Life Lessons 101

Submitted by Lisa Steadman on May 18, 2007 - 5:09 pm

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They say hindsight is 20-20. Here’s a recent email I got from a young woman who definitely learned her lessons the hard way but is ready to move on and enjoy her fabulous new life without the wrong guy. Enjoy!

Well, what can I say. At 16 you think you know what love is. I fell for this really great guy (or so I thought). It was all good at the beginning as it usually is and then things just got bad. I wasn’t allowed to go anywhere without him knowing about it. I wasn’t allowed to speak to any of my friends. I had lost everyone that was close to me because I thought he was The One. Two years later, after all the tears and all the fights and all the lies I got enough courage to end it with him. Later, I had found out while he had been keeping me locked away, he was out playing around with my cousin, he was bringing girls home while I was working, he’d go out and pick up girls and tell me he was home. All the lies and deception, wasn’t I a fool?

You would think I learned my lesson but alas I didn’t. I took the fool back. Months and months later and all the drama started again. My cousin was pregnant with his baby. I had girls ringing me and telling that they were going out with him. When I finally got enough courage to leave again, the stalking started. My crazy ex would show up at my doorstep, at my work, at my parents’ work, ringing me constantly, sending me messages. He even came into my house when I wasn’t home and steal stuff.

Four years later, I’m now 20. If I have learned anything from my experience it’s this:

• You can’t help who you fall in love with, it just happens.
• When the bad starts outweighing the good in a relationship, it’s time to get out.
• Nobody has the right to hurt you, yet you have to right to tell them where to go if they try.
• Nobody deserves to be treated any less than what they are worth
• If somebody makes you feel like that, well they just ain’t worth it!
• Whatever you do, don’t hold onto something that isn’t there.
• Time goes on and it does heal all wounds.
• Be strong and believe in yourself.

Do you have lessons learned from breaking up with the wrong person? Share your comments here!