of whether or not you’d like a second date.

Having said that, your inner critic is not the same thing as your red flag specialist. Stay tuned for next week’s tip. When I talk about how to become an expert at red flag warning signs.

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Successful singles don’t play games…

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

Be honest — you probably know somebody who carries their dating baggage around with them like a badge of honor. All those times they’ve been hurt? The pain accompanies them on dates. They talk about how they’ve been hurt, they’re closed off to the idea of finding real and lasting love, they’re completely cynical and critical of anyone who has a healthy and happy relationship, and they probably don’t have a lot of second dates.

Don’t be that person.

The key to a healthy and happy dating life and eventual happily ever after future is to become baggage light. Instead of looking at your past dating and relationship experiences as something to mourn, celebrate them! There are lessons to be learned. It’s all practice anyway.

So how do you become baggage light? The following are a few tips:

Assess your excess baggage
First, it’s important to get honest with yourself about what you might be lugging around with you on dates. What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Rejection, disappointment, betrayal? This is from your past, not your present or future. It’s probably time to let go of that excess baggage.

Dump your excess baggage
In order to have a happily ever after future, you have to first believe you deserve one. Gather those painful memories, that chip on your shoulder, any residual anger from past relationship experiences, and tell them they’ve got ago. Thank them for the lessons you’ve learned and tell them that it’s now time for you to stand on your own 2 feet. In your mind’s eye, give them the heave Ho!

Embrace a new dating vocabulary
Now that you’re baggage light, it’s time to introduce a new vocabulary to your dating belief system. Every morning and night for 30 days, practice the following exercise: Say to yourself “Love/dating/a relationship is ____. And then fill in the blank with the appropriate words. Words like healthy, whole, loving, fun, etc. By creating a new vocabulary for yourself, you may be surprised at how your outlook on dating and relationships changes too, and as a result, you may start attracting happier and healthier singles. Love that!

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

I often hear from successful singles that they’re sometimes hesitant to approach potential cuties in bars, on the street, when they’re out and about because they’re not sure if the person is single, available, and/or interested. As a result, they feel like they’re missing out on opportunities to meet great people because of uncertainty. While my personal philosophy is you should always take a dating risk and approach anyway, I’ve discovered some other ways to help let people know you’re single, interested, and available. Check out these great products created specifically for singles…

The Single Ring:Advertising your single status is as easy as slipping on a bling turquoise ring! This unisex ring can be worn on any finger or on a chain around your neck. According to the ring’s creators, “There are engagement rings and wedding rings, but there was no such thing as a ring for single men and women. Why not? If anyone needs to signal one’s civil status, it’s a Single. As a single person, you are on your own, but you are not alone – there are many of us around the world. We should stand up for what we are – we are always more attractive to others when we are comfortable being single. Dare to be a proud single!” Love that!

I dig the ring so much that I’m actually endorsing it in my next book. For more details, check out SingleRingen.com.

SingleTease:Another awesome way to advertise your single status is to slip on a super cute tee from singletease.com. This t-shirt idea was born out of the single gal’s desire to let guys know she was available and approachable (Amen!). In her latest music video, Mariah Carey is wearing one of the tees. The cute tee says “boy scouting (are you prepared?)” Other tees feature the following sayings:

- just ask me (out)
- single.
- support your local library (check me out)
- say hello.
- looking for good pick-up lines

So the next time you’re out and about, why not advertise your single status?

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."

If dating is a game (and it is), then successful singles play to win. How? By understanding that it’s all about the numbers, Baby! Gone are the days of sitting home by the phone waiting for some guy (or girl) to call. In 2008, savvy singles regularly attend singles events, put themselves in target rich environments, and are active online daters. They understand that not everyone’s going to be a match for them and so they practice, practice, practice with a variety of interesting and available partners until they find someone worthy of being exclusive with. This goes for both men and women. And even when they go through a dry dating spell, savvy singles continue to put themselves out there, spend time with their amazing circle of friends, and enjoy their savvy single lives.

This weekend, put the numbers game into practice for yourself. Wherever you go, whether it’s the beach, the grocery store, a bookstore, or Starbucks, play the numbers game. Look around, make eye contact, smile, even flirt with any cuties you see around you. It doesn’t have to go anywhere. But by playing the numbers game, you are practicing, getting comfortable in your own savvy single skin, and enjoying these random encounters. And you may just get or give a phone number out of it!

Good luck and happy dating!

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Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is the creator and editor of BreakupChronicles.com. She's also the author of "It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown."