Next week, ask me ANYTHING!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on June 30, 2009 - 7:00 am
On the journey from Boohoo! to Woohoo!, where are you?
Are you stuck in the grief, confusion, and despair following the end of a relationship?
Are you single and ready to manifest better dating results?
Or are you done with dating and ready, willing, and able to do whatever it takes to masterfully call in the love of your life?
Regardless of where you are on the journey, getting some hands-on help, support, and guidance will dramatically accelerate your success.
By simply gaining clarity and creating a concrete action plan, you will plow through blocks, let go of limiting beliefs, and manifest your heart’s desire.
I want to help you get there. I want the next six months to be powerful, transformative, and downright awe-inspiring!
So how do you get started?
Sign up for my free call on Monday, July 6 @ 6pm Pacific.
On the call, I’ll answer all of your burning questions. Plus, I’ll give laser coaching to help you break through those blocks, sabotaging beliefs, and obstacles in your path.
To get started, register for the free call here:
http://lisasteadman.com/ask-lisa-steadman
When you do, you’ll get an e-mail with all of the call details delivered directly to your inbox. There will even be instructions on how to submit your questions before the call.
The first step is simple. Simply register for the call here:
http://lisasteadman.com/ask-lisa-steadman
What comes next is exciting! Hands-on help, support, and guidance to get you where you want to go in the next six months.
Imagine how empowered you’ll feel on New Year’s Eve, knowing that just six months earlier you committed to yourself, your future, and your success. Picture yourself sipping champagne and toasting to the coming year, knowing that you will continue manifesting everything your heart desires.
How exciting is that?!
Again, here’s that link to register for the free call:
http://lisasteadman.com/ask-lisa-steadman
I look forward to speaking with you soon.
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The Benefits of Breaking Up
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on June 20, 2009 - 11:00 pm
You know the story about the single girl who never dated, never had a relationship until one day she met the man of her dreams, got married, had children, and lived happily ever after?
Neither do I.
The truth is, dating is a numbers game and you’ve gotta be in it to win it. Which means that along the way, you’re going to experience a breakup or two. And according to a recent study out of Northwestern University, breaking up is not so hard to do. In fact, can be freeing and fabulous! So the next time you’re out there in the dating trenches and experience a breakup, remember that in addition to the disappointment, there are plenty of benefits to breaking up.
Benefit #1: Practice Makes Perfect
Once upon a time, breakups were considered a taboo topic. But in 2007, they’re like badges of honor that every savvy single must endure. After all, how are you going to know what you really want in life and love without experiencing a little bit of what you DON’T want? After each breakup, you get the opportunity to evaluate your last relationship for its good and bad qualities and decide how that’s going to shape the type of partner you pursue moving forward. Without the breakup, you’d never get these opportunities.
Benefit #2: The Value Of “Me” Time
Another benefit of breaking up? The opportunity to put the focus of your life back on you – your wants, your needs, your desires. While relationships can be amazing and love can feed your soul, there’s also something incredibly freeing and fabulous about being on your own. By really knowing who you are as an individual, you have the opportunity to create and live an authentic life. In doing so, you’re that much more likely to attract your perfect partner. And along the way, you’re free to celebrate your fabulous self!
Benefit #3: Celebrating Friendship
Over the course of your single and fabulous life, romantic relationships will come and go. But friendships? They stand the test of time. And there’s no better time to celebrate your friendships than between breakups. It’s your friends who help you heal. Your friends who remind you why your ex wasn’t good for you, and why they’re definitely not worth pining over now. While you should never let friendships slide when you’re in a relationship, after a breakup is the perfect time to reconnect, renew, and rejoice in your friends.
Benefit #4: Discovering Your Own Resilience
Oftentimes, in the throes of a bad breakup, you question your ability to survive. Occasionally, you even mistakenly think that your innate fabulousness is somehow tied to our ex and without them, you are nothing. The beauty of going through a breakup or two (or ten) is in discovering your ability to not only survive but thrive on your own two feet. In awakening to your own resilience, you discover how fabulous you really are. And that’s worth a little heartache, don’t you think?
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Breakup Recovery Tip #7: Create A New Nighttime Ritual
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on June 19, 2009 - 2:05 pm
Breakup Recovery Tip #6: Give Your Bedroom A Makeover
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Breakup Recovery Tip #5: Practice Self Nurturing Behavior
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Breakup Recovery Tip #4: Journal Your Recovery
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Breakup Recovery Tip #3: Create A New Morning Ritual
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Breakup Recovery Tip #2: Recruit A Boohoo Crew
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Breakup Recovery Tip #1: Exorcise Your Ex
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Can we be friends? The ABCs of Ex Etiquette
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on June 17, 2009 - 11:00 pm
Can we be friends?
After a breakup, this simple question can weigh heavy on your mind. As a heartbreak reinvention coach, I often hear this question from clients. And my answer is always the same — no. Why? Because as hard as it may be to accept, your relationship is over. This person is now your ex. The relationship ended for a reason. It’s now time to EXtract your ex from your life, give yourself time to heal, and find the space to move on. Most people who try to stay friends with their ex are just doing so in hopes of either rekindling the relationship or using the other person as a crutch until someone better comes along. What happens when it’s the other person who moves on first? Ouch!
Of course, there are certain circumstances in which you can’t avoid maintaining a relationship with your ex, but for now, the following is a cheat sheet on appropriate ways of communicating with your ex after the Big Breakup.
By Phone
The reasons for talking to your ex on the phone are…wait. There are none. Delete his number from your cell phone. And if he leaves you a message, listen to it only once in case your million-dollar check from Publishers Clearing House somehow ended up at his address. Then delete immediately and move on.
Via Email, IM, Text Messaging, Facebook
After you’ve arranged to return each other’s stuff, delete your ex from your email address book, your Facebook friends, and your instant messaging contacts. That way when you’re having a fragile moment at three A.M., you’re not tempted to contact him. (The repercussions the following day can be both embarrassing and costly to your recovery). And if you were hoping to keep tabs on your ex by tracking his every online move or possible new dating adventures via his Tweets? Don’t do it. It’ll just make you wonder who he’s talking to (or obsess about those girls who keep leaving him flirty @ replies), and you don’t need that. Delete him from all of your social networking sites immediately.
In Person
And because there are just too many emotions swirling around in your post-breakup head, you should avoid seeing your ex in person at all costs. If you see your ex too soon, you run the risk of suffering potentially bad consequences, like maybe these including any or all of the following:…
1. Losing face by crying hysterically
2. Waking up beside him the next morning and realizing you just had sex with your ex
3. Getting arrested for assault and battery
Let’s face it. None of these situations are is ideal. So if you can, avoid seeing your ex until your emotions are more stable. Only you can determine when that will be (and it’s okay to say never!).
Breaking up is never easy. And staying connected to your ex only makes it more challenging. By following the ex etiquette I’ve outlined above, you accelerate your healing heart and guarantee a happier ending in your future.
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