Become a Breakup Chronicles Contributor!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 4, 2008 - 12:20 pm
In 2008, The Breakup Chronicles blog welcomes sites contributors. Now, instead of emailing your stories to the site, you can create an account and submit your own stories. You can even create an account profile so that your blog posts will feature a brief bio at the bottom of your posts (see mine below).
Please note: In order to maintain the site’s editorial standards, your submissions will need to be approved before they are posted. For this reason, you may not see your story posted immediately following submission.
When submitting content to BreakupChronicles.com, please note the following editorial guidelines:
• As a contributor, you may use your real name in your submission. However, never use anyone else’s real name, including your ex. Instead, you may refer to them as Mr. or Ms. Ex, my ex, etc.
• If your submission includes abusive, off-topic, or excessive foul language, we reserve the right not to post it at all
• we do not accept racist, sexist, homophobic and other slurs
• Solicitations and/or advertising for personal blogs and websites is not allowed, unless prior editorial approval has been granted
• Submissions with the explicit intention of provoking other commenters or the staff at BreakupChronicles.com will be deleted
Want to contribute content to BreakupChronicles.com? Here’s how:
1. First, create at an account here.
2. Next, we’ll send a password to your email addy.
3. Once you get your password, you can log into the site and submit material. You are now a contributor!
Please note: As a contributor, before your submission can appear on the site it must first be approved by our editorial staff.
The Breakup Chronicles is looking for featured authors!
Do you have an appropriate expertise you’d like to share with The Breakup Chronicles? We’re looking for featured authors! For more deets, email Lisa@BreakupChronicles.com.
Let Yahoo! Personals help you heal your broken heart
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 3, 2008 - 6:30 am
Recently, I was contacted by Yahoo! Personals to contribute content to their annual breakup survival guide. Of course, I was more than happy to oblige as Yahoo! puts together a great selection of valuable resources every January in honor of the most popular month for breakups and divorce. The content is now live and includes advice from some of my fellow relationship professionals including Julia Allison, Andrea Syrtash, and Elina Furman. Here’s a preview of the featured articles:
The Breakup Test: 5 Questions to Ask Before Giving ‘Em the Boot
Dropping Pounds Along With an Ex
Heartbreaker 101: How to Heal and Move On After Breaking Someone’s Heart
5 Don’ts Of Dumping: How to Improve Your Breakup Karma
10 Signs That He’s Not the One for You
Enjoy!
Breaking up really is hard on the heart!
Submitted by Lisa Steadman on January 2, 2008 - 10:49 am
Studies show that January is the most common month for breakups and divorces. Now it appears that in addition to all the emotional pain a breakup may cause, it can also wreak havoc on your physical health — if you’re not careful. Case in point: Sir Paul McCartney recently underwent heart bypass surgery. Many blame his 18 month bitter divorce battle with Heather Mills for his current heart problems. And maybe they’re right. After all, the stress of going through a breakup, battling with your ex, and in general feeling stuck in the past without the freedom to heal and move on can take its emotional and physical toll.
And it’s not just adults who feel the emotional and physical fallout from a breakup. A recent Swedish study discovered that children of divorce are more likely to develop diabetes. According to the study, “Stressed babies have higher levels of antibodies in their blood that can trigger a process called auto-immunity, where the immune system starts to destroy insulin-producing cells. The researchers found that the risk of auto-immunity for toddlers whose parents have divorced was three times higher than in other children.”
So how do you avoid taking on physical ailments after the breakup? The following are five tips to help ease the pain and speed the emotional and physical healing process:
1. Incorporate healthy new habits into your post-breakup routine
During the grieving process, in addition to the crying, emotional eating, and burying your head under the covers, you should also engage in healthy activities like starting a new exercise routine that you love, taking a relaxing bubble bath at night before bed, and eating foods that are nutritious and delicious (along with all that chocolate!).
2. Keep a journal
To ensure you don’t let your pent-up pain affect your physical well-being, you should keep a breakup journal. Let your feelings out that! By writing down how you feel, you release it. And that’s much better than letting it fester inside.
3. Get a support system
I know I say this all the time, but a support system is crucial to your recovery. Your Boo-Hoo Crew can help you avoid the negative physical effects of your breakup by acting as a shoulder to cry on, helping to cheer you up, and in general getting your mind off your ex. If you don’t have circle of friends you trust to help you through your breakup, you find support online via The Breakup Chronicles message board or any other breakup community.
4. Practice the power of positive thinking
If you have trouble thinking happy thoughts following your breakup, you’re not alone. But the power of positive thinking will greatly improve your ability to heal and move on without taking on any unnecessary dis-ease. Try some simple deep breathing exercises while sitting in a quiet location. Or listen to a guided meditation CD. Or read an inspirational book. Do whatever you need to do to start thinking positively.
5. Find healthy and happy ways to fill your free time
After the breakup, chances are you’ve got free time on your hands. Rather than wallow indefinitely, thinking about your ex, find positive ways to fill your free time. Make a list of things that you like to do, and then do them. Take a yoga class, go for a walk on the beach or take a hike, enroll in a cooking class, etc. By finding healthy and happy ways to fill your free time, you’re going to spend less time obsessing about your ex and more time loving your new life. And that’s a guaranteed way to avoid post-breakup illness.
