Dear One,

You’ve been on quite a journey, Beautiful. And while it hasn’t always been easy, I want you to know I see you. I hear you. And I recognize how hard you’re trying.

I also see the obstacles in the path.

And I want you to know how proud I am of you.

Just for being you. And being here. And not giving up. And not giving in.

I also want you to know I’m here for you. I always have been. I always will be.

That’s our unspoken deal, okay? I will always be here for you.

I’ve just been waiting until you were ready to receive.

I feel you readying your receptivity. And it makes me smile.

I honor and appreciate the relationship we’re creating. I know you haven’t had a lot of relationships in your life that were a two way street. Where someone gave as much as you did. Where someone cared as deeply as you do.

I promise you, Dear One, that I will give as much. And I care as much.

In you I feel a deep sisterly bond. Like the little sister I never had.

I know your journey is just unfolding. And that can be scary. Especially considering the last few years.

But I want you to know, Dear One, that you are not alone. And while I have only experienced a fraction of the infractions you have in life, I want you to know that I’ve been in your shoes – in some ways – and I’ve come out the other side a better woman for it.

Like you, I was with the wrong man in my early 20s.

Like you, my man was up to no good. And he was NO GOOD for me.

He was mean. Demeaning. Abusive. And he didn’t believe in me.

I got sucked in to a vortex that shook me up, down, and sideways.

He had a checkered past. And he was still up to no good.

The only differences are:

1. We never got caught

2. I never got pregnant

3. I finally summoned the courage to leave

Why am I sharing all this with you?

Because I want you to know that your present circumstances don’t define you. (But they can be an amazing opportunity for redefining you.)

Because I want you to know how much I love and believe in you.

I KNOW the woman you really are.

She’s beautiful. Smart. Sweet. Funny. Fun.

She’s a good mother.

She’s loving and lovable. Worthy and worthwhile. Amazing and inspiring.

And she’s not alone.

When I finally summoned the courage to leave my bad man, I had help. My parents. My sister. They picked me up in that puddle I’d become on the floor and loved me back to life.

In the beginning, I had no sense of self. No love for self. No self identity without HIM.

Slowly but surely, I picked up the pieces and found me. It took some time. But as time went on, I learned to love myself. To believe in me. And to trust my choices.

I learned to love better men, ultimately meeting and falling in love with your brother. He may not be perfect, but he’s perfect for me and he loves you so much.

If you’ll allow us, we’d like to be part of your support system. Part of your Woohoo Crew who helps pick you up and love you back to life.

We love you and The Wee One so much. And we’re committed to helping you both become exactly who you need to be in this life to thrive.

I know this journey won’t always be easy. There will be times when we disagree. When we don’t like each other. When we want to RUN AWAY.

Here’s my pledge to you – I won’t give up. I won’t run. I won’t shame or blame.

I’ll do my best to be fair. And loving. And patient. And kind.

I hope you’ll do the same.

I guess what I’m saying, Dear One, is that I love you. And I’m here for you. And I’ll never give up on you.

If that lightens your load, eases your burdens, brings light into your life, I am grateful.

I believe in who you’re becoming. I hope you are, too.