Get Your Holiday Style On: Make yourself touchable!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on December 22, 2009 - 8:00 am
Calling all savvy single ladies! Want to magnetize men to you?
Start by making yourself look more touchable! And that’s not all…
Did you know that what you wear underneath your wardrobe changes the way you move/the way you feel/the way you present yourself to men?
Recently, I grabbed my video camera and tripod, and enlisted the expertise of personal image consultant Kim Seltzer of http://eliteimagemakeovers.com/.
Here’s what I love about Kim. She’s not just a guru when it comes to what to wear. She’s also a relationship expert. Love that! So she knows not only what you should wear on dates, but how to score second dates. Woohoo!
Kim revealed five valuable tips for how you can look your best, feel your best, and rock all those holiday parties.
Here’s tip #2:
Get Your Holiday Style On: How to turn heads, magnetize men, and have fun this holiday season
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on December 21, 2009 - 8:00 am
Calling all savvy single ladies! Want to know how to rock your look this holiday season?
Ready to channel your inner diva, make your entrance, and become a man magnet at all those holiday parties?
Recently, I grabbed my video camera and tripod, and enlisted the expertise of personal image consultant Kim Seltzer of http://eliteimagemakeovers.com/.
Here’s what I love about Kim. She’s not just a guru when it comes to what to wear. She’s also a relationship expert. Love that! So she knows not only what you should wear on dates, but how to score second dates. Woohoo!
Kim revealed five valuable tips for how you can look your best, feel your best, and rock all those holiday parties.
Here’s tip #1:
Done with dating drama, disappointment, and disaster? In 2010, get the help you DESERVE to call in Mr. Right!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on December 16, 2009 - 2:06 am
I recently worked with an amazing film crew and some of my phenomenal clients to share my message of how working with me can dramatically change the results you’re getting in life and love. I’m THRILLED with the results and happy to share it with you now.
And if you’re REALLY ready to rock your love life in 2010, sign up for my transformative If He’s Not The One, Who Is? 8 Week TeleClass.
Here’s what YOU’LL discover when you join my next transformative If He’s Not The One, Who Is? 8 Week TeleClass, starting in February:
* How your relationship past defines your love future — and what to do about it
* What your subconscious mind really believes that is sabotaging your genuine desire for love
* The unhealthy dating and relationship traps, tricks, and blatant lies that are messing with your head
* How to stop attracting jerks, losers, and/or emotionally unavailable men
* How to identify the damaging dating personas you fall prey to, and what you need to do to break free of them — forever
* How to step out of scarcity thinking and into abundance dating
* How to stop getting sidelined unnecessarily by dating disappointment (it’s NOT the same as heartbreak!)
* What the perfect target rich environments are for you — and what to do about them!
* How to tell the difference between Mr. Next and Mr. Right
And here’s my recent class graduates have to say about what they gained from the program:
“Lisa’s classes have opened my eyes and changed my beliefs about what is possible. There were limiting and sabotaging behaviors she shared with us that I didn’t even know I was doing. No wonder I was attracting men that were not good for me! I’m also starting to notice men noticing me, which I really never paid attention to in the past. There is someone I’m interested in and I feel he is interested in me. Now I feel more confident to attract him and be open to the possibilities!”
– Shanon
“This class was soooooo good and I feel like a lot of what we have been working on FINALLY fell into place. It was like a revelation of where I shall go next with my own reinvention. It’s like after years and years living (and dating) in the dark, the lights came on! Thank you for such great guidance and advice!”
– Beth
“Lisa has helped me through a breakup, and now she’s shown me the way to new relationships. I always learn something new when I interact with Lisa and value our work together so much. While I used to beat myself off for having “stayed too long,” on the other hand that path led me to Lisa, and that keeps opening me up to new paths and avenues in life. Thanks!”
– Gene
SIGN UP NOW for my transformative If He’s Not The One, Who Is? 8 Week TeleClass!
When you commit to your future by New Year’s Eve, I’ll celebrate with you by gifting you a 35% savings. But hurry — space is limited and at these prices, class will fill up FAST!
Have you been “Turkey Dropped”?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on December 1, 2009 - 11:27 am
I just read this on npr.org. Click here to listen to the audio story on All Things Considered. And yes, I subscribe to kcrw, so I’m sure they don’t mind me re-purposing their material…
It’s not just turkeys that get nervous this time of year. Chances are high that a failing relationship will also meet its end during the holidays. That’s because it’s not just turkey season — it’s turkey drop season.
“The turkey drop is that holiday breakup season where all the college students return home for their first major vacation, and everyone breaks up,” Washington University junior Carly MacLeod tells guest host Robert Smith. She writes the romance column for the student newspaper.
It’s often freshmen who do the majority of the turkey dropping, MacLeod says. After three months living apart and making new friends, high school sweethearts reunite to find their long-distance relationship is more burden than they want. Upcoming finals add to the emotional stress. “Go home, hook up and break up is pretty much the pattern,” MacLeod says.
You’re not safe from the turkey drop if you’re out of college, either, according to relationship and sex advice guru Dan Savage. “For grown-ups,” he says, “it’s the anticipation of being stuck for three or four more months.
“You’re a cad if you break up around Christmas. And then there’s New Year’s — and you can’t dump somebody right around New Year’s. After that, if you don’t jump on it, is Valentine’s Day,” Savage says. “God forbid if their birthday should fall somewhere between November and February — then you’re really stuck.
“Thanksgiving is really when you have to pull the trigger if you’re not willing to tough it out through February.”
Both Savage and MacLeod speak from experience. MacLeod was turkey dropped her first year in college, by a boyfriend who told her the distance was too hard to handle. “He was still a senior in high school,” she says. “That one hurt even a little bit more than, I think, a regular breakup.”
Savage doesn’t have any advice to share from his breakup. “I’m actually bad at the turkey drop,” he says. “I had a turkey drop that was coming, and I fled the state.”
Ready to call in The One? Join my FREE call!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 29, 2009 - 12:00 am
Then you won’t want to miss my FREE call where I reveal 5 simple secrets that’ll change EVERYTHING when it comes to your love life…
EVEN if your subsconscious is telling you these secrets won’t work for you, that they’re only for smarter, prettier, younger women, I encourage you to join the call anyway.
In fact, one of the secrets I’ll reveal has to do with how your subconscious is sabotaging your chances of success.
Before you let her win, stop. Take a deep breath.
And trust that there’s a better way to call in Mr. Right, starting this holiday season!
Join my FREE call on Tuesday, December 1 @ 6pm Pacific where I’ll reveal 5 simple secrets that’ll change EVERYTHING when it comes to your love life.
These secrets are so profound that when I implemented them, I met my husband within 2 months!
Now, I’m not promising you’ll get the same instant results, but now that you know how easy and powerful these secret strategies are, why not implement them THIS WEEK?
Enter your name and email address below to get the call details delivered to your email inbox.
And to ask me your question right now, email ask@lisasteadman.com.
“If He’s Not The One, WHO Is??”
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 25, 2009 - 10:03 am
I’m single. Again. I’m 32 and single again.
There, I’d confessed my darkest sins.
Wait.
I’m 32 and single again and I feel like a total failure at love.
That was the tough love truth. And it stung. The year was 2003. And while my best friends were all settled or settling down with their annoyingly adorable husbands, I was nowhere near the road to happily ever after.
Was that even what I wanted anymore? Truthfully, I didn’t know. What I did know was that while I was no longer in survival mode from my Big Breakup with Mr. Ex, a journey I later chronicled online and in my first book It’s A Breakup, Not A Breakdown, I wasn’t exactly sure where this new destination was. Mr. Wrong was gone. So was the soul crushing agony of getting over him. Somewhere between our last booty call and deleting his number from my cell phone, I was single again.
Did I feel footloose and fancy free? Sure. But with that newfound freedom came some harsh realities. Without my breakup pain to keep me company, I felt a little lost. Empty. Alone. I actually missed missing my ex.
And that’s not all.
If I was completely honest with myself, I was starting to feel like a failure at love. After all, the Big Breakup wasn’t my first breakup. It was but one of many disastrous relationships throughout my 20s and early thirties that seemed like my very own reality show aptly titled, “Loser At Love…Again!” And, as if on cue, at 32 I was starting over. Yet again.
I was living alone. Again.
I was minus a Plus One at parties. Again.
I was faced with the disappointment that Mr. Wrong was not The One. Again.
That’s when the big fat fabulous truth smacked me upside my single and fabulous head.
I was free to reinvent myself. That’s when the fun really began.
When I gave myself permission to let go of any stigma I felt about being the token single girl at parties…
When I embraced the idea that my happily ever after journey might not involve a ring, a ceremony and reception, and/or the pitter patter of little feet (other than my two cats)…
When I woke up to the beautiful truth that because I was single I could be selfishly indulgent, quitting my job, changing careers, and ultimately pursuing the life I’d always dreamed of, I realized that not only was I 32 and single — again — but I was also ready to rock my fabulous single life, BIG TIME.
I, Lisa Steadman, would date lots of wildly exciting and different men (and I did).
I, Lisa Steadman, would live my life according to my own ever-evolving rule book (sometimes casting aside the rules altogether).
I, Lisa Steadman, would take risks, ask for what I wanted, and trust that the universe would take care of me (99% of the time, it did).
And…
I, Lisa Steadman, would never, ever put myself in the position of crying over the wrong guy again (and I didn’t).
Eventually, I did meet an exceptionally exciting and annoyingly adorable man. And while my happily ever after journey evolved to include a sassy strut down the aisle, I did it on my own terms.
I provided my own engagement and wedding rings (family heirlooms that I cherished).
I kept my name (if it ain’t broke, why fix it?).
And the bride wore red (I looked FABULOUS!).
As for the pitter patter of little feet, well, that hasn’t changed. In our household, our two cats still hold court, but who knows?
What I DO know is that if you’re somewhere between the pain of the past and your happily ever after future, and you’re single — again or for the very first time – your chance to find and enjoy your happily ever after has not passed you by. In fact, you’re right on time. Along the way, you’ll discover some great inner truths…
Maybe you’ll decide to be single and fabulous forever.
Maybe you, too, will date wildly exciting and different men until you find your perfect partner (a.k.a. Mr. Right).
Maybe one day you’ll strut your sassy stuff down the aisle, say “I do,” and enjoy the pitter patter of little feet.
Regardless of the end destination, today’s the day to start rocking your new single and fabulous journey. First, you’re going to break free of whatever’s holding you back (or whatever you’re holding onto from your past). Then, you’ll wake up to what’s possible now that Mr. Wrong is gone. From reinventing your savvy single life to letting go of old patterns and behaviors that may be sabotaging your relationship success to understanding the boys to avoid on the dating scene, you’re going to master the art of not only waking up to your new and improved life, but moving on to your revised happily ever after destination. Along the way, you’re going to meet a variety of interesting and available Mr. Nexts, but you’re not going to foolishly give your heart away to just anyone. Instead, you’re going to apply your valuable lessons learned, and in time manifest Mr. Right. Then and only then will you hand over the keys to your healed heart and say “Yes!” to the fantastic future that awaits.
As you move into your fab future, you’re not so much on a quest to answer “Who’s next?” (although you may discover that along the way). You’re actually stepping into a beautifully life shifting journey towards the revelation of “What’s next?”
How fabulous is that?!
(Excerpted from Lisa Steadman’s If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right — available January 18, 2010.)
The Savvy Single’s Must-Have Holiday Wish List
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 7:00 am
Calling all savvy single ladies! Have you made your list and checked it twice? There’s no doubt you’ve been both naughty and nice this year, so to help round out your holiday wish list the following are five must-have items for the coming year…
For your naughty side…
Whether you’re flying solo these days and need a toy of your very own, or are looking to spice up your sex life with the man in your boudoir, you’ll definitely find what you’re looking for at http://www.blissconnection.com/. And if you’ve got a group of girlfriends looking to spice things up this holiday season, why not have your very own Bliss Pleasure Party during the holidays?
For your celebratory side…
Suddenly single? Recently recycled? Or just looking to show your single gal spirit? Pick up a flirty tee for you or your dog @ singletease.com. From single gal tees with sayings like just ask me (out), support your local library (check me out), and looking for good pick-up lines to adorable tees for your pup with sayings like say hello (we don’t bite), paws-tively single, don’t make me beg (for your #), and pet me (if you’re single), you’ll be flirting and meeting men in no time!
For your dating side…
Looking to rev up your relationship goals in 2009? Why not enlist the help of a dating coach? Join my upcoming 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass, starting in February. When you sign up in 2009, you get a 35% discount AND a free session with me to kick start your journey!
For your pampered side…
Between all those holiday parties, the shopping for gifts, and spending time with family, it’s easy to get overloaded. Be sure to take some time this holiday season just for you. Whether you sneak off for a quick mani-pedi session with your girlfriends, get a relaxing massage at a spa, or splurge on my fave product line of sugar scrubs, lotions, candles, and potions @ Klean Bath & Body, how you pamper yourself is not important. What’s important is that you give yourself the gift of some much needed M-E time this holiday season.
As for that sexy beefcake, hottie hipster, or naughty nerd in disguise who’s on your list, well that part’s up to you. But if you arm yourself with the proper single gal tools, the above items included, you may just snag yourself someone special next year. And in the meantime, celebrate being single. It’s a gift this holiday season so make the most of it!
How to spend 6 weeks with me in 2009, and 8 weeks with me in 2010 for 1/5 the price!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 23, 2009 - 12:56 pm
Last week, I gave a FREE call where I shared five valuable tips for beating the holiday blues and celebrating your single self this holiday season.
Were you on the call?
If not, WHY?
I’ve heard from so many of you who have called, emailed, and IM’d me on Facebook, all saying you’re having a tough time beating the holiday blues right now.
You’re feeling sorry for yourself that you didn’t meet the love of your life in 2009.
You’re over your ex, but you still find yourself obsessing about how they’re spending the holidays (and with who!).
You’re feeling completely behind schedule for the life, the love, and the family you really want.
I get it. And I want to support you through this challenging time.
I actually want you to have fun this holiday season!
That’s why I posted my 5 tips on my blog. You can actually implement all five starting today.
That means you can beat the holiday blues BEFORE you sit down to turkey dinner.
Woohoo!
Imagine spending the next six weeks feeling relaxed, confident, and filled with self love…
Imagine walking into all those holiday parties with a sassy spring in your step because you’re CELEBRATING your single self all season long…
Imagine how ATTRACTIVE you’ll be to all those single and available (and cute!) men when you feel absolutely fabulous about yourself this holiday season…
And imagine standing under the mistletoe with somebody who’s super cute and excited to kiss you!
This is absolutely, positively possible – THIS YEAR!
But you’ve got to break free of the blues you’re feeling and celebrate your most magnificent self.
You can get started today by implementing my five valuable tips.
And for five MORE valuable tips, join my FREE call (based on YOUR requests for more information!) on Tuesday, December 1.
Want hands-on help this holiday season?
(That’s me and some of my AMAZING clients!!!)
Spend the holidays with ME! Sign up for my Holiday Blues Buster package now to get hands on support this holiday season INCLUDING:
- SIX private 60 minute phone calls with me (I’m giving you my private number!)
- UNLIMITED email access (including weekends and holidays)
- Six weekly Sunday evening group chats online for added support
PLUS…
- FREE enrollment in my next 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? TeleClass, starting in February. (A $697 value PLUS $2,500 in FREE bonuses!)
– An advance autographed copy of my upcoming book If He’s Not The One, Who Is?: What Went Wrong – and What It Takes to Find Mr. Right, not available anywhere else until January 2010.
The value of my Holiday Blues Buster package is over $5,000.
Your investment?
$997.
Am I crazy?
No.
But I am committed to helping each and every one of you who wants to break free of the holiday blues and celebrate the season and YOURSELF.
Actually, that’s not entirely true.
While I want everyone to have a fabulous holiday season, I’m only offering 10 amazing individuals the opportunity to spend the holidays with me in my inner circle.
That’s because the work is so hands-on!
And 2 Holiday Blues Buster packages are already snapped up.
What are you waiting for??? Sign up NOW!
Check out this short video by my client Kerianne who was the first to sign up for my Holiday Blues Buster package after her first coaching session with me…
What are you waiting for???
Sign up for my Holiday Blues Buster package, spend the next six weeks with me, AND enjoy 8 weeks with me in 2010 in my next 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? TeleClass – ALL FOR JUST $997!
With all the bonuses you receive with this package, you’ll get $5,000 in value for just $997!
Just call me Mrs. Claus! 
But seriously, what are you waiting for? It’s never been (and never will be again) easier or more affordable to work with me both privately AND in a group.
I can’t wait to work with you. But hurry!
Single Again, Now What?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 20, 2009 - 8:54 am
After a breakup or divorce, starting over can be hard. Starting over when you’re the only single person you know can be even harder. You may start questioning your value, grow increasingly insecure, and/or obsess about if and when you’ll find your perfect partner. However, instead of stressing about being the only single in your social circle, celebrate it! The following tips will show you how.
Tip #1: Be your own arm candy
When you’re the only one single in your social circle, it’s all too easy to get down on yourself. Everyone else seems so happily hooked up that, especially when you’re going through a dating dry spell, you can start to feel isolated, alienated, and/or insecure. Sound familiar? If so, stop. Instead of dreading going solo to your next social outing while everyone else has a date, give yourself permission to be your own arm candy. Buy yourself a fab new outfit, slip into those sky high stilettos (or sexy sandals, bold boots, etc.), channel your inner diva, and make a confident entrance your friends will not soon forget. Not only that, but turn on the charm, practice a little harmless flirting, and in general be your most fabulous self. By letting go of any fears and/or insecurities you hold about being the only single person in the group, you allow yourself to enjoy the fun and freedom that goes along with being footloose and fancy free.
Tip #2: Celebrate being single
While it can sometimes feel like being single is a life sentence you’re forced to endure, it’s simply not true. In fact, being single is nothing more than a state of mind. So while you’re in the single stage of life, why not celebrate? Enjoy the freedom to come and go as you please, take pleasure in the endless dating possibilities by putting yourself in target rich environments on a regular basis, and give yourself permission to flirt with cute strangers as often as possible. By making the most of this extraordinary time in your life, you take the pressure off of when you’re going to find your perfect partner, and instead celebrate Y-O-U and the amazing life you already have.
Tip #3: Enlist your friends for help
Instead of looking at your circle of happily hooked up friends as a liability, consider them an asset. After all, your friends’ boyfriends and husbands probably know a single guy or two worth meeting. Why not enlist their help by asking about their single friends? If they seem uncomfortable, let them know that they don’t have to play Cupid. All you’re asking them to do is invite these friends to your next social gathering so that you can get to know one another in a casual group setting. No pressure. If your friends still seem unwilling to help, they may need to be reminded that being single has its challenges and if the tables were turned, you’d gladly help them. Chances are, they’ll be more than happy to lend a hand.
Tip #4: Widen your social circle
If you feel that being the only savvy single in your social circle is keeping you from meeting potential partners and/or in any way makes you feel bad about yourself, it may be time to widen your social network. Start by taking a look around your current network. There may be other fun and fab singles under your nose that you just haven’t noticed before. Maybe a friendly coworker, neighbor, or friend of a friend. If so, great! Invite them to do something social just the two of you in the near future. If it goes well, continue nurturing that relationship, and join forces to “get out there,” enjoying target rich environments on a regular basis together.
If on the other hand, you don’t know any other singles in your existing social network, do yourself a favor and widen your circle further. Look into singles groups, joined a networking organization, and/or take a class/pursue a passion where you’re likely to meet like-minded singles (not to mention potential dates). Stumped for ideas? Do something fun like enroll in a salsa/swing/line dancing class, take a gourmet cooking course, or participate in a foreign language conversation group. This is a great way to meet new people while doing something you enjoy anyway. Talk about a win-win!
There will be times when being the only single person in your social circle will feel incredibly stifling. But just as it’s important to enjoy this stage in life and broaden your network of friends, it’s equally important to practice patience. Being single isn’t something to suffer endlessly through. Instead, with a slight attitude adjustment, you can easily fall in love with your footloose and fancy free life. In doing so, you take the pressure off, and celebrate Y-O-U for the amazing individual that you are.
Broken or brand new? Support Kerianne through her breakup!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 15, 2009 - 9:00 am
Struggling to heal and move on from your breakup? The holidays can make things harder. But don’t give up.
This weekend, I had the pleasure of working with my new client Kerianne, who’s ready to break free from her heartbreak and move into hope, possibility, and action.
Follow Kerianne’s journey as she gets over her ex with style, sass, and strength.
Day by day, Kerianne’s working on being brand new, not broken.
Let’s hear it for Kerianne!
And how will you step into action to heal your heart? Go from broken to brand new in record time!
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