Deleting the Ex

Submitted by LJMaggie on February 25, 2009 - 7:14 am

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Frequent Contributor LJ Maggie contemplates staying connected to her exes…

One of the number one rules Lisa talks about when getting over a breakup is “Deleting the Ex”. It is hard to do because you want to know what that person is up to, if he/she is thinking about you, and if there is possibility for reconciliation. Recently I have been trying to erase other exes from my life. One is still one of my friends, another one I don’t really talk to a lot but like to catch up with him from time to time.

For me after my big breakup in 2007 it was very hard for me to delete The Ex. He had cheated on me and I was always wondering what the other woman had that I didn’t. What made her special and what did I do to push him into the arms of someone else. So I didn’t delete him from yahoo messenger or my phone. Anytime I saw him online, I saw that she was as well. I would wonder what they were talking about and what they were planning. I was hoping one day he would contact me and want to go out again. Soon we were talking online again, catching up on what the other was doing. It was good to talk to him and he was being nice. Something that shocked me and gave me hope for us getting back together.

Soon we were talking on the phone and meeting up. We had met up twice. Once to get ice cream and the other time he came over to my apartment. After our breakup when I was in bed, I could almost feel his arms around me like they had been so many times before. This particular morning when he came over, feeling him next to me felt so good, even better then it had before. After he left he called and said how good it was to see me again and we even made plans to go on a date in a couple of days. Except he flaked on those plans just like he did many times before when we were dating. That is when I knew he hadn’t changed and if I continued talking to him, I would go through the same pain again. I didn’t want that, so after that I deleted him from my yahoo and phone. I no longer wondered what he was up to or who he was talking to. I didn’t care anymore. It felt good to erase him completely from my life. Yes it might be hard to delete The Ex but it is very essentially in getting over the relationship.