Online Exorcism: How to remove your ex from your cyber life

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on April 23, 2009 - 7:00 am

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Removing your ex from your online life may not be an easy thing for you to do, but it’s absolutely essential to your happily ever after future. Even if you just start the process today, that’s a step in the right direction. That’s all I ask. The more you do, the better. But if baby steps are necessary, then baby steps it is. And if you need moral support, recruit a friend to sit down with you at the computer and go step-by-step through the process together.

Depending on how intertwined you and your ex’s online lives were, you may or may not need to take every step in the following exorcism. However, I’ve tried to be as thorough as possible. If something doesn’t apply to your situation, skip it and move on.

Step #1: Remove your ex from your friends list on all of your social networking sites

The best way to start your online exorcism is to sign into all of the social networking sites you use (MySpace, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) and remove your ex from your friends/contacts lists. The good news is that you don’t even have to tell your ex you’re deleting him. In fact, don’t. It’s none of his business, and since these sites don’t alert someone when you’ve removed them, he won’t know when – or if – you did it.

Step #2: Delete your ex’s email address from your online address book

Next, log into your email and remove your ex’s address from your contacts. I know this may seem harsh, but you don’t need it anymore. Plus, this will help you avoid the tragic setback of emailing him in a weak moment just say hi, telling him you miss him, or trying to set up a booty call. Right here and now, do yourself a huge favor and delete his email address. Today. (Seriously!)

Step #3: Remove your ex from your instant messaging friends list

The next order of business is to extricate your ex from your instant messaging contacts list. Sign into whatever instant messenger program you use (Yahoo, MSN, AOL, Trillian, etc.), right click on your ex’s username, select Delete, and if the option allows, choose Delete from Address Book, too. That way, you don’t have to obsess every time you see your ex online, wondering what he’s up to and/or who he’s instant messaging with.

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