Breakup Replay, PLUS 3 great ways to heal your heart!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 26, 2009 - 7:47 am
Were you on tonight’s call? I shared 7 valuable tools for healing and moving on following your breakup. You can implement at least 3 of them today!
I also shared 3 amazing ways to coach with me during your recovery, regardless of your budget, starting at just 9.97!
You can listen to the replay here.
Need breakup support on a budget? Click here to join my Boohoo to Woohoo ongoing teleseries for just $9.97 for the first month.
Ready for REAL results in record time? You need to enlist in my 8 Week Breakup Boot Camp!
Want to work with me privately? On the call, I mention a super crazy coupon code, knocking $750 off private coaching with me, making it insanely affordable to work with me one on one. If you’re ready for real results, act fast by going here.
And enter one of two coupon codes during checkout…
If you want to pay just $1500 for 14 private coaching sessions with me, enter this code during checkout:
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Regardless of your budget, you CAN heal and move on from the pain of your past into your blissful future.
But act fast. I’m only taking on a handful of new private clients (just 5 to be exact!) and Boot Camp is filling up fast. Let’s get started!
“How do I survive an avalanche breakup?”
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 22, 2009 - 7:59 am
Forbsey writes: My girlfriend of 3 years recently broke up with me. She was my first love, I had been in love with her for a good 6 years as we were best friends at school though she never saw me that way. I helped her through her first serious breakup and 3 months later she realised she wanted me. We have been through alot, a miscarriage, her ex boyfriend always being around trying to get her back but through all of it we stayed strong and loved each other. No cheating ever happened and we had it all. Suddenly she said that she wants to be with me forever but not for now and maybe in a year we will get back. It was so sudden!! I cry all the time and it’s been a month already.
Lisa writes: Avalanche breakups are especially tough because we just don’t see them coming! If you’re still shaking your head and wondering why?, chances are your breakup was an avalanche. And it’s no wonder you sometimes feel like you can’t breathe. You’ve just been emotionally buried! In the case of an avalanche breakup, you may also be feeling betrayed, irrational, devastated, angry.
To add insult to injury, your ex has left the door open for the possibility of a future relationship. Typically, when someone tells us they want to be with us, just not right now, it’s their way of trying to let us down easily. But the truth is, it leaves us hanging because we’re expecting a future with them. It gives us no closure, and no ability to move on.
You deserve to move on! But it’s up to you. Take it day by day. Avoid contact with your ex. And remind yourself that you deserve healthy and happy love in your life. If your ex can’t give it to you, someone else eventually will. But you first have to heal your broken heart and ready yourself for a whole relationship.
If you don’t have a Boo-Hoo Crew, get one. Or join the message board and share your story with other breakup survivors. It’s so important to have a support system right now!
Give it time. It will get easier. And in the meantime, celebrate your slump. It’s okay to cry, mourn, grieve. You’ll know when you’re done celebrating your slump. But for now, embrace the slump!
Good luck and happy healing!
Are you cyberstalking your ex?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 21, 2009 - 6:40 am
Be honest – are you cyberstalking your ex? Are you lurking on his MySpace and Facebook pages, seeing who his new top friends are what flirty messages he’s exchanging with that cute girl you don’t recognize? Stop it right now.
It may sound harsh, but for the time being you need to stay very far away from your ex.
Why?
We all know how easy it is to secretly cyberstalk someone without them knowing. You may even think it’s harmless, but it’s actually detrimental to your recovery. It’s all too easy to obsess about who’s leaving them flirty comments, who’s posing with them in the new photos they’ve posted, or who they’re chatting with online.
The best way to heal and move on after a breakup is to create distance between yourself and your ex, starting with your online life. If you don’t think you have the strength to do it, recruit one of your Boo-Hoo Crew to sit with you at your computer and step-by-step delete your ex from your online life. You’ll thank them later!
Once you’ve accomplished this, give yourself a gold star. You’re one step closer to breakup recovery.
Good luck and happy healing!
TONIGHT! Luscious Life Coach Lois Barth on Rock Your Love Life
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 18, 2009 - 8:47 am
Tonight’s Rock Your Love Life call with guest expert and luscious life coach Lois Barth will take place at 7pm, NOT 6:30 as previously advertised.
Click the Play button below to hear a preview of what Lois will share with us.
Chat soon!
02/19/09: Rock Your Love Life Guest Expert Lois Barth
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 15, 2009 - 8:14 pm
Calling all Rock Your Love Life in 2009 participants! Mark your calendar. This Wednesday, guest expert and luscious life coach Lois Barth will share her vision of how to transform your life from caterpillar to butterfly. It’s going to be an awesome call!
Click the Play button below to hear a preview of what Lois will share with us.
And mark your calendar for Wednesday, February 19 @ 6:30 pm Pacific. Dial in deets are posted on the message board.
Chat soon!
Valentine’s Day for the Single Gal: 6 Sweet Celebrations
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 14, 2009 - 8:13 am
Nevermind not having a date on Valentine’s Day–there are plenty of things to do with your best gal pals. So call them up and get ready to have one of the best Valentine’s Days ever! Here’s how…
Valentine’s Day may be for lovers, but this year, February 14th is also for those who are single and ready to mingle! It’s time to defy Cupid and indulge in some sassy solo pursuits. That’s right, we’ve got seven sweet celebration ideas that’ll have you and your single gal pals having a ball on February 14th. Let the party begin!
Single Gal Celebration #1: Spa Night
Ask your friends to join you for a posh, pleasure-loving spa party. Bring in a manicurist and masseuse (no worries if money’s tight, just check out the local beauty school’s students-for-hire), and spoil yourselves silly. Add a touch of Valentine love with a chocolate facial. Tell your guests to bring comfy robes and slippers and you’ll provide an array of appetizers, rockin’ music, and scented candles for awesome ambiance. Your gal pals will feel pampered and pleased as they bask in this girl-tastic gathering.
Single Gal Celebration #2: Movie Marathon
If you’re single with no prospects in sight, who says you still can’t be with the man of your dreams? Whether it’s Hugh Jackman, George Clooney, or Brad Pitt, indulge your fantasies by spending the night with your fave film star. Movie munchie of choice? Chocolate kisses, of course! By treating yourself to a movie marathon of endless eye candy, your Valentine’s date is just a Play button away!
Click here to read the full article on eHarmony.
The Savvy Single’s Guide to A Great Valentine’s Day
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 6:20 am
For many singles, February 14th instills fear, dread, and the pressure to find someone, anyone, to partner up with. But this Valentine’s Day, The Breakup Chronicles encourages single people everywhere to give thanks for the ones who got away. The following are some do’s and don’ts for getting thru the Valentine’s Day blues:
Do: Give thanks for the ones who got away
In addition to celebrating the love in your life, give thanks for the ones who are no longer here. Even if you have yet to meet the love of your life, in letting go of those old relationships you have given yourself permission to be your most fabulous self. And in doing so, you’re bound to meet someone who’s better suited for you.
Don’t: Feel sorry for yourself if you don’t have an S.O.
Pity parties are SO last year. This is the year of you, fabulous you! If you happen to be single, celebrate. Remember – even though it may sometimes feel like it, being single is not terminal. It’s terrific! But it’s up to you to make the most of it. And you do that by being your most authentic and amazing self. And being open to the endless possibilities.
Do: Celebrate the love in your life
Whether it’s romantic love, true friendships, that unshakable bond between you and your pets, or the love you have for your family, this Valentine’s Day it’s important to take a look around and realize just how lucky you are. Maybe Mr. or Ms. Right hasn’t found you yet. But you know what? You are loved. When you celebrate that, it shows. (And you never know who might be watching and falling for you!)
Don’t: Buy generic candy or flowers
You don’t have to have a significant other to celebrate on February 14th. But you do need to use your imagination. Instead of recruiting your girlfriends to pay for an overpriced standard menu at a fancy restaurant or sending each other generic candy or flowers, get creative! Invite your gal pals over for a potluck and cocktails. Or go out for a night of disco bowling! Or if you feel like being alone, rent a favorite non-romantic movie and watch it in your pajamas while eating greasy Chinese takeout. And give thanks that Mr. Wrong isn’t there to Bogart the spring rolls!
Do: Flirt with strangers
Just like every other day of the year, flirting is a must! You never know what can happen. An innocent flirtation can boost your ego, brighten your day, and/or possibly turn into a coffee date that may lead to a budding romance. Come on – take a chance!
Don’t: Spend your night online
We have 364 other perfectly acceptable days and nights to find a date or chat with other savvy singles online. On Valentine’s Day, take the night off. Trust that if there’s somebody out there in cyberspace for you, they’ll be there on February 15th. And 16th. And so on.
Do: Give to charity
Instead of buying meaningless gifts for friends or loved ones this Valentine’s Day, why not give the gift of charity? Find a cause close to your heart. Doing something good for others will take the focus off of the Hallmark holiday and boost your single spirit for sure!
Don’t: Put too much stock in one day
And one last tip. Remember that Valentine’s Day is but once a year. It does not define. Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you’ll never find love or have a successful relationship (it only takes one!). Today more than ever, it’s important to maintain perspective.
5 Tips for Keeping an Open Mind (and Heart) When Dating
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 12, 2009 - 8:19 am
Be honest — when was the last time you dated with an open mind and heart? Think back to all the dates you went on last year. Was your mind open to each potential candidate’s good qualities, or did you run for the hills at the first sign of trouble (scuffed shoes, a nervous smile, spinach in their teeth, etc.)?
If you’re like most singles, you have a specific dating check list with very little wiggle room. But here’s the thing — if you haven’t been in a relationship longer than a month in the last few years, maybe it’s not them. Maybe it’s, gulp, you!
Don’t despair if that statement rings true. If you’re serious about seeking your soul mate (or at least enjoying better dating results) in 2009, the following five dating tips will help you open your mind so that you may just open your heart in the coming year.
Dating Tip #1: Speak your Truth
If you want to increase your possibility of finding a rock solid partner, you must first become rock solid yourself. This means opening your heart and speaking your truth when dating. Instead of being on your best behavior and hiding the real you, share your likes, dislikes, and needs with potential partners.
By being true to yourself, you give the person sitting across from you the opportunity to date the real you and decide if that’s someone they’d like to keep seeing. If you say what you mean and mean what you say in 2009, you will enjoy amazing dating results and be well on your way towards your happily ever after future.
Click here to read the full article on eHarmony.com.
Single Again, Now What? Radio Show Replay
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 10, 2009 - 12:56 pm
I had the pleasure of being on Single Again, Now What? Blog Talk Radio Show last week. You can listen to the replay here:
5 Surefire Breakup Recovery Strategies
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on February 9, 2009 - 7:23 pm
Last week, Mr. XY and I headed up to San Francisco where I appeared on View From The Bay. While on the show, I shared 5 surefire breakup recovery strategies. They were:
Tip #1: EXtract Your Ex from Your Life
Tip #2: Recruit a Boo-Hoo Crew
Tip #3: Forgive yourself
Tip #4: Put your Focus Elsewhere
Tip #5: Redefine Happily Ever After
To watch my segment, go here.
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