Think your breakup was bad? Curl up with your fellow breakup survivors to find out how other people got the boot…

Submitted by on April 27, 2009 - 7:00 am

“My ex broke up with me while I was out serving jury duty. He wrote me a one page letter and left it on my kitchen table so that I could see it when I got home from court. While I was in court serving jury duty, he was packing his things in his suitcase getting ready to go to the airport to fly from NYC to CA (where he is originally from). Later that afternoon I came home to find this one page letter and an empty apartment. He is such a coward. He never even called me up to at least say sorry. We were in a relationship for over three years! I at least deserve an explanation. What I got was another really long letter via email a day later.”

- Brooke

“I had been in a four year relationship with a guy whom I fell in love with in almost an instant. While I was pregnant with his baby, I found out that he was hiding a serious drug problem from me. I helped him through detox and stuck by him through all of it. About seven months ago he cheated on me and again I forgave him. But in the end I had to break up because he got into harder drugs and I couldn’t have my baby being around all that. I am trying to get over this and be strong but the truth is, no matter how you break up or what it is over it still hurts!”

- Cherry

“Mr. Ex and I dated for almost a year and everything was great! We did everything together and had so much fun. He would shower me with beautiful gifts and I fell deeply in love with him. Then just last month we went to Vegas for vacation. We had the best time! But when we got back, he told me he wanted to explore his options and date other people. I cried for three weeks straight.”

- Carla

“When he can’t tell you everything, when he keeps his phone calls, emails and chats “too private,” when you have that gut feeling in your stomach that something’s not right – more often than not you are right! Trust issues are the worst obstacles. I should know! If you don’t trust your partner, you’ll find yourself too tired of playing Private Investigator all the time. End it while you still have your dignity intact. It’s hard but it’s the only way.”

- Lydia

“I was engaged to be married in September 2008. We were together 5 years. Everything for the wedding was done and we had bought a house. He has a daughter from a previous relationship who I helped raise from the time she was 7. In March 2009, 2 weeks before my shower, he decided that he didn’t think it was going to work. He just called the whole thing off. Five months after what would have been our wedding day, he married another woman and had a baby six months later. As much as I hurt, I now realize how lucky I am. Marrying that liar would have been my biggest mistake.”

- Jasmine

1 Comment»

  • Owen says:
    April 27, 2009 at 11:50 am

    How do you leave someone you love? Love was never an issue in our relationship; our connection was strong which was due in no small way to her unbelievable capacity to love.

    I didn’t sleep for almost a week before I ended our relationship. I had never done this before I had always been on the other end… quite frankly I would have preferred to have been on the other end. Woody Allen once said it is always easier to be the one doing the dumping and not the dumped because at worse all you have is some survivor guilt while the other is stuck with the question of why. I don’t think he was right. I left her and I feel guilt, pain, sorrow, and I am still troubled with the question of why.

    Why… why would I walk away from someone who loved me and was patient with despite all of my flaws? Why would I leave one of the most beautiful women I have ever been in a relationship? Why would I walk away from two and half years? Why did I feel like we just didn’t connect? Why can’t I stop thinking about it?!?

    In the final few months of our relationship I wasn’t happy. She would see I was unhappy and would ask if I was upset about our relationship… I would lie… I couldn’t tell her the truth and tell her what I was thinking. I wanted so much to return to the way it was before and I thought that if I just lied maybe we would find our way back. I tried to tell myself that I lied to protect her but the reality is that I lied to protect myself.

    Something was missing from our relationship… I know that leaving was the right thing to do because staying together wasn’t an option….

    But if I did the right thing than why does it still hurt so badly?

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