30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day 22 — Expansion vs. contraction
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 31, 2010 - 6:03 am
Psst…when it comes to making change, taking a leap, and having faith, you have 2 choices:
You can hunker down, contract, and squelch your energy
Or you can breathe, FEEL, and expand your energy
By staying in expansion, you learn your lessons with as little pain, discomfort, or drama as possible. And, you shift more fluidly.
By contracting, you stay small, experience more pain, and don’t necessarily move through your process as quickly.
So which would you rather do?
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day 21 — Are fairytales f***ing w/ you?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 30, 2010 - 6:05 am
Are you hung up on your happily ever after story being absolutely, postively perfect?
Do you think that Prince Charming will be flawless?
If so, you may need to give yourself a serious reality check.
Love is imperfect.
So are you.
And that’s the good news!
Celebrate your fabulous imperfections – and those of Mr. Right – by letting go of unrealistic expectations.
Understand that Mr. Right may be shorter than you imagined. Or have a crooked bottom tooth. Or drive a car that’s not brand new.
And that’s okay.
How does he make you FEEL?
That’s what’s really important.
For tips and techniques to manifest a real man, get my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right.
And report your successes by leaving a comment here or on my Facebook Fan page.
Dating 101: Top Five Ways to Meet the Man You’ll Marry
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 6:02 am
Shameless plug alert! My friend Carol Allen, vedic astrologer and relationship coach, is absolutely amazing! I recently read an article she posted on Yahoo! Personals entitled Dating 101: Top Five Ways to Meet the Man You’ll Marry that I thought you’d be interested in. Check it out…
If you’re fabulous, single, and utterly mystified by your ongoing solo status, it may be time to “work smarter, not harder” at meeting the right man for you.
Many otherwise bright and successful women find that this part of their lives hasn’t magically worked out like they expected. Upon closer examination, it becomes clear that they haven’t taken advantage of the best ways to meet single men — usually for no other reason than they simply didn’t know better.
Although these suggestions may sound obvious, if you’re still single and don’t want to be, chances are you haven’t realized what you can do, or haven’t made enough of an effort. So here goes!
The five best ways to meet the man of your dreams:
1. Spending Time With Other Single Women. An active social life with other single women has been statistically found to be the top way that women meet their husbands. Why?
Click here to read the full article.
Don’t make THESE mistakes! (I did)
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 29, 2010 - 8:00 am
Lisa Steadman's It's A Breakup Not A Breakdown Workbook
I get a ton of email from amazing women who are in the throes of their Big Breakup. And they all want to know one thing…
What mistakes did I make during my Big Breakup that they can avoid as they try to pick up the pieces and move on?
My initial thought is, How much time have you got?
Truthfully, I committed many cardinal breakup sins along my journey towards Happily Ever After. Specifically…
• I stayed connected to my ex, falling in and out of bed with him for ONE YEAR after our second breakup, hoping, praying, and wishing our obvious incompatibilities could be conquered by simply LOVING EACH OTHER (which we weren’t very good at to begin with!)
• While I dated other guys during that year, my heart was so connected to my ex that I pushed them all away (and lost out on some really great guys!)
• I believed I WAS THE PROBLEM, I was a failure at love, and with nothing to look forward to in my future, why not stay stuck in the past?
• I stopped believing in myself, in my value, in my beauty, in my worth (this was the worst thing that happened!)
Sound familiar? Are you making these mistakes in your own heartbreak recovery?
If so, how long are you going to punish yourself?
How long will you tell yourself that where you are is acceptable, that you deserve the pain you’re in, and that happily ever after only exists for other people?
How long are you willing to stay stuck in the pain of the past, with no hope of ever stepping into your magnificent future?
What if you stopped beating yourself up today?
What would happen if you let go of your ex, stopped taking his calls, emails, and texts, and actually went cold turkey?
What MIGHT happen if you believed that there was someone else out there for you, someone BETTER SUITED for you, and that he was doing all his emotional work to get to you in record time? Wouldn’t you do the work necessary to reach him in record time?
Wouldn’t you start loving yourself more, treating yourself with kindness and compassion, and ask for the help you DESERVE?
I know you would. I know because I’ve been there, done the work, had the faith, and moved on to MY blissful future.
I’ve also seen it time and time again with the women I work with in my 8 Week Heal Your Heart Teleclasses.
Today, I invite you to stop making those mistakes that are killing your spirit. I want you to stop robbing yourself of your happiness. By doing this one thing differently, i.e. disconnecting from your ex, you will accelerate your healing and move on in record time.
For help getting through your Big Breakup, get your copies of It’s A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life – for good! and It’s a Breakup, Not a Breakdown Workbook: A 21-Day Action Plan to Plot Your Revenge, Spoil Yourself, and Find Out How Good Your Life Is Without Him.
Share your successes and challenges with me here.
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day 20 — Create a Vision Board for 2010
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 6:07 am
Ready to manifest the life you’ve been dreaming about?
First, you must have a vision for that life.
And not just a vague idea about Mr. Right.
I’m talking a clear vision of your life, your love, and your future.
Today is the perfect day to get clear about your vision by creating a vision board.
Watch my video to see one of my 3 vision boards that hang in my office.
And start working on your own. Have fun with this exercise!
Report your successes by leaving a comment here or on my Facebook Fan page.
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day 19 — Are you waiting to be rescued?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 28, 2010 - 6:08 am
Be honest. Are you waiting for Prince Charming to come along and rescue you?
Are you putting off dealing with your emotional clutter, financial messiness, or other area of your life until Mr. Right shows up, sweeps you off your feet, and takes you away to a perfect life?
Stop waiting. And start fixing.
On your own two feet.
Mr. Right is doing his work to get ready for you. Isn’t it time to do your work to get ready for him?
Take steps starting today to heal the past, face yourself in the mirror, deal with difficult issues, and set yourself free from the need to be rescued.
That way, when Mr. Right shows up, you’ll be ready.
For more tips on how to get ready for Mr. Right, get my book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right.
And report your successes by leaving a comment here or on my Facebook Fan page.
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day 18 — Forgive Your Past
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 27, 2010 - 6:10 am
Are you still hung up on the past?
Are you angry with your family, your ex, or someone else who you feel wronged you?
You cannot move forward until you FORGIVE.
This includes forgiving yourself.
Take an inventory today to see who you still need to forgive. And take steps to forgive them.
For additional support when it comes to forgiving your past, get my ebook Bad Love No More: How to kick limiting relationship beliefs to the curb and say yes to real and lasting love!
And report your successes by leaving a comment here or on my Facebook Fan page.
Woohoo 30 Day Challenge: Day 17 — Pamper yourself
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 26, 2010 - 6:10 am
Hard work deserves great rewards.
Today, treat yourself to a little pampering.
Get a mani-pedi.
Book a massage appointment.
Splurge on a new outfit.
Or, if finances are tight, take a relaxing bubble bath at home.
Go for a walk on the beach.
You’ve been putting a lot of time and energy into this challenge. And today is the day to reward your efforts. have fun. Enjoy! Treat yourself with excellent self care.
And report your successes by leaving a comment here or on my Facebook Fan page.
30 Day Woohoo Challenge: Day 16 — Become a red flag specialist!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 25, 2010 - 6:11 am
We can learn a thing or two from Tiger and Elin Woods and Jesse James and Sandra Bullock.
Have you pretended everything was okay, even though your partner’s beliefs, behavior, and habits rubbed you the wrong way?
In the past, have you knowingly ignored all signs that Mr. Wrong was not the guy for you and gotten into a relationship with him anyway?
Did you stay too long, put up with too much, and grow increasingly frustrated with the relationship?
Then you most likely were ignoring a whole lotta red flags.
There’s a reason for gut reactions. They’re meant to tell us things we may not consciously understand.
The next time your gut starts screaming at you, pay attention.
Act accordingly.
And instead of blindly jumping into a relationship with both feet, make an educated choice about the person you’re dating. Are they worthy of investing time, energy, and emotions?
Before you commit to someone who may not be worthy of your trust and love, pay attention.
For additional support on how to get clear about men and how to spot red flags, get my ebook Bad Love No More: How to kick limiting relationship beliefs to the curb and say yes to real and lasting love!
And report your successes by leaving a comment here or on my Facebook Fan page.
The Backup Plan: Life (and love) is what happens when you’re busy making other plans
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 24, 2010 - 7:22 pm
I recently attended a screening of Jennifer Lopez’s new film The Backup Plan. In the movie, Jennifer plays an ex-corporate 39 year old woman who left her lucrative tech job because it wasn’t satisfying, launched her passion project, a high end pet boutique, and without Mr. Right in sight decides to get artifically inseminated. Within weeks, she’s pregnant.
Enter Mr. Right.
Hilarity ensues as this Type A woman tries to navigate the sweet surrender of imperfect, beautiful love, motherhood, and work.
As the closing credits rolled, I couldn’t help thinking: Love is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.
And I was reminded of my own journey to happily ever after. A journey that started with The Big Breakup, led to my exit from Corporate America, and ultimately landed me 3 book deals, a juicy coaching practice, and Mr. Right.
For both myself and Jennifer’s character Zoe, our backup plans worked out better than expected.
With the economy being what it is, I know that there hundreds of thousands of people out there who have been forced to reinvent their careers and lives due to corporate downsizing. And there are countless others who have opted to walk away from the money and prestige of Corporate America to launch a passion project. I went in search of these extraordinary individuals. And here’s what I discovered…
Logging Off
Six months ago, my husband and I left a fast paced life in NYC for a more ‘outdoorsy’ life in small town Colorado. He left his stressful but money making job as a sales trader. I kept my PR job and now work from home. In the beginning, there were a lot of uncertainties, but ultimately we decided to take the adventure over stability and security. We took a 2 week road trip across country filled with many stops and lots of adventures. Life is very different here, and we love it and have no regrets. We also feel a lot more inspired and motivated to have more adventures in the future. My husband is now a mortgage lender and seems to have a fulfilling career in front of him. I hope to start a garden and maybe even a bee colony in our backyard this summer.
- Casey Corrigan
Bought the Farm
After I raised my sons, I left California and moved 3000 miles away to Connecticut to live my lifelong dream. I didn’t know anyone or have any definite plans for work. I just followed a little voice inside me. I bought a 211 year old farm house and turned it into my sanctuary, started a sustainable company and don’t put up with any nonsense anymore. Following my heart/passion/dream has been the best thing I have ever done, next to my children. I recommend implementing your backup plan to anyone wholeheartedly!
- Lesley Burton-Dallas
Number Cruncher-turned-Fashionista
I used to be an accounting manager, but the dream I had since I was 5 years old was to be a fashion designer. Accounting was a great career choice, but the more I worked for someone else the more I felt that I wasn’t being honest with myself. It got to the point where there was just too much to lose if I didn’t pursue my dream of fashion and design. I couldn’t stand crunching numbers and doing something for a company that wasn’t my own. Now I sew beautiful gowns for people who really appreciate what I do and most of all I’m happy doing what I love to do on a daily basis!
In addition to quitting working in the accounting field, I finally found the time to lose 30 pounds of weight and really become healthy before I turn 30 in September. It’s funny how we worry ourselves about money when we work, but we don’t pay attention to what it is doing for our souls and our bodies. It was the best decision I have ever made for my life!
- Jennyvi Dizon
Downsized Deja Vu
I took my sideline business full-time as my Backup Plan when I was laid off from the Corporate World for the second time in Fall of 2007. In these difficult times where employers toss aside people without any thought, and business owners are struggling and people are losing confidence in themselves, I teach others that they have a simple Backup Plan that is easily tapped into and always within their reach. So not only am I living my Backup Plan, but I work to empower others to do so as well so they are not so vulnerable in the workplace.
- Melanie Jordan
Fertile Mertyle
I was in Brand Management/Strategic Marketing for large consumer packaged goods firms. I was quite successful, but also quite miserable at the job. After my personal battle with infertility, I just couldn’t go back to something that seemed so meaningless. And I couldn’t justify all the hours away from my kids and the lack of flexibility solely for a paycheck. So I started The Adoption Consultancy helping other infertile singles and couples to build their families. I basically serve as a ‘wedding planner’ for adoption helping my clients to navigate the maze and avoid the pitfalls of adoption. We take a proactive approach that enables our clients to adopt healthy newborns within 6 months, on average. Now I do something that honors my personal struggle, that truly makes a difference for others, and that allows me the flexibility & lifestyle that I desire as a working mom.
- Nicole Witt
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