Ask Me ANYTHING! Upcoming F*R*E*E* Call with Coach Lisa
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 23, 2009 - 7:59 am
Got questions about how to heal and move on following your breakup?
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Join my next free Ask Lisa Call on Monday, August 3rd @ 6pm Pacific. On the call, I’ll answer all your burning relationship questions PLUS, offer laser coaching to the first five people who speak up!
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Lisa’s Media Roundup
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 7:30 am
I’ve been doing a lot of media lately, talking about how to heal your heart in record time. Feel free to tune in to:
Top 5 Social Media Mistakes People Make Following a Breakup on KTLA Morning News
3 Essential Steps to Heal Your Heart with Kim Iverson
Better Sex Radio with host Chrystal Bougon
Out The Box Radio
More to come. Stay tuned!
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My husband was right (I hate that!)…
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 7:00 am
My husband was right. He usually is. And it’s downright infuriating!
See, ever since we started dating four years ago, he has been telling me about his favorite philosophical story, the Myth of Sisyphus. (Bear in mind that he was a philosophy major in college and that I tend to tune him out when he tells this story. ?)
In any event, the Myth of Sisyphus goes something like this. Sisyphus, a figure in Greek mythology, angered the Gods by defying death. His punishment? He was condemned to repeat forever the same meaningless task of pushing a rock up a mountain, only to see it roll down again.
Now, my husband likes to tell this story because, while it would have been easy for Sisyphus to get frustrated and angry about this menial job for the rest of his life, he instead made peace with the absurdity of his task and found personal satisfaction in doing the job well.
My husband finds solace in the story.
I, on the other hand, find the story depressing.
Here’s why I hate this story. I don’t like to look at life like a constant series of challenges, i.e. the never ending chore of pushing a boulder up a hill only to watch it tumble back to the bottom and start all over again. It just doesn’t align with the way I choose to look at life. And the idea of being happy about such a crappy life sentence? In a word, I think it sucks.
But you know what? My husband is right.
As I found myself once again huffing and puffing up my favorite hike in the hills above my home in Southern California this morning, it dawned on me how right he is.
See, I hate this monster hill that starts my hike. Even though I do the hike three times a week, it never seems to get easier. Each and every time I start at the bottom, I stare up at the top and curse the journey I’m about to take. One step at a time, I tackle the 45 degree angle incline, huffing, puffing, pumping my arms, feeling my thighs burn. When I finally reach the top, I raise my arms above my head in victory, and meander through the beautiful hills, feeling empowered and peaceful.
It’s a great way to start my day!
And every single time, within minutes of reaching that initial summit, I forget all about how much I hate the beginning of the hike.
And the next time I find myself at the bottom, I once again curse the hill and start trudging up it.
This morning, as I was half way up the hated hill, I thought about Sisyphus, existential philosophy, and the choice we all have to either let our present circumstances (no matter what they are) crush us, or rise above the monotony and embrace the journey we’re on.
Five years ago, my hated journey involved healing my heart and moving on from my Big Breakup.
Four years ago, it was summoning the strength to leave my corporate job and launch my passion profession.
Three years ago, it was trying to land a book deal after tons of rejection letters.
Two years ago, it was figuring out how to write my book with a serious case of tendinitis (voice software saved the day!).
Last year, it was trying to find a way to still have a life, get married, and balance love and work in a more profound way.
And today, it’s how do I grow my business to the level I desire, while still making time for hiking, yoga, and quality time with my husband.
What’s your current monotonous task in life?
Is it figuring out how to heal your heart after devastating disappointment?
Is it trying to find a way to make peace with being single, even though you’d like nothing better than to meet your perfect partner, settle down, and live in blissful love together?
Is it the perpetual struggle to overcome any of the fears, obstacles, and blocks that keep you from living your life to the fullest?
Regardless of what Sisyphus-like journey you’re currently on, is there a way you could look at it differently?
Is there any way to make peace with the ongoing challenges you face?
If we know that life is sometimes hard, sometimes good, sometimes bland, and sometimes downright mind blowing…
And we know that we have a choice in how we react to the ups and downs handed to us…
Doesn’t it make sense to summon our inner strength and choose to rise above our challenges, rather than let them crush us?
Could we (don’t tell my husband) learn something from the Myth of Sisyphus after all?
I guess what it all boils down to is this. If we know there will be bumps in the road, and we won’t always be able to anticipate them, isn’t it in our best interest to celebrate the uncertainty, embrace change, and adapt to our current circumstances?
I know one thing. Tomorrow morning, when I stand at the bottom of that hill, I’m going to look up, smile, and give thanks for the journey I’m about to embark on. I invite you to do the same.
And drop me a line to let me know what your particular journey is right now. I’d love to know.
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Have you reviewed your relationship bill of rights?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 19, 2009 - 7:00 am
I was at a barbecue recently with some dear friends I hadn’t seen in a while. My girlfriend, mother to two tween girls, asked me if I’d seen the Teen Dating Bill of Rights. She then handed me a piece of paper, explaining that her daughters had been given a copy to help educate them on how to handle relationships with boys.
As I was reading the teen dating Bill of Rights, it struck me how important this information was. And not just for preteen girls (although I love the idea that young girls are being educated in how they deserve to be treated by boys).
My clients – smart, savvy, amazing grown up women like you – could benefit from reviewing and incorporating the dating bill of rights, too.
In my coaching practice, I’m constantly reminded that it doesn’t matter how smart, beautiful, cultured, talented, and/or amazing a woman really is. She can still get stuck in the wrong relationship. She can still put up with way too much crap from some guy who doesn’t deserve her. And she can still forget her value, worth, and self respect.
To that end, I am including the Dating Bill of Rights below. I encourage you to review it, print it, and put it somewhere that you’ll see it on a daily basis – on your fridge, on your bathroom mirror, by your bed, etc. This is simple yet profound information. Use it to better your dating future.
Enjoy!
Dating Bill of Rights and Pledge
I have the right:
1. To always be treated with respect.
2. In a respectful relationship, you should be treated as an equal.
3. To be in a healthy relationship.
4. A healthy relationship is not controlling, manipulative, or jealous.
5. A healthy relationship involves honesty, trust, and communication.
6. To not be hurt physically or emotionally.
7. You should feel safe in your relationship at all times. Abuse is never deserved and is never your fault. Conflicts should be resolved in a peaceful and rational way.
8. To refuse sex or affection at anytime.
9. A healthy relationship involves making consensual sexual decisions. You have the right to not have sex. Even if you have had sex before, you have the right to refuse sex for any reason.
10. To have friends and activities apart from my boyfriend or girlfriend.
11. Spending time by yourself, with male or female friends, or with family is normal and healthy.
12. To end a relationship.
13. You should not be harassed, threatened, or made to feel guilty for ending an unhealthy or healthy relationship. You have the right to end a relationship for any reason you choose.
I pledge to:
* Always treat my boyfriend or girlfriend with respect.
* Never hurt my boyfriend or girlfriend physically, verbally, or emotionally.
* Respect my girlfriend’s or boyfriend’s decisions concerning sex and affection.
* Not be controlling or manipulative in my relationship.
* Accept responsibility for myself and my actions.
Don’t you just love it? Feel free to add, edit, and tweak your own personal bill of rights to match your wants, needs, and desires.
Need help implementing your Bill of Rights? Contact me for support. I want to help you reconnect to what’s possible.
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When will you unleash your ROAR?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 14, 2009 - 7:00 am
I’ve got a question for you. Are you playing it safe?
Are you living small, playing by the rules, and in general, tiptoeing through your life?
If so, how’s that working for you?
More importantly, how’s that NOT working for you?
How has playing by the rules kept you stuck, limited, and unsatisfied?
How have you squelched the authentic part of you that wants more, dreams bigger, and believes in possibility?
Maybe playing it safe has kept you in unsatisfying relationship after unsatisfying relationship.
Maybe living small has kept you from pursuing your dreams, taking a risk, and stepping outside your comfort zone, all necessary requirements for living your dream life.
I see it time after time. Women choosing to play it safe because they don’t know how to unleash their ROAR.
Women settling for less than they deserve in life and love because they’re too afraid to open their mouths and ROAR.
Are you one of them?
And if so, when will you unleash your ROAR?
What’s it going to take for you to step up to your Remarkable Openness to Awakening and Reinvention?
That’s really what I’m talking about. When you ROAR, you’re really…
Awakening to what’s possible
Opening up to making change and getting better results
Summoning the inner strength to reinvent in the face of fear and uncertainty
If you ask me, the time is now. You’ve played it small long enough. And look what it’s gotten you…
Mediocre relationships
A so-so life
Heartbreak after heartbreak
The general feeling that you’re not living your best life
So again, I want to know…
What’s it going to take for you to unleash your ROAR?
As someone who has had her fair share of life’s ups and downs, faced reinvention time after time, and constantly challenges herself to ROAR, I want to help you.
I want to help you unleash your ROAR!
Sounds scary? It’s not. In fact, it’s freeing, fabulous, and fun! And it starts with a simple and profound baby step.
It starts with committing to your ROAR right this minute. Sign up to work with me privately before my coaching prices go up July 15. Click here for details.
Again, I ask…
What’s it going to take for you to unleash your ROAR?
What’s it going to take for you to let go of the never ending cycle of:
Mediocre relationships
A so-so life
Heartbreak after heartbreak
The general feeling that you’re not living your best life
And instead embrace what’s possible including:
Healing your heart and attracting the love of your life
Living life on a grander scale, fully committed to your most authentic self
Breaking free of all limiting beliefs and self sabotaging behaviors to live your dream life
This is such an exciting time for you. What are you waiting for? Sign-up to work with me right now! But hurry – my coaching rates go up by $1500 TOMORROW!
I can’t wait for you to unleash your ROAR!
Still reading? You’re definitely ready to ROAR! Here’s that link one more time.
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Well behaved women rarely make history…
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 11, 2009 - 7:00 am
I’m not a bumper sticker kind of person. But the one bumper sticker I ever put on my car was this simple and profound mantra…
Well behaved women rarely make history.
Don’t you love it? It absolutely epitomizes my belief about how to live life.
To me, this simple statement means:
Taking risks yields great rewards
Playing by your own set of rules is essential to your success
Getting dirty in the school of life is NECESSARY
So let me ask you…
Have you spent your ENTIRE life playing by the rules, coloring within the lines, doing exactly as you are told?
If so, then be sure to check out my Feature Article (keep reading) on how YOU can misbehave to get more out of life.
Have you said yes when you really meant no, accepted disrespect when you really wanted respect, and sacrificed yourself for someone else’s happiness?
If so, you may be too well behaved.
And you know what else? You may be squelching your true self.
I used to do that.
Once upon a time, I followed everybody else’s rules.
I accepted less than I deserved.
And I found myself in relationship after relationship that didn’t meet my needs.
Guess what else? I was miserable!
And I stayed miserable until one day…
I woke up to the fact that I wanted and deserved more
I tuned in to my inner voice that said This is the way to your dream life…
I gave myself permission to follow that voice as it got louder and clearer, and led the way to my dream life
Today, I’m very blessed. Not lucky. Let’s be clear. There is no luck here. I did the work, took the risks, and now enjoy the rewards.
If you’re reading this and thinking…
That’s great for you but that will never work for me
I can’t afford to risk that much
True love, happiness, and blissful living are only possible for people with money, good looks, a trust fund, etc…
Stop right there. It’s just not true.
When I started this journey, I had very little.
There wasn’t a lot of money in the bank.
My family didn’t understand why I needed to leave my stable job and pursue this unknown and scary career of helping women heal their hearts after a breakup.
People looked at me, puzzled, when I told them that I had moved/rented out my beautiful condo and was sleeping on my best friend’s living room floor for the summer.
BEST. DECISION. EVER.
And I stand by that statement. See, if I had continued down the road of being well behaved, I never would have…
Let go of my ex
Walked away from a life I knew to step into my passion profession, complete with amazing clients, book deals, and abundance
Met, attracted, and married the love of my life
With my great risks, came great reward.
The same is true for you. If you’re stuck in a life that no longer works…
Trying to make the best of a no-win relationship
Feeling so squelched and suffocated by playing small
Ignoring that voice that’s telling you This is the way to your dream life…
Then everything will stay the same. Forever.
WORST. DECISION. EVER.
Instead, isn’t it time to misbehave?
Let me rephrase that. NOW is the time to misbehave!
And it starts by investing in your magnificent future.
It starts by saying yes to what’s possible for you.
It starts by being willing to risk in order to enjoy rewards greater than you ever imagined.
I want to help you live your best life.
I want to help you get unblocked.
I want to help you heal your heart and manifest your heart’s desire.
Together, we can do anything. So come on, let’s misbehave!
BUT HURRY – my private coaching rates go up July 15. To save $1500, act now and sign up today!
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Look who’s enjoying success!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 8, 2009 - 7:00 am
There’s nothing I enjoy more than helping women heal their hearts, re-create what possible for them, and step into their magnificent futures. The work I do both privately and in my group coaching is powerful.
Just the other day I got a really amazing email from a former client that I just have to share with you…
“Lisa, I want to thank you again for all you’ve done for me. After breaking up with Mr. Dullsville last year (as you know), and dating some really great guys who weren’t quite right for me, I met Joe…Since April 1st-ish I don’t think there has been a day that we have not talked or saw each other. He introduces me his girlfriend and I introduce him as my boyfriend!!! (That has not happened since 2006!) This last weekend his mom was in town visiting and I spent the weekend with him, his mom, aunt and uncle. The comment that I hear the most when friends meet him for the first time is that I look happy and he is a great guy. His family loved me and the way the two of us interact. Anyway there is the update!!!!! I have a boyfriend!!! I couldn’t have done it without you!”
– Teri V.
How fabulous is that? I remember when Teri and I first started working together. It was almost a year ago. She was struggling to heal her heart and move on from someone she knew wasn’t right for her but she just didn’t have a vision of someone better. Together, we healed her heart in record time, created a beautiful vision for her future, identified limiting beliefs and blocks, and got her into target rich environments on a regular basis.
Now, one year later, after playing the field successfully, she’s in a beautiful, loving, supportive relationship. All because she committed to her fabulous future before she’d ever experienced it. Woohoo!
Are you ready to make the shift, get out of your own way, and commit to your blissful future? Sign up to work with me privately. Together we will:
Identify your relationship readiness
Plow through limiting beliefs, blocks, and self sabotaging behaviors
Heal your heart in record time, completely exorcising your ex from your online and off-line life
Get clear about what you want in life and love and create an action plan to get there
Create a new love vocabulary to masterfully call in your perfect partner
And so much more!
For all the details on how working with me privately will transform the next six months of your life, click here.
BUT HURRY – my private coaching rates go up July 15. To save $1500, act now and sign up today!
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Replay of last night’s AMAZING call
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 7, 2009 - 7:00 am
Wow! What an awesome call tonight! Thanks to all the amazing women who participated. If you missed the call, you can listen to the replay here:
http://www.instantteleseminar.com/?eventid=8152419
On the call, I shared some valuable tips for healing your heart and offered laser coaching.
Thanks to everyone who participated!
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