Multidating and The Bachelorette

Submitted by LJMaggie on July 6, 2008 - 5:59 pm

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Contributor LJMaggie ponders the pros and cons of multi-dating in front of millions…

Tonight I was watching the recap of The Bachelorette: The Men Tell All. I will admit I am a bit of a reality junkie. Last season I watched The Bachelor as he didn’t choose either woman. So naturally I got hooked into this season of The Bachelorette to see the type of person DeAnna (one of the girls The Bachelor didn’t choose) would pick in the end. It has also been a long time since ABC has had a Bachelorette. It got me thinking about how lucky this girl is to date that many men at once in hopes to weed out the bad seeds from the good ones. Granted she is doing it in front of millions of viewers each week but she is taking full advantage of multi dating. What if all of us could be like the Bachelorette, date 25 guys at once and each week have our own rose ceremony? These guys would go into the situation knowing exactly what was involved. They would know going in, this wonderful woman they want to win over is also dating others. Would the guys still play games in order to win that girl over? Would they forget to call when they say they would? Would they go out of their way to plan the perfect date? Would they tell that woman exactly how they felt?

And what if we were that woman? Would we stay guarded with our feelings?  Would we still bring in experiences from past relationships? Would we be able to have separate relationships with all of them? Would we be able to narrow it down to just one? And if we were able to pick one, how would we know it was the right one in a few short months?

Men multi date all of the time, sometimes without us women knowing about it. We as women have a little bit harder time with it, as we are a bit more emotional than the men. I give DeAnna props for multi dating on national television. I am writing this the Saturday before the season finale when we find out who she picks. My personal pick for her is Jason, the single dad. What can I say I have a soft side for single dads. Like DeAnna said when she saw Jason with his son, “It just made my heart melt.”