How to Beat The Holiday Blues BEFORE Thanksgiving

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 11, 2009 - 7:00 am

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Last week, I gave a FREE call where I shared 5 secrets for beating the holiday blues when you’re single. The great news is, you can implement these tips immediately and rock your holiday season BEFORE Thanksgiving…

Single Strategy #1: Focus on friends and family
Instead of obsessing about what went wrong with your ex or why you didn’t meet the love of your life this year, focus your energy and attention this holiday season on your friends and family. You are loved by many people! You may just need to tweak your perspective. Take some time to reconnect with old friends, tell a family member how much you love them, and in turn heal your broken heart.

Single Strategy #2: Pamper yourself
Think of all the money you’re saving by being single this holiday season! No ungrateful ex to shop for, no annoying in-laws to visit, no ridiculous lovers’ spats after one too many cups of eggnog. This holiday season, celebrate your single status by pampering yourself. Spend a day at the spa. Splurge a little on gifts for yourself. Decorate your home to your heart’s content. Whatever floats your boat, you’re footloose and fancy free to do it!

Single Strategy #3: Reserve the right to say “None of your bees-wax”
Nosey relatives asking too many questions about What went wrong? Well-meaning but intrusive friends trying to tell you what to do to find love? This holiday season, your single status is nobody’s business but your own. So when someone sidles up to you with a gossip gleam in their eye and asks, “So where’s What’s His Name?” reserve the right to protect your healing heart. Simply smile and say, “None of your business.” Or, if you’re so inclined, choose a more radical response, i.e. “I shipped him off to Afghanistan for the new year,” or “He’s contemplating his bad behavior from behind ex-boyfriend bars.”

Single Strategy #4: Become your own arm candy
Stressed about going to holiday parties alone? Instead of fretting about all those outings by yourself, celebrate being single by being your own arm candy! Before going to the party, stop by the mall makeup counter and get a professional makeover. Wear that saucy red dress and stiletto boots. (Or if you’re a guy, invest in that cologne that makes women weak at the knees, or buy a new sweater or blazer that makes you feel like the hunk o’ man you are). Then walk into the party like you own the room. Go ahead – give yourself permission to be your own arm candy!

Single Strategy #5: Give yourself permission to celebrate your slump
There will be times this holiday season when you won’t feel like celebrating. Times when you will want to mourn the loss of your past relationship or feel sorry for yourself for still being single. And that’s okay. Give yourself permission to turn down a party invitation or two in favor of curling up with a good book, a glass of wine, or your favorite sappy movie in your pajamas at home. This is your life – feel it, celebrate it, let it go!

What do you think about these 5 tips? Share your comments here on my blog.

And for 5 more tips to beat the holiday blues and celebrate your single status, join my upcoming FREE call. I’ll offer laser coaching for the first 5 individuals who speak up. Woohoo!