This Week’s Advice, Part Two

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on September 14, 2007 - 12:15 pm

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Anonymous writes: “So I have been dating this guy on and off for a little over a year now and at the beginning of the summer he started changing and hanging with a new crowd.  Around the same time, he broke up with me.  We’ve been on and off ever since, him breaking up with me and then wanting to get back together. Right now we’re broken up.  My question is should I just leave him alone or keep trying things? Even when we aren’t together we are still spending time together because he wants to work thinks out. But then again, I feel like sometimes he doesn’t want me so that he can go out and drink and do what he wants without me getting mad at him. I feel confused and have no idea whether to move on or not.”

The Relationship Journalist says: No wonder you’re confused!  This guy is giving you the runaround.  But if you’re really honest with yourself, you have to admit that you’re letting him, right?  You could put your foot down the next time he tries to get back together and say no.  It’s your choice.  You can continue to play this seesaw game of on-again off-again, or you can walk away for good and move on to a happier and healthier life.  Here’s a tip — healthy and happy love is not confusing and rarely painful.  The choice is yours.