Got dumped? Get bitter, then get better!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 30, 2009 - 7:44 am
Think you can skip over your post-breakup bitterness?
Think again.
Before you can move on, you need to embrace your bitterness. Become a bitter girl. Let yourself get pissed, cynical, snotty, and snappish. That’s the next step in your post-breakup funk, and a great tool for eventually letting go and moving on.
Start by answering the question, “I’m bitter because…”
When in doubt, review Chapter 6 in It’s a Breakup, Not a Breakdown Workbook: A 21-Day Action Plan to Plot Your Revenge, Spoil Yourself, and Find Out How Good Your Life Is Without Him shows you how to become bitter, and then let go.
Got questions? Email Ask@lisasteadman.com.
How to advertise your single status
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 29, 2009 - 7:44 am
Ready to rock your single status? You need to find a advertise your sassy single self. Here’s how:
1. Get a sassy single tee @ SingleTease.com
2. Splurge on single gal bling @ DivineDiamonds.com
3. Get a new outfit that inspires you to strut your sassy stuff
4. Go for a new cut, color, and highlights that’ll have you turning heads in no time
Whatever it is, find some way to celebrate your single self, starting today!
Afraid of being single? Face your fear factor!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 28, 2009 - 7:00 am
Afraid to be single? Today’s the day to face your fear factor. And no, I’m not talking about eating bugs or anything gross. I’m talking about facing whatever fears you have about the breakup, your ex, or being single again. Be really honest with yourself and make a list of these fears.
Maybe you’re:
-Afraid that your ex is going to move on faster than you
-Afraid that your ex is going to get married and have a family and you’ll be single and alone forever
- Secretly afraid that you’re the reason that the relationship didn’t work
- Petrified that you will never get love right
It is okay to feel this way and until you face it, you won’t be able to let go of those fears.
Chapter 6 in It’s a Breakup, Not a Breakdown Workbook: A 21-Day Action Plan to Plot Your Revenge, Spoil Yourself, and Find Out How Good Your Life Is Without Him is all about facing your fears. Take time doing the exercises in Chapter 6. They will help you face your fears so you can release them and heal your heart in record time.
Got questions? Email Ask@lisasteadman.com.
Miss your ex? Make your Bedroom Sexy Again
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 27, 2009 - 7:00 am
Hate the way your bedroom feels after a breakup? Give it a makeover!
Go to your bedroom, take a look around. What still reminds you of your ex, is it the bedding? You can easily change your bedding. Head to your nearest Target. You can find inexpensive, cute, fun and even girly bedding. This will help you heal your heart in record time and feel good about getting into bed. While you are there, pick up some new pajamas.
You can also move the furniture around if there is room, change the wall your bed is on or change the feel of the room with a new scent. If you want a dramatic difference, paint the walls in your bedroom. Find a new vibrant, fabulous color.
Give yourself permission to reinvent your bedroom in fun, fresh, fabulous ways!
How to Get Revenge against your ex
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 26, 2009 - 7:00 am
I’m going to tell you exactly how to get revenge on your ex.
-Get him evicted from his apartment
-Make up a story to get his new girlfriend to dump him because of all the lies and secrets you tell her
-Key his car
-Get him fired by telling his boss all these horrible stories about him.
Honestly, DON’T DO IT!
Revenge does not work. It is not in your best interest and will not help you heal your heart. The best revenge is:
-Healing your heart
-Success
-Moving on in record time
These are the types of revenge that are better. The other types of revenge seem great but only fantasize about them.
Step effortlessly and heroically into your future. Making your future the best it can be and the most successful it can be and that is the best type of revenge you can get.
Breakup feeling like a breakdown? Engage your rage!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 23, 2009 - 7:00 am
Feeling stuck in your heartbreak recovery?
Have a lot of unanswered questions that are boiling over and making you mad?
Believe it or not, before you can get over your ex, you MUST get mad!
What does that look like?
Start by punching a pillow. Or get a voodoo doll and stick pins in strategic places. Turn on angry chick music (Alanis’ Jagged Little Pill is a good one!) and wail along with the singer.
Become a diva and throw a full blown tantrum (in the privacy of your own home, of course).
Letting yourself feel each and every icky emotion as it comes to you will help the rage eventually subside. In its place, peace will find a way in. And that’s something to look forward to.
In the meantime, go off!
Broken hearted? Have you password protected yourself?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 22, 2009 - 7:00 am
Recovering from a breakup?
Have you password protected yourself?
Whether you know it or not, you’re most vulnerable in heartbreak recovery when it comes to your online and offline security.
Did you share passwords, keys, insurance policies, etc. with your ex? Now’s the time to update your secure information.
Start by making a list of all the sensitive information you shared with your ex. One by one, change your passwords, remove him from your policies, and get those house keys back.
The sooner you do this, the sooner you can move on with confidence that your online and offline life are well-protected.
Broken up over your breakup? Write your ex a letter!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 21, 2009 - 6:00 am
Got unanswered questions?
Wonder why your ex dumped you?
Wish you could get closure for your confusion?
Write your ex a letter. Don’t send it! Just write it. By getting all your emotions out on paper, you release them, and create NEW space in your head and heart to eventually invite someone new in.
How to ditch, donate, or destroy your ex’s stuff!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 20, 2009 - 6:00 am
Got ex boyfriend reminders lying around? Before you can move on with your fabulous life, you’ll want to ditch, donate, or return any remaining reminders that your ex actually existed.
Here are the benefits of ditching your ex’s stuff: By burning, trashing, thrashing, and smashing your ex’s stuff, you engage your rage and move THROUGH it. Talk about therapeutic! But then again, it’s not to nice, so you decide if it’s the right approach for your.
Now, donating your ex’s things can make you feel oh so fabulous because you’re giving to others and that feels good. Why not be a do-gooder AND get rid of his things?
Of course, you may feel that returning your ex’s belongings is the fair thing to do. Have a friend do the returning for you, so you’re not tempted to act out or hook up.
By making your space ex-boyfriend-free, you give yourself the space and time you need to heal your heart and move on in record time.
Become A Widow for A Day
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 19, 2009 - 11:00 pm
Before you can break free from your breakup, you first have to mourn the loss in style.
By being a relationship widow for a day, you allow yourself to properly mourn the death of the life you had with your ex, a life that encompassed many beautiful, amazing, fun experiences.
That’s the thing about breakups. They’re like little deaths. The life you once had no longer exists. While there are plenty of reasons why that’s a blessing (with more and more reasons revealing themselves as you heal and move on), there are also plenty of reasons why you’re hurting.
Maybe you didn’t see the breakup coming so the shock and surprise feel overwhelming.
Or maybe you initiated the breakup, and now feel a sense of disappointment that what could’ve been will never be.
Or maybe the breakup was mutual, with both of you realizing that your lives were going in different directions and that it was simply time to move on.
Even so, the sorrow and loss you experience is very real. At times, it can feel suffocating. But before you hyperventilate or hide under the covers until the year 2050, now would be a good time to remind yourself that everything you’re feeling is perfectly normal. In fact, it’s healthy. In other words, let the grieving begin!
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