Become A Widow for A Day

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 19, 2009 - 11:00 pm

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Before you can break free from your breakup, you first have to mourn the loss in style.

By being a relationship widow for a day, you allow yourself to properly mourn the death of the life you had with your ex, a life that encompassed many beautiful, amazing, fun experiences.

That’s the thing about breakups. They’re like little deaths. The life you once had no longer exists. While there are plenty of reasons why that’s a blessing (with more and more reasons revealing themselves as you heal and move on), there are also plenty of reasons why you’re hurting.

Maybe you didn’t see the breakup coming so the shock and surprise feel overwhelming.

Or maybe you initiated the breakup, and now feel a sense of disappointment that what could’ve been will never be.

Or maybe the breakup was mutual, with both of you realizing that your lives were going in different directions and that it was simply time to move on.

Even so, the sorrow and loss you experience is very real. At times, it can feel suffocating. But before you hyperventilate or hide under the covers until the year 2050, now would be a good time to remind yourself that everything you’re feeling is perfectly normal. In fact, it’s healthy. In other words, let the grieving begin!