Holiday Breakup Etiquette

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on November 26, 2008 - 7:25 am

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Contemplating a breakup this holiday season? You better do it soon. According to breakup etiquette experts, myself included, breaking up during the holidays is a risky proposition. Nobody wants to get dumped with the smell of turkey roasting in the oven (Thanksgiving will be ruined forever). Or get the ax at 30,000 feet on the way to see the in-laws for gift giving and tree trimming (and now ex-bashing). But then again, spending yet another holiday season under the mistletoe with that sloppy kisser you’re just not in love with anymore can be a real drag.

If you’re seriously contemplating a breakup, the time is now. Yes, you’re breaking someone’s heart, and that’s never easy. But if you know in your heart of hearts that this relationship just isn’t going to last, you need to do yourself and your soon-to-be ex a favor and breakup before the holidays. You’ll save each other both a lot of time, money, and tears. (Plus, think of the cash you’ll save by not buying that plane ticket to see the in-laws, or that expensive sweater she’s been eyeing/the new gadget he’s been hinting about, etc.).

But remember. Breaking up is hard to do. So be nice about it. Be honest. And don’t prolong the inevitable. But don’t succumb to guilt and/or tears either. You’ve made up your mind. Be strong, firm, kind. Always keep in mind that breakup karma is a bitch, and what goes around comes around. The better you are at breaking up, the easier your future breakups will be, regardless of whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee.

When in doubt, ask your Boo Hoo Crew for help. Or consult other breakup survivors on The Breakup Chronicles message board. After all, ‘tis the season to be jolly. And ending the wrong relationship at the right time just may be the best gift you give and/or get this holiday season, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time. By New Year’s Eve, chances are you’ll both be giving thanks.

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