The Importance of Having A Boo-hoo Crew

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on March 14, 2009 - 7:28 am

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To successfully survive and thrive after a breakup, you’ve gotta recruit your Boo-Hoo Crew. Part cheerleader, part therapist, your Boo-Hoo Crew should be reliable, patient, and consist of at least three friends for round-the-clock supervision and support.  

The role of the Boo-Hoo Crew is to provide the following:

• A shoulder to cry on
• A voice of reason
• Damage control (in case you get the urge to contact your ex)
• The bright side 

Tips for assembling the perfect Boo-Hoo CrewNot everyone’s cut out to be a Boo-Hoo Crew member. It’s important to recruit only those friends who are up to the challenge. While assembling your crew, keep the following considerations in mind: 

• Include only those friends who are loving and supportive.
• Exclude any so-called friends who might say things like “I told you so,” brag about their own relationship, or ask if they can call your ex (in fact, dump these “friends” immediately!).
• Do not include any mutual friends who might report back to your ex on your progress (and/or dish about your setbacks).

 

The Boo-Hoo Crew code of honorDuring your slump, your Boo-Hoo Crew should be available 24/7. It may sound like a tremendous commitment, but that’s what friends are for. You’d do it for them (if you haven’t already). And let’s face it: There are times in life when you have to sleep in shifts. This just happens to be one of those times. 

There are also going to be times when you’ll obsess about your ex, times when you’ll want your ex back, and times when all you can think about is picking up the phone and calling your ex. These are the times when you should rely on your Boo-Hoo Crew for support. You’ll want to choose friends who know you well enough to know when you need comfort versus when you need a kick in the pants. Friends who can remind you of the nitpicky negative things you once said about your ex that you’re going to forget when you’re wishing you two were still together. Your Boo-Hoo Crew should always know (and be able to remind you) why your ex wasn’t good for you then, and why he’s definitely not worth pining over now.

When we’re in post-breakup mode, some of us have trouble reaching out to others. We think asking for help is a sign of weakness, but it’s not. It’s a show of strength. So go out there and recruit the best Boo-Hoo Crew ever! (Right now.) And if you need additional help, enlist in my 8 Week Breakup Boot Camp or contact me about private coaching.

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