Has your life changed in 30 days? Mine has!

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 12, 2009 - 4:55 pm

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Whew! What a month it’s been!

Here’s just some of the highlights, both exquisite and excruciating…

– My 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass launched and is now in Week #4

– I attended an AMAZING (and you may even say life altering) five-day event with brilliant success coach David Neagle in Las Vegas

– I started a detox program and have lost 6 pounds (remember my goal of losing 20 by Valentine’s Day? Woohoo!)

– Our beloved cat Maya became suddenly and seriously ill and we had put her to sleep

Honestly, I could go on and on about how the last 30 days have been truly transformational for me.

But I’d rather hear from you.

How has your life transformed in the last 30 days?

What have you been celebrating, struggling with, and/or shifting?

It’s been a rough month, don’t worry. It doesn’t mean you’re not making progress.

It may mean you’re FINALLY facing your demons, dealing with resistance, and possibly changing your life for the better.

At least I hope that’s what all the struggle and strife is about. I’d hate for you to be struggling and suffering without any payoffs in the end.

The amazing women in my 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass have been undergoing massive transformations. And while it’s not all easy and fun, they’re always sharing the power of those shifts. I’d like to share some of their emails with you…

On Week #1:

I just wanted to let you know that I absolutely LOVED the call last night. I got so much more out of it than I expected! WOW!! AWESOME!

On Week #2:

“I just want you to know that these calls are amazing and are really helping me work through things and realize things I haven’t in the past. I want to thank you for all you have done for me and continue to do. You are truly an amazing person and I am grateful everyday that you are part of my life.”

On Week #3:

“I’m still totally amazed by my experience last night. I felt like it completed a circle for me. For as long as I can remember, I have been stuck with emptiness and thinking I didn’t deserve to be happy and positive. I have spent years telling myself that God loves me over and over trying to feel better. But last night I was able to feel the love I had for myself as my “wise old self” looking at who I am right now.”

On Week #4:

“I finally realize that I am not going to settle for crumbs, shortchange myself or settle for less than I deserve. The next time I fall in love it will be with someone who can reciprocate. I will no longer be just a place holder. And I now know how to forgive myself for being and staying in a relationship that wasn’t working.”

Pretty amazing, isn’t it? I’m so honored to lead this class and so proud of the women who are changing their future every day.

btw, I just opened enrollment for my next 8 Week If He’s Not The One, Who Is? Teleclass. Even though class doesn’t start until 2010, you can enjoy a super fabulous 35% discount AND get plenty of hands-on support (a.k.a. private coaching!) through the holidays when you sign up now!

Truthfully, life isn’t always easy. That’s why you’ve got to ask for help…

While I have experienced tremendous bliss in this last month, I’ve also felt excruciating loss with the passing of my very first pet, our beloved cat Maya.

My husband and I didn’t even know she was sick until she started vomiting uncontrollably and drooling. We were blessed that we weren’t traveling and got to be home with her in her final week. It went so fast!

Honestly, making the decision to put Maya down was one of the hardest decisions of my life. I felt confused, scared, sad, angry, and lost. Kind of like how you feel when losing someone you love to a breakup or divorce, right?

I’m thankful I didn’t go through this all alone. I had my husband, my family, and an incredible vet, who we finally found after much frustration, thanks to our dear friend Marissa, who’s a vet in San Luis Obispo. When she heard Maya was sick, she dropped everything to review medical records, xrays, and make thoughtful suggestions and referrals.

In the end, we did what was right for Maya. And when she died in my arms, surrounded by the most compassionate vet on the earth, my mother, my sister, my husband, and myself, we all cried tears of both sadness for our loss and joy because it was such a dignified end to such a beautiful life.

And that’s when it hit me.

When we leave a relationship, or when someone leaves us, we don’t always get a dignified ending.

We don’t always get to celebrate the love we shared because we’re often too focused on the loss, the pain, and the tremendous sadness we experience.

We wallow because we’re afraid to let go and be alone, to lose our love, and to start again.

But starting over is essential.

Not only that, it’s healthy!

My husband and I have started over in a world without Maya. Our cat Buster has started over and actually relishes being Top Cat for the first time ever. Maya isn’t with us anymore, but she’s far from forgotten. She’s in our hearts, our memories, our framed photos, and in little moments that remind us of her. We regularly talk and laugh about her cute little pink nose, how she liked to be scratched between her ears, and how she flirted with every man who ever set foot through our front door, including, and most especially my husband.

Over the years, Maya and I had been through numerous breakups, plenty of heartbreak, and while she loved each and every one of my boyfriends, she loved my husband best of all.

Scratch that – she worshiped and adored my husband. Sometimes I think she wished she had him all to herself and didn’t have to share him with me.

And I think my husband relished the role of being the provider in the house, taking care of his sometimes-needy, often bossy, but genuinely loving ladies. Between me and Maya, he had his work cut out for him!

Now that Maya’s gone, the balance of energy has shifted in our home. I’m now the lone female living with two sweet, sensitive, adoring, lovable men, my husband and our cat Buster. It’s now my turn to take care of the men in the house, and I LOVE doing it!

Sometimes I’m sad when I think of Maya, but mostly, I’m happy because wherever she is, she’s happy, peaceful, and pain-free. And I survived putting her down, something I didn’t think was survivable.

But I’m still here.

If you’re struggling to pick up the pieces and move on with your life, I want that to change right this very minute.

Today, I invite you to start LIVING beyond the pain, loss, despair, and grief you’re experiencing.

I also invite you to celebrate the love you once had, give thanks for having experienced it, and LET IT GO.

I invite you to stand up, give yourself a big, fat hug, and remind yourself that you SURVIVED.

You SURVIVED the loss of love.

You SURVIVED the uncertainty of life without your ex, of standing on your own two feet, of being single again.

When will you truly THRIVE?

When will you fall in love with yourself, your life, and the love that’s still here?

When will you celebrate your strength, resilience, and power?

Let today be the day.

Today, I invite you to:

– Take a look in the mirror and get to know the amazing, brilliant, brave woman staring back at you

– Take an inventory of what you’re thankful for, both in your life and from your last relationship

– Celebrate the fact that you loved, you lost, and you’re still here

And then go out and do something bold, brash, and beautiful!

Maybe you’ll get a makeover, chopping your locks, and stepping into the most fabulous version of yourself…

Maybe you’ll put on your most booty-licious jeans and strut your stuff down the street, flirting with strangers…

And maybe you’ll finally get up the courage to talk to that cutie you always see in the latte line, on the subway, or at the grocery store…

Give yourself permission to have fun! (You deserve it!)

When in doubt, check out my daily video tips on how to heal your heart by New Year’s Eve.

And if you have any questions, e-mail ask@lisasteadman.com.

I’m here to support you and help you re-awaken to that blissful, beautiful, abundant life you deserve to live.

It won’t always be easy, but it will be well worth the effort, I promise!