Dating Tip of the Week: Rock the vote!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 30, 2008 - 8:20 am
Calling all savvy singles! Want to rock your dating life? Get involved in the upcoming election and/or a political cause near and dear to your heart. You never know who you might meet…
Good luck and happy dating!
Rock Your Dating Life This Election Season
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 8:20 am
With the presidential election just around the corner (and the massive media spin machine in high gear), it’s almost impossible to think about anything else. In fact, dating just might be the LAST thing on your mind these days. But did you know that, election season is a terrific time to rock your dating life?
Instead of putting your romantic pursuits on hold during the next few weeks, use the election as the ultimate target-rich environment. To help get you started, the following are five fantastic ways you can get involved and meet like-minded individuals this election season:
Volunteer your Time
It’s not too late to volunteer your time for a political cause you care about. In fact, your party would probably appreciate your support right about now. So go ahead and volunteer your time to make phone calls, register voters, or talk to people on the street about your candidate. In the process, you’ll not only meet like-minded, politically passionate individuals, but you’ll also have fun and possibly make a difference in what may just be the most important election of your savvy single life. If you happen to meet a cutie who’s single AND shares your political views? Make eye contact, smile, and flirt a little, if you feel like it!
Click here to read the full article on eHarmony.com.
Do you have a history of dating disasters, drama, and disappointment?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 29, 2008 - 7:44 am
Do you have a history of dating disasters, drama, and disappointment? While you may have chosen inappropriate partners in the past, the one surefire commonality is this: Y-O-U
Don’t beat yourself up over your past. Instead, honor those experiences, apply necessary lessons learned, and start holding yourself accountable. Let me give you some examples:
• If in the past you thought love had to be difficult, painful, and/or hard, you may have gravitated towards relationships that matched your belief system. As a result, you probably found yourself involved with someone who was combative, dismissive, demeaning, and/or withdrawn.
• If for some reason in the past you thought that you were undeserving of love, chances are you gravitated towards relationships that lacked love. For instance, maybe you got involved with an addict or a workaholic. You may have even found yourself “the other man/woman.†These are scenarios where you would definitely feel unloved.
• If you felt unattractive and unhappy with your physical appearance in the past, you might have gravitated towards partners with commitment issues or who were perfectionists and constantly picked at your self-esteem. Or, you may have chosen to get in a relationship with someone who was not your equal because you thought they were all you “could get.â€
• If you’ve ever held onto the notion that a partner would fix whatever you didn’t like about yourself, did you find yourself in past relationships choosing partners based on their external worth rather than their personality and character?
These are just some of the ways your limiting relationship beliefs may have contributed to unsatisfying and unhealthy relationships in the past. Sound familiar? If so, congrats! One of the first steps on the road to breaking free of limiting relationship beliefs and bad love habits is to perform an autopsy on your past relationships, learn some lessons, and ultimately hold yourself accountable.
Ready to say Bad Love No More!? Click here.
Breakup Tip of the Week: This Halloween, forget your ex!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 25, 2008 - 8:26 am
Want to rock your breakup recovery? Put down the candy, get out of the house, and have fun this Halloween…
Good luck and happy healing!
Dating Tip of the Week: Reinvent yourself for Halloween!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 23, 2008 - 8:20 am
Halloween is the perfect time to rock your dating life! How? By mastering the art of reinvention…
Good luck and happy dating!
Do you settle for less than you deserve?
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 7:36 am
Do you regularly find yourself settling for less than you deserve in the dating/relationship department because you think it’s all you can get? Are you convinced there are no good single people left? Ladies, are you obsessed with your biological clock and believe that time is running out on your chance to get married and/or have a baby?
If so, then you may suffer from the Scarcity Trap.
Recently, I blogged about 5 common dating traps. The Scarcity Trap is the sixth trap.
The Scarcity Trap thrives on fear. Its very existence relies on your insecurities about age, marriage, babies, and the notorious biological clock. The Scarcity Trap convinces you there is a limited supply of decent men and/or women in the world and you better just take what you can get while the gettin’s good.
Well guess what? I’m here to tell you it’s just not true. I’m here to liberate you from your Scarcity Trap and tell you that time is not running out on your chance for happiness, nor have all the good ones been snatched up, leaving nothing but losers for you and the other singles to fight over.
Truth: The notion that single men or women are scarce is just preposterous. There is no need to settle. There is only a need to tweak your thinking, break free of the Scarcity Trap, and welcome real and authentic love into your life. You can do this by breaking free of your bad love habits and limiting relationship beliefs. Let me show you how!
And P.S. – Men and women get married and have children well into their 40s and even 50s. Plus, adoption and surrogacy are realistic alternatives to pregnancy for women, should you want to have a child after your childbearing years wane.
Breakup Stage #5: Acceptance
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 22, 2008 - 8:22 am
Check out this series of videos chronicling the five stages of breakup recovery. The fifth and final stage — acceptance.
To start playing the video, double click on the screen below. If you get an error message, you can view the clip here on YouTube.
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Video production and editing courtesy of Post Haste Media
The Best of The Breakup Chronicles
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 21, 2008 - 8:01 am
We all know breaking up sucks. But what we sometimes forget is that breakups can also be freeing and fabulous! They allow us to learn and grow and eventually move on with our lives. Here are some of my favorite excerpts from The Breakup Chronicles…
“I never liked roller coasters. The slow panic-inducing ascent followed by the fast, seemingly out-of-control descent repeated over and over until the ride finally ends. It usually leaves me with a big headache and a queasy stomach. Then I met Mr. Ex…â€
– A Roller Coaster Romance
“The day I learned I was a dumbs*** was the same day that Ms. Ex and I almost got matching tattoos. This was our attempt to re-ignite, for all the wrong reasons, a fizzled romance that had ended two years prior.â€
– It’s The Shoes, Dumbs***
“Ex-boyfriends are like black tar heroin. You can’t have just a little.â€
– Kicking the Habit
“Something in me had changed. What had once seemed safe and controllable now felt stale and tiresome. I was bored with ‘yours and mine’ and I wanted to get to the business of ‘us.’ I was ready to share my life with someone. I was ready to grow up.â€
– Thirty-six and Single. Again.
“On occasion, when I feel melancholy about oh-so-many short-term relationships, I mentally list things I learned to appreciate as a result of dating around: jazz, snowshoeing, hiking, Gilbert and Sullivan, art gallery openings, cowboy poetry, drumming, various musical artists, and (mmmmm) massage techniques. My life is richer and spicier thanks to the variety.â€
– The Gift of Many Breakups
“A jet black Harley-Davidson bandanna hangs on my bedroom wall to serve as a reminder of my triumph. Never again, will I wait for the telephone to ring so that Mr. Ex can apologize for hitting me the night before.â€
– Heart Of Glass
“I knew early into the relationship that he was an addict. Although in his circle, they called themselves collectors. Addict, collector, fanatic. Call it what you will. But in my book, anyone who camps outside overnight to see a movie needs help.â€
– The Force Wasn’t With Us
“On the national spectrum of good-looking men, Mr. Ex would probably fall in at about a five. On this remote resort’s spectrum of good-looking men, Mr. Ex leaped to a whopping nine. He had all his teeth, a full head of hair, some rippling muscles, and the flirty confidence of Tom Cruise.â€
– Happily Ever After
Breakup Stage #4: Sadness
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 20, 2008 - 8:24 am
Check out this series of videos chronicling the five stages of breakup recovery. The fourth stage — sadness.
To start playing the video, double click on the screen below. If you get an error message, you can view the clip here on YouTube.
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To view video of the fifth and final stage, click here.
Video production and editing courtesy of Post Haste Media
Breakup Stage #3: Bargaining
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on October 18, 2008 - 8:26 am
Check out this series of videos chronicling the five stages of breakup recovery. The third stage — bargaining.
To start playing the video, double click on the screen below. If you get an error message, you can view the clip here on YouTube.
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To view video of the fourth stage, click here.
Video production and editing courtesy of Post Haste Media
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