Dating Tip of the Week: Make yourself market ready
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 27, 2008 - 7:55 am
Ready to get back out there? First, make yourself market ready…
Good luck and happy dating!
Can I get a Woohoo!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 24, 2008 - 9:30 pm
You heard it here first…I just finished Book #2, The Breakup Workbook!!!! Now I’m off to celebrate with wine, pizza, and toddlers(?). One of these things is not like the others…
Demystifying the Single Woman
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 23, 2008 - 7:38 am
This one’s for the guys…
Ever wonder what goes on inside the single woman’s mind when it comes to dating? It’s not as dark, mysterious, or scary as you might think. In fact, by getting to know what and how we think, you may just discover a thing or two that’ll make trying to date us easier. Then again…
We’re not all about looks, so you shouldn’t be either
While we appreciate the aesthetics of six-pack abs, bulging biceps, and a great butt, you don’t have to have them for us to consider you a catch. But just as we’re willing to accept your beer belly and/or back hair, you should accept us as we are. And even though we don’t look like Angelina Jolie, when you compliment us on our curves, calves, or killer smile, we kinda feel like her. (Hint — that would make you Brad Pitt, and most of us would do a whole lot to Brad in the bedroom. Bring on the compliments!)
We like it when you make the first move (but if you don’t, we might)
Click here to read the full article on eHarmony.com
Dating Tip of the Week: Check Your Emo Baggage
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 22, 2008 - 7:30 am
Want to improve your chances of dating success? Check that emotional baggage…
Good luck and happy dating!
No scheduled webinars, but lots of replays!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on - 7:21 am
My New Zealand trip has been extended so no teleseminars/webinars for now. But stay tuned – they’re coming back in August-September! In the meantime, there are plenty of webcast replays available to listen and learn from. Check ‘em out:
How to Become Relationship Ready
How to Break Free of Bad Love Habits
26 Secrets Successful Singles Know
How to Keep your Breakup from Becoming a Breakdown
Enjoy!
The Do’s and Don’ts of Dealing with Your Ex
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 20, 2008 - 7:34 am
Woohoo! eHarmony continues publishing my articles. Here’s one on dealing with your ex…
Everyone knows breaking up is hard to do. But staying in contact with your ex following a breakup? That’s where things get really tricky. By remaining in each other’s lives, you run the risk of a post-breakup rendezvous, holding onto feelings for your ex, and in general delaying your ability to heal and move on quickly (and without additional heartache). The following are some tips to help you avoid a post-breakup backslide into your ex’s arms, and instead ease you into your happily ever after future:
Create new Boundaries
Your best defense after a breakup? Immediately create new boundaries with your ex. That means no phone calls, no e-mails, no texting, and definitely no late-night visits. Your ex is now your ex. That means it’s time to “ex-tricate†him or her from your life.
Read the full article here on eharmony.com.
Breakup Tip of the Week: Find a visual recovery symbol
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 15, 2008 - 8:21 am
In order to heal and move on from your breakup, you’ll want to find a visual symbol of your recovery…
Good luck and happy healing!
The Relationship Journalist on TVNZ’s “Good Morning”
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 13, 2008 - 5:06 pm
Recently, I blogged about appearing on New Zealand’s TVNZ Show “Good Morning.” I’m thrilled to say I will be on again this coming Friday. Here’s my first appearance…
Breakup Tip of the Week: Exorcise your ex
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 8, 2008 - 8:05 am
Want to heal and move on from your breakup? You gotta exorcise your ex!
Good luck and happy healing!
How to Get Back into the Dating Scene after a Breakup
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on July 7, 2008 - 7:00 am
After giving yourself plenty of time to heal following a breakup, getting back into the dating scene may seem overwhelming, intimidating, and/or downright scary. The following tips will help you take the fear out of your dating future and get back in the game:
Debunk the scarcity myth
In the past, have you uttered the phrase “there are no good ones left†or felt like you may have to settle for less than you deserve because all the good ones are taken? If so, you need to debunk the scarcity myth by showing yourself just how many men (or women) there are in your everyday life. Start by making eye contact with one member of the opposite sex who you don’t know every day for a week. You can do this in the elevator in your office building, walking down the street, in the produce department, or at a bar. The following week, make eye contact and smile at at least one member of the opposite sex every day. The third week, make small talk with a least one member of the opposite sex every day. The point of this exercise is to show yourself that there’s actually an abundance of people of the opposite sex in your every day life. They may not always be interested, they may not always be available, but by getting into the practice of noticing and acknowledging them, you’re more likely to spot the ones who ARE interested and available.
Use online dating as practice
There are millions of single people dating online every day. Whether you like the idea of online dating or not, it’s an excellent way to get a lot of practice dates into your life. Why not just try it? At the very least, create an online dating profile, do an online search just to see the singles that are in your area, and then if you feel like it, contact them. See if they’re interested. Meet for coffee or a drink. A first date doesn’t have to be more than an hour. Again, online dating is all about seeing who’s out there, practicing your dating skills, and then deciding if you’d like to see anyone again.
Put yourself in target rich environments regularly
If you want to increase your chances of meeting someone with similar interests, then you’ve got to put yourself in target rich environments at least once a week. What’s a target rich environment? A location where like-minded people congregate in large numbers. For example, if you like live music, art, or culture, instead of just going to see an art, music, or cultural show and running home why not enlist a friend, have dinner at the theater or nearby beforehand, see the show, and then go for drinks afterwards nearby? Chances are good that other theatergoers will be out before and after the show as well. If possible, strike up a conversation about theater and see what happens.
Enlist the help of friends
If you have fellow single friends, then support one another in your dating pursuits by hanging out in target rich environments at least once a week. If your friends are married, let them know you’re interested in getting back out on the dating scene. They may have a single friend, coworker, or acquaintance that they could introduce you to. You won’t know until you ask.
Ultimately, the key to getting back out on the dating scene after a break is to relax, have fun, and not take it too seriously. Good luck and happy dating!
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