Ever wish you could push the RESET button on your life?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 17, 2011 - 8:47 am
Be honest. Ever wish you could push the RESET button on your life?
Do you feel stuck, bogged down, burdened, or just plain disappointed in what’s happening for you so far in 2011?
Does the space between where you are right now and where you want to be feel ENORMOUS and insurmountable?
I get it.
I’ve been there.
Seven years ago, I desperately wanted to push the RESET button on MY life.
My once dream job had turned into a nightmare, due to a new, demanding, and soul-crushing boss.
My love life was in shambles, and I found myself once again picking up the pieces of my broken heart, devastated that I just couldn’t make it work with my ex.
After buying my condo, I realized I had moved into married-with-children suburbia and felt isolated, alone, and like a total failure at life and love.
My body began betraying me, bringing on physical pain to match my emotional anguish.
Honestly, very little about my life was working. And I kept thinking, “If only there was a RESET button I could push to start over!”
Unfortunately, there wasn’t. And I stayed stuck for many months.
I kept taking my boss’ crap.
I kept sleeping with my ex.
I kept feeling isolated and alone in my condo.
And I never did find my RESET button.
Fortunately, you don’t have to suffer this same fate.
You don’t have to agonize over any area of your life alone.
If you made a resolution on new year’s eve to change any of these areas of your life:
- Financial/Career
- Love/Relationships
- Body image/Personal style
You’re in luck. Help is here.
But first, let’s be clear. You don’t need to make any more resolutions.
You need to start your very own REVOLUTION!
The truth is, change sucks. Nobody likes it. And nobody makes change until it becomes more painful to stay where they are.
Let me repeat that. Nobody makes change until the idea of staying stuck becomes more painful than the idea of letting go and moving on.
But here’s the thing. Only YOU can decide when enough will be enough.
Do you want to spend another 6 months feeling stuck in some area of your life like:
- Feeling lost and alone when it comes to your love life
- Feeling unhealthy and unhappy in your body
- Feeling frustrated that you’re not getting further ahead in your career or life
Or do you want to have your Revolutionary Reset this month, get the tools you need to make a different choice, and change what’s happening in your life in record time?
Only you know for sure how much longer you want to feel stuck or in pain.
But I hope you choose to press YOUR reset button SOON and start loving your life again.
If you’re ready for 2011 to be the year you plow through old barriers, blocks, and beliefs so you can welcome a healthier, happier, more hopeful life, then be sure to join me at the Revolutionary Reset event at the Fairmont Miramar hotel overlooking the Pacific Ocean in Santa Monica, CA on Saturday, January 29.
Come spend the day learning from and working with 3 powerful lifestyle coaches who want to show you the way to living and loving your life, starting right now!
I’ll be joined by my personal style guru and body image coach Sybil Henry and my dear friend and personal development guru Lakeshia Ekeigwe. Together, we want to show you exactly how to STOP living in overwhelm and uncertainty and START living a life that’s authentic, inspired, and exciting!
If you’re ready for YOUR Revolutionary Reset, get your ticket NOW!
Don’t waste another minute feeling confused, disappointed, lost, or alone. We’re here to help. And we want you to join us!
Be sure to grab your ticket NOW: http://revolutionaryreset.com/
If your business was your boyfriend, is it time to breakup, go to couples counseling, or get engaged?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 16, 2011 - 11:17 pm
I’ve been talking to a lot of women business owners lately and the way they’re describing their businesses sounds a whole lot like the way women talk about the men in their lives…
“We beat each other up last month (my first abusive experience in a relationship).”
“We’re in the ‘working on it’ phase.”
“Sometimes we fight, but we love each other, too.”
Can I let you in on a little secret?
Last year, I was in an abusive relationship with MY business.
I had committed to doing whatever it took to catapult my business to the next level.
I worked non-stop, around the clock, on evenings, weekends, and holidays.
I tuned out my friends. I barely called my parents. And I was actually THANKFUL that my husband traveled during the week for work. That way, I could squeeze in a half hearted phone call to him every night, and then REALLY pay attention to him on the weekend, in between the networking events, client chasing, and general craziness I had created.
Yes, I CREATED the destructive relationship with my business.
I got so singularly focused on MAKING my business work that I refused to see that this intensity and obsessiveness were the reasons my business AND my life felt so out of balance.
I was so committed to MAKING it work in my business that I lost all perspective.
I stopped working out.
Stopped sleeping well.
Stopped taking care of me.
Sure, I got results. Amazing results!
But the price I paid was too high.
My health deteriorated.
My marriage with my husband suffered.
And I began to RESENT my business.
I felt like a slave to getting my next client.
I also felt disappointed that I wasn’t getting EVEN BETTER results.
I was reading everyone’s ezines and Facebook posts about how AMAZING their lives, businesses, and bank accounts were.
And while I was bringing in 6 figures, I was also reinvesting every last penny back into my dysfunctional relationship.
While there’s a time and place for business reinvestment, it’s not at the expense of YOU.
As my new CFO says, if you make 6 or 7 figures and spend 6 or 7 figures, you’re still at zero. And that’s not a healthy business model.
Are you FEELING disappointed, isolated, like a slave who’s neither seen nor heard by YOUR business?
Does your relationship with your business feel SO DYSFUNCTIONAL that when you wake up in the morning, you DREAD starting your work day?
Do you NEVER celebrate the successes you DO have, and instead YEARN for the successes of others?
Then you and your business may be headed for a nasty breakup.
And I don’t want that for you.
YOU don’t want that either, I’m guessing!
Fortunately, there IS a better way.
A more balanced way.
A healthier and happier way to do business.
And I’d like to share this NEW way of re-ENGAGING with your business.
As Beyonce says, “If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it!”
Instead of being that slave to your unhealthy relationship with your business, I want to show you how to fall back in love, get ENGAGED, and put a nice ring on your finger.
First, it’s important to understand the top 5 reasons WHY you may not be happy with your business, including:
1. You’re not getting the results you want and feel incredibly disappointed.
2. You’re comparing your business to everyone else’s and feeling like a total failure.
3. You’re operating out of your “make it work” / “Have to” place and its contracted, rigid, unbalanced and MISERABLE
4. Your overworked, overwhelmed, and frustrated that you’re not getting ahead financially
5. You feel like you’re giving up too much of yourself and not getting enough in return.
Next, it’s important to follow this 3 step formula for healing the pain of the problem:
1. Admit what’s happening
2. Ask for help
3. Take consistent action to get your desired results
So…if your business was your boyfriend, is it time to breakup, get therapy, or put a ring on it?
Success Secrets of A Social CEO
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 11:03 pm
I’ve been working with a lot of entrepreneurs lately who are doing so much right in their businesses, and yet they’re still struggling.
They’re blogging. They’re on social media. They’re even doing video.
And yet they’re getting the same results they’ve always gotten.
It’s no wonder they feel frustrated!
I’ve talked to these business owners, and I’ve talked to other entrepreneurs who are getting tremendous results. And it recently dawned on me the difference between these two groups.
One is NOT more talented than the other. Nor do they have bigger teams of support staff.
The successful business owners are rocking it because they have stepped into their rightful role as the Social CEO of their business. They know it’s not enough to blog, create video, and post on social media. They’ve unlocked the secrets to TRUE social business success by mastering their message, energetically aligning with their passion and purpose, and creating consistent branding in all of their online and offline efforts. In the coming weeks, I’m going to share how YOU can unlock these same success secrets.
To get you started, here are 10 action steps YOU can take to become a Successful Social CEO:
1. Create your list of 5-10 words that describe how you want to leave people feeling when they meet you, interact with you, listen to you, ask questions of you, hire you, and work with you. Get as specific as possible.
2. Be willing to be seen, heard, celebrated, and understood. Does any resistance pop up? Explore that.
3. Review your external branding. How does it align with Brand You? Make necessary tweaks. (Think Clothing, Hair, Car, Shoes, Handbag, Nails, etc.)
4. Review your online branding. How does it align with Brand You? (Think Website, Social media, Blog, Photos, Videos, Interviews, Content, Comments)
5. Make a list of 1-5 things you can do, starting today, to uplevel yourself and your business to step into your rightful role as the Social CEO you’re meant to be. Do you need to make more money? Do you need to be more active on social media? Do you need to respond to comments and questions you previously left unanswered on your blog or social media? Do you need to be more consistent in general? Do you need to start speaking on behalf of your company to expand your reach/establish your expertise?
6. Look at your competitors and analyze what they’re doing well, as well as where they struggle. How can you do better/stand out and make yourself distinct from everyone else in your industry?
7. Review and update your biography. Make it reflect the Social rock star you are!
8. Review your team, including your assistant, VA, photographer, graphic designer, mentor, coach, technical support, bookkeeper, etc. Who’s helping/hurting? Who’s missing? Who can help you be a better YOU? Don’t have a team? Do you need one?
9. Find your evangelists and treat them like rock star royalty.
10. Come up with your 10 key messaging points that only you can talk about. Write them down. Get specific. Brand them using the words and feelings you want to capture. And then start posting and seeing what works/creates conversation/invites dialogue with your clients and fans.
Which of the 10 action steps have you already taken? Which needs to be next on your priority list?
Ready to Become Brilliant & Bankable?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 10:54 pm
Can you feel it? Now that the new year is here, change is in the air.
And there’s no better time to change what’s happening in your business.
Specifically, it’s time to STOP:
- Floundering for what to do next
- Winging it financially
- Hoping and praying for a miracle
- Wondering when your next client will magically appear on your doorstep
- Wishing there was a clear, concise, strategic way to do business but wondering how to find it and who to trust
More importantly, it’s time to START:
- Attracting eager-to-pay-you clients
- Creating masterful messaging that effortlessly establishes your expertise
- Building your profitable platform in record time
- Turning fans and prospects into real cash money
- Claiming all the money inherent in your business
Imagine what it would feel like to wake up and start each business day, pumping your fists, exclaiming Woohoo!
My Brilliant & Bankable business partner Julie Steelman and I want to show you how to fall head over heels for your Brilliant & Bankable business, starting right now!
This year, we want to show you exactly how to create, run, and LOVE your business because it’s an accurate, energetic, exciting, powerful reflection of YOU.
PLUS, we want your business to be purposefully profitable.
Believe it or not, this is easier than you think.
When you connect to and celebrate your innate Greatness, aka. the reason you got into business for yourself in the first place, you can transform that into a business that makes you more money than you’ll ever need.
Does this seem out of reach right now? Trust us, it’s not.
And we want to show you how to create this for yourself in record time.
We want to show you how to become the Brilliant & Bankable business owner you’re destined to be.
Join us for a POWERFUL call on Tuesday, January 18 at 6pm Pacific | 9pm Eastern.
Here are the call in details:
Tuesday, January 18 at 6pm Pacific | 9pm Eastern
Phone-Number to Dial: 818-742-0029
Use Conference ID: 581274#
Here’s a sneak peek at what we will reveal on the call:
“The Easy and Effortless Changes We Made to Our Businesses to Fall back In Love With Them AND Make More Money While Working Less.”
- What it means to be Brilliant & Bankable and how to experience it NOW.
- How to STOP operating from a transactional mindset and START loving your work while serving your clients more generously.
- How to connect to your innate Greatness and leverage it every moment you’re in business.
- How to create a VISION for your business that serves your personal desires as well as your financial goals.
- How to transition from cold calling to an outreach program that wins business every time
By the end of the call, you will leave feeling motivated, inspired, and excited to create YOUR Brilliant & Bankable business!
Join us Tuesday, January 18 at 6pm Pacific | 9pm Eastern.
Can’t make the live call? Stay tuned. I’ll post the replay here!
Can’t wait for the call? Click here to listen to last week’s TRANSFORMATIVE call where we revealed exactly how YOU can become Brilliant & Bankable in record time in 2011.
Arielle Ford on Magnetizing Mr. Right
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 4, 2011 - 6:00 am
If you don’t know Arielle Ford, you SHOULD. She’s the guru when it comes to manifesting Mr. Right without ever dating again.
According to Arielle, finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare yourself to become a magnet for love. She used the techniques in her book The Soulmate Secret to bring her soulmate into her life at age forty-four. They were engaged three weeks later and have been happily married for over ten years.
The techniques, rituals, and projects found within will allow you to prepare your home, body, mind, and spirit for the soulmate your heart truly desires.
And btw, The Soulmate Secret works for men and women of all ages. It even worked for Arielle’s 80 year old mother-in-law, Peggy!
Here’s what I know for sure: Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare yourself, on all levels, to become a magnet for love.
This wonderful Universe of ours is set up to deliver the people and things we draw to us that our consistent with our personal belief system. If you don’t believe you will ever find the ONE, then, guess what? You get to be right …you probably won’t.
If, however, you learn to believe that the ONE is not only out there but is ALSO LOOKING FOR YOU, then true love can be yours.
The basic Law of Attraction states that you will attract to you those things that match your state of belief.
Believing that your soul mate is out there is critical to the preparation of manifestation.
I believe that the Universe is always mirroring back to us our beliefs about ourselves and the world. If we believe the world is a loving and friendly place, then most of the time that will be our experience. But, if we believe the world is a chaotic, stressful and fearful place, then that becomes our reality. So, believing and knowing that your soul mate is out there is the most important part of the formula.
What if I told you that it’s not your job to know HOW your soul mate is going to appear? What if I told you it’s only your job to be ready, willing and open to love. Think about it this way: You really don’t know where air comes from but you do believe that it’s always there for you, right?
The same is true for love. It’s there for you. It’s always been there for you. You just need to remember the love that you are and once you do, the Universe will deliver to you the perfect soul mate.
Here is what worked for me and I know it can work for you: When I was in my early forties I decided to manifest my soul mate using everything I had ever learned about manifestation, psychology, spirituality, and the Law of Attraction. My intentions became crystal clear while I simultaneously cleared out the clutter in my house AND in my heart. I learned and invented techniques, rituals, visualizations and prayers that helped me prepare my body, mind, spirit and home for an amazing relationship. And they worked. I met my husband, Brian, who has exceeded all of my desires and expectations. He was and is everything I ever wished for.
Finding true love is possible for anyone at any age if you’re willing to prepare yourself to become a magnet for love.
Want more tips on how to magnetize Mr. Right?
Start by taking your man blinders off.
Then unlock the secrets of going from Ice to Nice.
And be sure to check out the top 30 places to meet men this month!
Want to start Lisa’s 30 Day Get Out There Challenge from the beginning?
About The Expert
Arielle Ford has spent the past 25 years living and promoting consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction. She also created THE SOULMATE KIT to help singles manifest Mr. Right in no time.
How to Meet Your Husband in 2011
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 3, 2011 - 12:00 pm
Be honest. Did your New Year’s resolutions for 2011 include some variation of “I want to meet my husband this year!”? Then keep reading. It’s time to set the scene so you can purposefully and powerfully manifest Mr. Right.
First, let’s clarify your REAL resolution. The truth is, I don’t think what you REALLY want is to be married. I believe what you ultimately want – what most single women want – is to find YOUR beautiful, blissful, unique happily ever after story. You want to fall madly in love with Mr. Right. And vice versa.
Why wouldn’t you want that?
Every person on the planet deserves to find healthy and happy love with their perfect partner. There’s just one problem. A lot of single women don’t have all the tools they need to get love right. You may not have all the tools you need to get love right.
I know I didn’t when I was single. Once upon a time, I repeatedly got love WRONG. I chose the wrong men. I didn’t know my own needs, let alone how to communicate my own needs to my partner. I let my emotional baggage rule my relationships. And as a result, my relationships suffered under the tremendous weight of my baggage.
I wasn’t the only one coming to the relationship with unhealthy habits, beliefs, and patterns. My partners weren’t exactly poster children for healthy and happy men. And why would they be? If like attracts like — and it does — I was always attracting my emotional equal. Ay-ay-ay!
You will, too. And that’s why it’s essential to get as healthy and happy with yourself and your own life before becoming somebody’s wife. Before settling down with someone, you’ll want to make peace with yourself, your issues, and any baggage you haven’t already healed. The truth is, nobody can fix you, save you, rescue you, or heal you. That is, no one but Y-O-U.
So if you’re stuck in a fantasy that Prince Charming is going to come along and save you from your so-so life, do yourself a huge favor and rescue yourself this year. How do you rescue yourself? Start by following these 4 basic steps:
Step #1: Identify What or Who is Holding You Back
Whether you think your ex was The One, if your dysfunctional family has you running away from getting close to others, or if your beliefs about love have somehow shut you down to the possibility of ever finding it again, keep reading. The first step in opening up to healthy and happy love in 2011 is to identify who and/or what is holding you back from manifesting Mr. Right.
The truth is, your past may be keeping you stuck in ALL areas of your life. To get un-stuck, now’s the time to name and claim your obstacles in order to deal and heal. This may be a step that requires professional help. Enlist the assistance of a therapist, coach, mentor, or friend to work with you through the breaking free process.
Step #2: Release Your Need to Be Right and Surrender to Being Happy
Are you so attached to your beliefs that love has to be difficult, unsatisfying, or impossible to experience that your need to be right is overpowering your desire to be happy? Here are some examples of what I mean:
Are you choosing to be right as in Yes, you ARE too old, too fat, too screwed up to ever find love…
Are you choosing to be right as in Yes, your ex was the best thing that ever happened to you and you’ll never meet anyone as amazing as he was ever again…
Are you choosing to be right as in Yes, your parents screwed you up so badly that there’s no way love can show up for you…
If so, then your need to be right about being single is far more powerful than your desire to change your single status. Starting today, what if you simply chose to be HAPPY? If all you have to do to meet your husband is CHOOSE to no longer believe that it’s hard, impossible, or out of reach for you to experience the kind of love you desire and deserve, how EASY is that? If all you have to do to meet your husband is CHOOSE to be happy as you are right now, instead of who you may one day become (that debt free, cellulite free, baggage-free ideal we long to become but may never actually attain), how FREEING is that? If all you have to do to meet your husband is surrender to the beautiful truth that love IS available for you, that it’s not too late, that you’re open to it showing up any day now, how FABULOUS is that?
Today, surrender your need to be right about why you’re still single and instead choose a happier and healthier love future, even if it hasn’t shown up yet.
Step #3: Celebrate Good Men
Now that you’ve identified who and what may have been holding you back from manifesting Mr. Right, and have surrendered to the fact that happiness is so much sexier than the need to be right, it’s time to take the next step in your journey towards meeting your husband. It’s time to start celebrating the good men already IN your life. The truth is, there are good men EVERYWHERE, both already in your life and just passing through on a daily basis. However, if you do not see them, acknowledge them, and celebrate them, you will forever sabotage your chances of meeting your husband. Start paying attention to the men who open doors for you, who help you fix your flat tire, who share their umbrella with you, who smile at you, etc. Celebrate these simple acts by good men and before you know it, you’ll start appreciating men more and more. And when the right one comes along, you’ll be ready to recognize and celebrate HIM!
Step #4: Become The Chooser
So many women spend years — decades even — letting other people choose what’s best for them. They let their parents tell them what to do. They let boyfriends and ex-husbands tell them what to do. They let their alpha female friends tell them what to do. They let their jobs and bosses tell them what to do. And they remain in the passenger seat of their lives.
So how do you become The Chooser in your life? First, you stop WAITING for opportunities to find YOU. Specifically, you stop sitting around, hoping some guy will notice you. You STOP attending singles events and lurking on online dating sites just hoping and praying someone will see you, fall madly in love with you, and rescue you from your humdrum life.
Instead, you get ballsy, put yourself out there, smile, make eye contact, and talk to men on a daily basis (at the grocery store, in the latte line, in the elevator at work, at the gym, in line for popcorn at the movies, while rollerblading on the beach, on the subway, at the bookstore, while volunteering for that cause near and dear to your heart, while enjoying live music at your favorite hot spot, at the chiropractor, at yoga class, etc.) See how many opportunities there are in every day life to make eye contact, smile, and strike up a conversation? Have fun with this!
Step 5: Understand the Difference Between Mr. Wrong, Mr. Next, and Mr. Right
As you start meeting men in 2011, pay attention to which category you put them in. Mr. Wrong is the guy you’ve dated and ultimately assessed that he does not measure up to your long term wants, needs, and desires. Mr. Next is a guy you’ve met and started to get to know. He shows a whole lot of promise, and yet you’re withholding your final decision until you find out more about him. He could be your husband, but for now he’s Mr. Next. And that’s a good thing! Mr. Right is that elusive, once or twice in a lifetime guy who comes along, meets your wants, needs, and requirements, shares similar goals and plans for the future, and is interested and available for commitment with you. AND, you are interested in him and available for commitment with him. Trust me, this guy is worth the wait. If you haven’t found him yet, you’re well on your way.
For more tips on how to meet your husband in 2011, enroll in my FREE 30 Day Get Out There Challenge for Singles.
You can also pick up my e-book How to Meet Your Husband: Unlock the 5 Essential Secrets to STOP Attracting Jerks, Get Out Of Your Dating Desert, and Manifest Mr. Right.
